I'm out for my usual morning run about two weeks ago and see this incredible Dodge Ram truck. Custom grille, sweet paint job, detailed … I'm a chick that is a sucker for nice looking trucks. So the guy sees me looking at him and goes around the block, pulls over and says, "I couldn’t help but notice that you were checking me out". Two other guys are in the truck, all smiles thinking that their friend is going to get some digits.
Without even thinking I say, "Actually, I was checking out your truck" and keep on running. Later in the day I started thinking about that and wondered if I hurt his feelings. Not that it matters, he's some random stranger. Alas, I do see him almost every morning when I am running and most of the time he gives me this little wave. Should I start up some chit chat and apologize or just let it slide and admire that sweet *** Dodge Ram when it drives by?
2006-09-06 03:45:12 · 34 answers · asked by freak369xxx 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Since you asked guys, I will offer my observations.
Some of the other answerers have a good point: from his little waves he gives you, it seems that he wasn't bothered by it. It may have given his buddies a little ammo to tease him with, but they still have to give him that, chick or not, someone was impressed with his big toy. That's an ego boost. Now, if you were single and looking (not that you are from how it sounds), you'd actually have a perfect set-up in that you are the girl that rejected him in front of his friends. There is motivation there equivalent to "the one that got away" or "the unattainable girl". He is motivated (if he's single and looking, also) to somehow succeed where he previously failed. If he was able to go out with you, then to him and his friends he has overcome and made up for his previous failure.
2006-09-06 03:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by jmskinny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have said some key words here which have me thinking. #1 you said "without even thinking" Which tells me, you may feel a slight regret (slight) and you do "see him almost every morning" while out running. Which means he must live or work nearby which is a plus. Well first of all I think your response about just checking out his truck was perfect, and he had to respect that. You can be sure the fact that he is still waving at you is a good sign he is a good sport, Though, without a doubt he was probably being a bit arrogant in his aproach(probably due to the fact he had friends with him) it did still take some guts to make that first contact and the fact he has a nice truck and is out every morning is a good sign he has a stable job. So figure this if ya think he is cute and someone you would consider dating. Then hey why not give him the opportunity to put his foot in his mouth again, or you may find he is a great fella. Maybe write a small note placing a couple preliminary ground rules(expectations) and your name and maybe just your email add. at first and flag him down and give him the info. It will make his day.. and you may end up with a good friend or a love interest. Good luck!!! And remember to have your blinders off and your eyes open. Trust your instincts, they are usually right!! This was fun to answer!! Thanks...tonywdidit
2006-09-06 04:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by tonywdidit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you single? Is he single? Or a married man looking around for some free sex. Your out running and obviously has checked you out. Running your probably in great shape while his wife at home is pregnant and has two babies hanging on her leg.
Until you know more about the situation, ignore the jerk and forget the truck get a good job and buy your own truck. A lot less hassle. You are afraid of hurting his feelings???
what about his wife and 2 or 3 kids?
Find out if he is single and your interested, then make your move to be nice. You just don't have enough information.
there was this really nice guy and showed this girl a lot of attention. She went out with him and thought it was forever.
Only to find out he was married and she wasn't his only affair or women in his life. His wife was crushed when she called his house. She was the villain and hated by all in the end.
Men are never punished for running around but the other women is. Get the information first! Get his name and phone number and call his house or drive by. Is there toys in the yard? Two cars in the driveway? Pretend to be a telemarketer. Selling satellite dishes or something. Ask if their married and have kids.
2006-09-06 03:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. Don't escalate it and bring it to a point where you cannot handle.
His buddies were having a conversation when you were admiring the truck. They probably challenged him and he was showing off to his buddies.
Think nothing of it. Look at the next Ram charger to admire and don't even look at this one. (Hopefully you won't repeat it with the OTHER admiring episode..!!)
No, let it slide. You did not hurt his feelings. A 2-second conversation does not deserve so much deep thought.
(psssst... looks like you really care for this fleeting moment...... perhaps he was good looking? may be you wanna keep saying Hi..?)
2006-09-06 03:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should have realized that a Dodge Ram full of guys pulling up to a woman who is jogging is a bit much. You have no idea who this guy or his buddies are and they're in a truck - you're on foot. I think the best thing to have done is to say something smartass and run off. You have nothing to apologize for.
2006-09-06 03:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lillith 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You definitely don't have to apologize. I really don't think that was rude at all. In fact, if you thought the truck looked nice, i'll be he was glad to hear you say that!
He's probably dumped some serious cash into it.
Anyway, you could stop and chat sometime if you feel like it, but you're not obligated to do that either. Just know that if he likes you, he'll probably be "layin' the mack down" pretty heavy, lol.
2006-09-06 03:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by MattMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't offend me, and obviously didn't offend him to much (not if he give you a little wave when he see's you), I wouldn't apologize, but its obvious that he has some interest in you so if you think that you might become friends or what not, why not start up some chit chat ... you both have something in common ... you like his truck :) Good luck :)
2006-09-06 03:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by Zenas Walter 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you delivered the line. It doesn't sound as if he's offended, so I wouldn't worry. I wouldn't bother apologizing unless you want to take the encounter further. Keep the relationship at the waving level, and enjoy the eye candy!
2006-09-06 03:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it slide. His wave says no hard feelings. If you start takling to him you will hurt his feelings because he will think you are interested. If you apologize about before, he could feel embarassed or you will sound conceited, which you are not, obviously. But guys interpret things differently
2006-09-06 03:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he cute?
If he's cute then hop on over and start a conversation. If he isn't then just keep your head down and run right passed him.
I don't think it was a bad thing to say. You were checking out his truck. You didn't lie.
2006-09-06 03:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by hisgirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋