I have been in a relationship for a year and I love my baby very much but sometimes he can be very controlling and mean.. But I love him and he does make me happy... Or just I just continue to go about my life an follow dreams that I am unsure of?
2006-09-06 03:24:01 · 20 answers · asked by SweetGurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because you are involved in a relationship doesn't mean you should give up on your dreams .. continue to follow them. Now regarding to being with someone that is controlling and mean - that is a different story. You deserve to be treated with respect, love and not one that is controlling. Controlling relationships can lead to other things as well ... if you are wanting to remain in the relationship I strongly suggest you both go to counseling.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-06 03:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a smart person to know that you are being controlled. As for your baby being mean not a good sign for the future. I was married for 15 years to a man like this. I realized all my dreams and hopes had faded because he controlled every moment of my day right down to picking out what dresses I should buy and wear. I loved him with all my heart only to have it broken with a fist in the face one night when I refused to wear what he wanted. Please walk away now and follow your dreams they will come true without this man by your side. You deserve better. look inside your heart and ask yourself what is it I really want out of life? You will find happiness means more than a man who is on a coarse of destruction with this type of attitude with women. Take a deep breath pack your suite case and never look back. I am thinking of you, stay safe and go for your dreams.
LittleGree
2006-09-06 11:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by LittleGree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. don't chose to dump him if people on yahoo say so. You should follow your heart. The only advice I can give you is: Have you guys had more HAPPY times than SAD times? Does he make you MORE happy than SAD? If you are asking this question, there is an issue. The best thing to do is to talk to him about how he controls you and how he is mean. But from experience and stories I hear, people never change. They will change for a month or two but then go back to themselves. Bringing it up may even make things worse.. if he isn't EVERYTHING you've ever wanted, he isn't right for you.
2006-09-06 10:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you like to be controlled and talked down to, and you like having your feelings hurt then go for it. Soon that mean and controlling side will take over the him making you happy side, and you won't be so happy. If he disapproves of your dreams the tell him to take a hike, because he is not necessary for you to make your dreams come true. There are other bigger and better fish in the sea.
2006-09-06 10:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"....but sometimes he can be very controlling and mean.. " Isn't this enough to move forward? It's okay to be unsure about your dreams, but you should always be sure about not being treated like you described above. If you are watering it down, look at your situation for what it really is...YOU determine how happy you'll be.
2006-09-06 10:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got to the part that he is sometimes mean to you a red flag popped up. He will not change and may get worse. Is this what you want for the rest of your life? I don't think so. Tell yourself that you deserve the best and never settle for less than that. Tell yourself that every morning when you look in the mirror until you believe in it. Good luck to you!!! GaryT
2006-09-06 10:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him and u happy u should just follow your dream
2006-09-06 10:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Snow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say he makes you happy when you are also saying he is controlling and mean???? DUH!!! That is not love, sweetie....it is dependance on your part. One thing you have to learn.......no one can "make you happy".....it has to come from within yourself. To me, you don't sound 'happy' at all! You also have a real screwy definition of "Love". If your "dream" is to be where you are now and feel the way you do......then by all means, follow it......just don't whine about it.
2006-09-06 10:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure would not wish you to folow that dream....
seriously, if he is like what you described, best you trash him and get a new dream to follow. This dream, could end up giving you a lot of heartaches.
2006-09-06 10:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can truly answer that question if some one is controlling and mean and you are totally happy who are we to judge but I think you deserve better than that.
2006-09-06 10:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋