I am 25 years old and my sisters think that I am rude because I have started refusing to answer some of their questions. I cannot do anything, without recieving a phone call from them asking me about it.
They ask me what I had for supper, what am I doing, when did I get up, why am I upset.
I came home from work, upset at my boss yesterday, my sister phoned and I did not answer. 5 minutes later my door bell was ringing, I waited a few minutes and then went to the door to see if she was gone. Her face was planted on my glass door and she was peering inside!?!?!?!?
Am I crazy?? Is this normal???
Why am I rude if I get mad at this behavior.
My sister seems to think that I am going to live a lonely life if I am not willing to accept all of this small talk.
My family is close and I get that, so does that meen that I get to have no private life??
Someone......please........can you relate??
2006-09-06 04:29:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, you're not crazy. That is not normal. Seems to me that your sister is being too nosey. Does she not have her own life to live? Is she too concerned with what you do to do her own thing? You need to tell her to get a life.
2006-09-06 04:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by dolphins_chic_69 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my sister that I need some "down" time when I get home from work, then you call her after dinner an spend exactly 5 minutes with her on the phone. I know it's hard to wind down when you first get home. You might have to tell her to step back a little, and you know she's going to get her feelings hurt. I think SHE is the one who is lonely. So do it in a nice way. If she does catch you on the phone, tell her, "..I've got about 3 minutes to talk then I have to go." Godloveya.
2006-09-06 04:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long ago did you leave home? It sounds like your sister really misses you and is having a hard time dealing with you not being around. At the same time I understand that you need some privacy. Just tell her that you need some time to undwind when you get home from work and that you need to have some sort of privacy.
2006-09-06 04:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All nosy gossippers should be purged from the planet....family or otherwise.
There is no reason to continue on with your family this way. Put your foot down and say you need some space/privacy. Family are just people, you know. If they get on your nerves, put them in their place. And if it becomes like "work" just to be around them (and you don't enjoy it), cut loose for a while.
2006-09-06 04:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by jaike 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes family is a pest but they always have good intentions at heart.
You got your own life and you must let them know that you want to live your life without any interferance from them.
However, you must also understand that they are concern about you. Let them know how you feel. Talk with tehm rationally and tell them that their concern is understandable but you want a bit of space. If it doesn't work, give them a dose of their own medicine. Maybe they'll realize what you feel with their nosiness.
2006-09-06 04:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by etang 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with your family and quietly explain to them that while you appreciate their concern, you do not feel it necessary for you to fill them in on every little detail in your life. Tell them that if anything of earth shattering importance occurs, you will surely let them know. My guess is that your sisters are merely trying to make conversation. Try to direct the conversation away from yourself and towards what is happening in their lives. Reverse the roles and maybe they will begin to see your point of view.
2006-09-06 04:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely, on condition that i'm a youngster I many times anticipate a chuffed birthday from all human beings in my kin :P and that i continuously do. maybe they forgot? or you ought to basically say without postpone-out which you may opt to be wanted a chuffed birthday different than your mom for as quickly as. maybe they're going to take heed to =)
2016-12-18 05:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation clearly stemmed from a vicious circle: your sisters keep on probing and you let them have their way, so they think it's okay.
You probably need to explain to them that you need a bit of room to yourself sometimes. It'll be okay.
2006-09-06 04:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are truly concerned with your well being but not allowing you to have a little space. You need to tell them, you love them and appreciate their concern, but a little respect for you privacy is at hand. If you wanted them to know, you would certainly tell them! Talk to them and they should understand as ADULTS!
2006-09-06 04:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by All 4 JR 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm wondering if maybe your sister misses you.Try talking to her and tell her you love her but need your space.Maybe set aside one day a week to have lunch or see a movie with your sister.Good luck.
2006-09-06 04:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋