What do u do wen you get locked out from ur house cuz u passed ur curfew of 10pm on weekdays wen ur above 21?!

Question

Bare in mind that your door is latched from the inside just because you came back at 11.15pm!!!

Answer 1

- Keep firmly in your mind that your parents love you VERY MUCH. - I've known people who were booted out of the house as soon as they hit 18. You are 21 and still there, so LOVE is not the issue.
- While you are a legal adult at 21, even if you were living in a public hotel, you would still have to obey the house rules.
- You obviously have created some challenge to your parents' authority, or they probably would not have reacted so vehemently. It IS their house, so they have the right to establish AND enforce their rules, just as you will when you have YOUR own house.
- I suggest that you have respectful conversation with them, telling them that
1) you know they love you and that you love them too,
2) acknowledging their authority in their house,
3) stating clearly your sincere intention to respect that authority, then
4) ask if you can negotiate for a later curfew and perhaps a house key.
You will have to demonstrate your sincere respect by obeying their house rules, in other words, prove that you mean what you say and that you can be trusted.
If they remain firm, and you can not comfortably comply, then it really is time to fly - and find your own space.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

It's time to start looking elsewhere for a place of your own. I don't know if your parents are this way, but when I was your age and I was still living at home I had to pay my mother and stepfather rent every month to stay there and be able to go out and do my own thing. When your this age they want you to contribute somehow. Even if your parents aren't this way I still say you need to maybe find a roomate or a really cheap place to have of your own. It takes sacrifice to get out there and be on your own, but atleast it's your own place and you don't have to worry about getting locked out of your house at the age of 21. Your legal enough to get your own beer at this age, you shouldn't be going through this like your still in high school. No matter what you always have to remember that when your living with someone else and it's their house, you have to abide by their rules no matter how crazy and stupid they are. This should be an eye opener for you. You are too old to be having a curfew at 10:00. Just try and do what you can for the moment while your staying there, but if you can try to take another direction in your life where this is concerned. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Get real! Are you REALLY having to ask this question over the internet. Like you said, you are over 21--you KNOW the rules of the game. While you live at home you live by mom and dad's rules. If you choose to disregard those rules, there are logical and natural consequences for your blatant disrespect of your curfew. Maybe they have those rules because you lack the immaturity (apparent by the "u," "ur" and "cuz" language in your question) to sit with them and discuss a moderate extension of your curfew. They probably feel as though there is no legitimate reason in being out past 10:00 p.m, whether it be fearing for your safety-or others safety if YOU drink/drug and drive. Do you work, do you go to school, have you graduated college, do you assist in finances--or just mooch? Again, I ask you, did you REALLY have to ask this question; I think you know the answer to that!

Answer 4

I think you need to speak with your parents about this. If you agreed to the curfew, then abide by it. But if you think it's unreasonable for you to have a curfew, find a gentle way to bring it up and have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents. Ask them why they insist on a curfew. Are they worried about your safety? Maybe you can call them and let them know you're okay. Are they worried you're hanging out with the wrong crowd? You could invite your friends home and let your parents get to know them.

I guess if you show them you're responsible and mature and if you can allay their fears, the curfew will go away and you won't be face with the ugly situation of being locked out of your own home again.

Answer 5

your 21; your parents have no obligation to support you, or give you shelter. You are a "guest" in THEIR home. Either respect their rules, or move out. You have no say in the matter, other than, " I'm sorry!"
I agree; the rule is rather restrictive, but it is THEIR house. Get your own apartment, or room, and you wont have this problem

Answer 6

If you're still living at home at 21 it only means you haven't matured enough to live on your own. It gives you no right to expect your Mom and Dad to change thier rules. Move out on your own if you want to live by your rules. But remember, not all rules you may make may be good or legal..so be sane, sensible, and careful

Answer 7

well if you are older than 21, and a full grown adult, then why is there a curfew in place to begin with?? did you do something wrong, got in trouble with the law, etc...????? if not then it is time for you to spread your wings and fly little birdie, fly. untill then, abide by the house rules. i am sure they are only looking out for YOUR best interest. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Go and find yourself a place of your own .. either wise make sure you are home on time so it doesn't happen again.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 9

Move out if you don't like the rules.

You CHOOSE to live there. You are not the master of the house. I did the same thing. When my parents go to be too much I just moved out.

Answer 10

Crash at a friend's, then move out. Your lifestyle is different than your parents. There are going to be conflicts constantly.
I say, if you know you are going to be out later than their curfew, arrange to crash at a friend's ahead of time. I am sure that is what your parents are thinking when they bar the door.