My boyfriend says he loves me more than anything, an wants to be with me. thats grand but our relationship hasn't been normal for a number of months. he stays with me every weekend and i see him most nites but we never have s.e.x.. we have a son he isn't one yet wud this have anything to do with it. at the wekd i was so h.o.r.n.y and was dying for a kiss and cuddle and the rest and he just said im immature and don't understand we can't? what that all abt? im 20 he 25. we were supposed to be buying a house together and during the week he said no can't cos im too young and thinks be 2 much strain on relationship. i havent felt happy this past wile cos of lack of attention in bedroom i feel i can't chat to him or im being immature what is his problem? any help would be great??
2006-09-06 03:43:06 · 23 answers · asked by comeo!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like in the past three months we have had sex about twice aint normal b4 son came along all the time thats why i dont understand!! i am slightly pissed off at this stage. yeah im irish wats the crack with ya?
2006-09-06 03:51:04 · update #1
thers notghing'up' with him, everythings down, honey, get down and find out whats up with him, cure him. if u cant, headbutt him, and then cure him
2006-09-06 03:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u are being the more mature person at the mo talking about a problem is the best way to deal with them, even if it isn't a problem to the other person they should still respect you and listen and try to come up with something that will work for both of you, as far as buying a house is concerned i brought one when i was 19 with a child and a partner of 28 it is stressful and could put strain on things but if your both committed to the relationship and dedicated to the future it can work, stay strong be positive remain calm,talk decisively and hopeful that can resolve the issue good luck
2006-09-06 03:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by jayke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, to be young and horny eh.... Tell him girls have needs. You obviously are not too young, you haver a kid, but you cannot force or fight him for it. What to do? If your sitting there with raging hormones constantly in hope, Wow, i know what that feels like, look but can't touch thats cruel, but Just be good civil, mature converse, be organised. Be good to your kid, you sound close if you see each other everyday.
What does he want, how can he not want a cuddle at least, try telling him you need reassurance, affection but no sex.... try and stay affectionate for a couple of weeks, better that than sitting horny, burning with lust. Try going places, living a little, thinking outside the bedroom, show an interst in, nature, zoo park, sport, men love a bird with soemthing about her.
2006-09-06 03:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 4 THE FUTURE: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alarm bells would start ringing for me.
!) He could be seeing someone else so getting his jollies with somebody else so would have no interest in sex at home and would be tired.
2) He could be confused about his sexuality (Some men can be secretly Bi sexual) So he may be struggling with his demons
3) I would suggest going to Relate they help with any type of relationship problem whether you are married or not and this way you can talk with a mediator
4) He may be working too hard and have no energy.
2006-09-06 03:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by bellybuttonflasher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to sound harsh but i'm 25 and i wouldn't have kids at this point in my life and i wouldn't settle down... but i'm a woman i have a choice in the matter after the initial, i'm guessing it was a, mistake he didn't have much choice. Maybe he feels trapped in your relationship, he doesn't want to move forward and you have a kid together that really says something... maybe he wants out.
like i said i dont want to be harsh but finding out is for your own good... i've had friends stuck in relationships like this and not knowing stopped them getting on with their own lives.
your 20 being immature implies your acting younger than you are, your not but you are kind of young
talk to him, that would show a level of maturity beyond your years
2006-09-06 16:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by theresanangelatmytable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes working your ticket, hes the one being selfish and immature. its perfectly natural. my greatest caution is do not under any circumstances buy a house with him until the situation is under control. i did and was left with nothing and to make matters worse i was pregnant and lost the baby too. kick him out, you can do without and so can your child. if he really does love you he will realise his selfishness and do all he can to make it up, if not then oh well you will see more people that have been taken in by him and left in the same situation as you and feeling the same as you.aftera while you realise he will never change and you will have moved on hopefully happier than you are now. toss pot!
2006-09-06 04:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lanabelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm tough one hun .But im sorry you are going to have to talk to him and ask what the problem is, tell him how down you are and that you need sex.
it dont make you a bad person or immature at all if anything he is
hope it all works out for you
2006-09-06 03:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by magic_monkey78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gay ... any normal bloke would want to be sha**ing all night!
Maybe he has a problem dealing with what's going on in your relationship now - young child, house purchase, all very stressful ... talk to him reasonably about what he thinks should be happening in your relationship and try to work things out.
If you're ever ho**y again, just give me a call, I'm sure we could work something out! ;-)
2006-09-06 03:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids change alot of things about a relationship but sex shouldnt be one of them.in my experience if a man doesnt want sex hes either gettin it elsewhere[sorry] or theres something big going on in his head i think getting him to talk is the only way to sort this out maybe it has nothing to do with you the problem might lie elsehere good luck!!!
2006-09-06 04:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to seduce him??? You know some sexy underwear and a nice romantic/sexy atmosphere.
Anyway, on the more serious note, ask him straight forward, WHATS UP!!!!!! Tell him exactly how you feel and that you are not immature ('cause you're not)!!!!! YOU GUYS HAVE TO TALK if you want this relationship to last!
2006-09-06 03:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by Fairy-Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there!! I see youve used da word grand???!!!! Ahh cool I think at last Ive found an irish person on this savage!! Em sorry i cant help u with ur question im like only 16!!!!! :):):)
2006-09-06 03:46:49 · answer #11 · answered by sparkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋