My boyfriend didn't tell me he has three children from his previous marriage untill I moved in with him and lived for a couple of months. I found out on my own and was very dissapointed and upset. If I knew that I would never get together with him cuz for me its a dead end relationship since he is used up person. Right now I am with him cuz it's convenient, but His three children situation is bothering me Should I tell him I am pregnant just to see his reaction.
P.S. I don't want children in general and with him in particular to avoid further misunderstanding of readers.
2006-09-06 03:30:10 · 22 answers · asked by Mistyfog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you're going to lie to him? And tell him you're pregnant when you're really not, just to get back at him for having children in a previous relationship? I wouldn't do that. I really don't think that's a good idea. If you don't want to continue your relationship with him, then move out and break up with him. Don't lie and play games with his head. Nothing good can come of that. And please grow up.
2006-09-06 03:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is a used up person....If you really loved him, you could see that he has much more to offer. Telling him you are pregnant is really manipulative, especially when you are saying that the only reason you are with him is for convenience. I feel bad for him, cause he thinks he has someone who loves him....when really it is just a convenient thing that is going to be thrown out the door (once you feel you can get on your own or find another man) all because he has three kids. Do you blame him for not telling you? Do you see his fears about the way you would react to the news? They have all come true. Seriously try not to be selfish here, and try to see if you really love this man, if not.... be gentle and let him go find someone who will love him.
2006-09-06 10:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by CBL123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't even know where to start. No you should not tell him you're pregnant, what purpose would that serve? And how immatire is that? Quit playing mind games. Secondly I understand your anger at his secret, and I respect your desire not to have kids. But to keep living with him "cuz it's convenient?" Do both of you a favor, cut your losses and get out of there.
2006-09-06 10:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by M K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. If you just found out about his children then he obviously is a dead beat dad. He wasn't up front with you and that is the worst way to start a relationship. Convenience is a really stupid reason to stay.
2006-09-06 10:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you don't mind him throwing you out.
He has 3 children, and you didn't know it until you lived together for a couple of months....Yeah he's gotta be a really great dad!
I wouldn't even wait for him to throw me out....I would have left by now!!!!
2006-09-06 10:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend was dishonest and there isn't much defending that, but you wanting to play games with him won't help the situation. If you don't want the situation you have, change your situation, move out and move in.
2006-09-06 10:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to lie to make him jealous. just tell him that u think yall should go yall separate ways and that he should of told u that he had three children on the side. Just leave him and find someone more trustworthy.
2006-09-06 10:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to test the water. But its very obvious he's in to kids....or maybe not! After all he did his 3 from you! You should leave him alone, why would someone hide their own kids?? I would wonder what else is he hiding if he can hide 3 human beings!
2006-09-06 10:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the point? You don't want to be with him and your just waiting around for something better to come along, so why f#%k with a the guy?
2006-09-06 10:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i belive u should.
When i was with me girlfriend we had sex for her 1st time and i dident rap me tool and she told me she was pregnet the next month and i spoke to all her family and the all said r u gunna stay with her and i said yes. so i rekon u should test him out.
2006-09-06 10:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋