i go to see my boyfriend and he'll make fun of me and put me down and then he'll leave me in his house with his parents while he goes out with his mates what should i do should i chuck him or stay with him i dont know what i am to do please help me im having a hard time at the moment
2006-09-06 03:26:42 · 31 answers · asked by sexycharzie11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wave bye, bye and get yourself back into circulation. He has no respect for you and the relationship is going nowhere. Hard for you to accept perhaps, but do it and you'll look back and wonder why you hadn't done it sooner.
2006-09-06 03:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by uknative 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of obvious answers already posted here and who am I to say they are incorrect
However it might be worth stepping back a little to see if other issues are involved, most of which will take open discussion between you both in an environment where you both feel safe to talk, ie not when his mates are around or when you are full of anger (not suggesting you would be)
Topics might include the following (this doesn't mean they are true) ;
Is there some issue of annoyance, embarrassment, hurt or over-expectation on your part, he has with you that he feels he cannot disclose to you?
Is he edged on by mates?
Is he slow to mature?
Has the relationship changed or was he always like that?
Protect yourself and your heart by putting yourself outside the relationship as much as you can and judge it from there as an outsider
Keep some of your love for yourself and feel the love there is for you from others in your life
If you put it to him straight,and his unfair behaviour of you continues You will have to make your own choice
Life is highs and lows not just lows so if you did mourn his loss you would find a high again someday
Life has a way of working out as long as our actions/ giving of love is not too irrational
Hope my rantings make some sense to you
Good luck x
2006-09-06 10:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about him..... How much more can you take before you become a doormatt..... and have you spoken to him about it or are you already a doormatt. Thank God you are not married yet.
He may just be messing while his folks are here, men love to feel comfy, i don't know if your relationship is new or this is just cause his folks are here. Maybe he does not see his mates enough. Maybe he's not ready to be a husband with no mates, thats a huge move. Then again he could be taking advantage of you. You should definitely talk about it, that should get somewhere don't just hope, address the issue deal wwith it and take some action. Be a big girl, but i don't know how old you are, you sound young.
2006-09-06 10:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 4 THE FUTURE: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, that's not good. Doesn't sound like he cares about you or about spending time with you. That basically means he's not your boyfriend! I mean, if he's not acting like one he's a boyfriend in name only.
I'd say end it and find someone who cares. But maybe he doesn't realise how he's acting, so confront him first, tell him your problems with him and see what he says. I take it that as you're asking random internet strangers for advice you're indecisive on the matter so that suggests you'd be willing to give him another chance. So offer him one and see if he improves. Don't offer him any more though!
2006-09-06 10:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by reddragon105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a complete git, Why on earth would he leave you with his parents while he goes out. Have you not got a car? dont stay at this parents go out with your friends and play hard to get.
2006-09-06 10:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the body language is there he doesn't like u a bit he is only accomodating u because his parents actually like u and think u're the best for him but i'll advice u to leave and find a man who will appreciate u for urself
2006-09-06 10:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by folistone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. You just haven't made up your mind that you are worth something better.
Assuming that he isn't just hateful and nasty, he is probably very insecure and doing it to make himself feel stronger. You need to tell him that it's not acceptable and that you are worth better. If he doesn't respond then you're almost certainly on a hiding to nothing and it's time to do what you know is right.
2006-09-06 10:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by jon2901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chuck him hun. sounds like he has zero respect for you and dont care if your there or not
so leave him and find someone the will treat you right and you will feel like the princess you know you are deep down
2006-09-06 10:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by magic_monkey78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you cr@p get rid of him you have to learn to love yourelf and know you deserve better . You have to believe in yourself and not be scared to be alone.
Move on there are bigger and better things to be found rather than this looser.
Dump him and give him a taste of his own medicine treat him bad do it by text
2006-09-06 10:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Purple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him.. if ur good enough to have sex with behind closed doors then he should be able to respect u around others.. u allow him to treat u that way and that's why he does it.. have u made a stand? have u told him how u feel? why do u keep taking him back?
u need to drop that loser..
2006-09-06 10:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋