2006-09-06 04:07:45 · 20 answers · asked by shirstii bang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As he is engaged you said, if he really said that he loves you, he would be a cheater ... if just you love him from once side, just leave him alone with his girl.
You should be wise now. If you think wrong, you will be abused by others... never that "some one" whom you love.
2006-09-06 04:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by de copil angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off. This isn't your place to break up a marriage or wedding.
Don't use the excuse, "but I love him!" for anything. Think of the possiblities:
1) He does love you! "OMG! That's great!" Yeah, it's not. If he cheated on his wife-to-be, who says he won't cheat on you? If you say he won't, you're wrong. Love isn't going to be the only thing you need in a marriage.
2) He doesn't love you back, and you try to break up the wedding anyway: it will put a bad name on YOU. The trust in you will be gone. You won't be asked to attend many weddings, and it will haunt you. Plus you could have ruined a marriage just by doing that.
Before you act, think about it. How old are you? How old is he? I'm sure he's a great guy and you REALLY love him, but don't break up the engagement because you have feelings for him. And if has feelings for you, run. Run far, far, far away.
2006-09-06 04:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then let him marry the person he made a commitment to. If he liked a girl enough to propose to her and commit his life to her, then that's what love really is, so let them live out their love. This is probably not something that you want to hear. Just picture a girl walking up to your future fiance (while he is engaged to you) and telling him that she loves him even though she fully knows that he is engaged to you and is therefore off the market. She also fully realizes that he has committed his life to you. How would you feel? Furthermore, if you were to talk to this guy and tell him how you really feel, you are hoping that he will leave her and come to you. Well if you think about this properly, you must realize that if he drops her for you it says something about his character, so who is to say that he will not drop you for the next one who passes by? That is not someone you want to be with trust me. There are so many other options out there, trust me you'll find your one true love and he will be waiting just for you. He will not have to be convinced he wants you (which is what this scenario will play out to be if you tell him). He will want you and only you. You will not be his second option choice B (which is what will be if he returns any feelings for you) you will be his number one option! So save your feelings and your love for the one who deserves it.
sidenote for rashi: "now he is married & we r still in touch.we know that we love each other & we will be there for each other if ever the need arises" that is the most MESSED UP thing i have EVER HEARD!!!!!!!!!!!! Girl you need to drop him, NOT be there for him, and find some new guyfriends!
2006-09-06 05:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Missy chandrasekar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shrishti, if u really love him, then i will not suggest you to leave her. Of course, i do not mean that you keep on engaging with a person who is already engaged with someone else. But, both of you can become good friends, who can share their joys and sorrows and in the times of need, help each other.
regards
2006-09-06 22:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by kamal112233in 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, If the guy is already engaged dont go for it!! If u want just frienship then i guess its ok, but if ur loooking for more than just love than find someone else who is free and wants to fall in love not someone who is looking for time pass.. so All the best for ur future love!!
Chrs
Deep
2006-09-06 04:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Deeps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen "My Best Friend's Wedding?" You probably should. If you are really truly in love with this person and this isn't some sort of crush or weird obsession, you have two options:
1) tell him/her how you feel, openly and honestly, and accept whatever comes from that, or
2) you say nothing and let go.
If you're going to say something, you had better do it soon. Otherwise you run the risk of looking like some psycho who is trying to break up a marriage.
2006-09-06 04:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Walk away... because I will tell you now - it'll get you no where! There is someone else out there for you. If this person was meant to be yours he/she would not be engaged and/or he/she will end up divorced down the road and you will find your way to each other. Do not persue this relationship.
2006-09-06 04:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason. If it is meant to be, it will be...if it is not, then it won't. If you're in love with someone who's engaged, then maybe you weren't meant to be with that person. Maybe there's some other person waiting for you in the future, that you're supposed to be with...
2006-09-06 04:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by heather g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone who is engaged with someone else then you should engage yours self with someone else and try to take your attention away from him. Don't forget him but take your attention away from him.
Because if you will not do so it will make your and your friends life harder.
2006-09-06 04:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sudarshan Dagar 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u know i was in the same situation couple of years back.the problem was when i asked him if he would break off his engagement....he said he will but then he wont marry me.he will stay unmarried thu'out his life.he couldnt against his wishes & he didnt want to loose me either.that was if i insisted on him breaking off his eangagement.i said no.now he is married & we r still in touch.we know that we love each other & we will be there for each other if ever the need arises.i found this very loving guy couple of months back.now u r married & very happy.makes no sense in breaking his engagement.its going to be very difficult but i am sure u wont regret in the long run.trust me on that.i have been thru this.
2006-09-06 04:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by rashi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋