Does anyone have any relationship/marriage succes stories, after telling their significant other how they truly felt? Do you think opening up like this will scare the opposite sex away, especially men? I really need some hope here....
2006-09-06 03:21:43 · 14 answers · asked by CustomBentley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes , don't hide your feelings , get it out of your chest, good luck
2006-09-06 03:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by ed46324 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it shouldn't if they feel the same way as you do or is glad you have been so honest.
I believe in being honest with your feelings so everyone is on a even playing feel and when your honest they can accept your honest or not accept it but feel good within yourself that you have laid it all out on the table and have left nothing to guess.
If telling someone how you truly felt would scare them away is only because they don't feel the same and they are running from pressure of you wanting something they don't.
But at least if they know the truth you will discover the truth and status of your future with such person.
I rather know how my mate feel about me than not know and if telling him how I truly feel will aid in me finding out how they truly feel whether good or bad, I will feel I have done my job in the relationship.
2006-09-06 10:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I think that you will never know unless you go for it. It may turn out differently than you imagine, but if it does, then it wasn't meant to be. I live by this rule when it comes to love. It is better to get hurt and know, than to never say anything and not know. If something doesn't go right, at least you can say you tried, therefore no regrets, it was out of your hands. That is much easier than spending the rest of your life wondering "What might have been." Sure the fear of rejection is a strong fear, but there are a million people out there, and only one person you are meant to be with. Rejection is inevidable. Heart ache will only make the love you find that much stronger when you do find it. It may help you to appreciate things more in the the long run. I lost a very good friend after we made a go at a relationship, and it still hurts but at least I know I did everything I could to make it work, and the ending was his decision not mine, in a way that makes it a little bit easier to deal with. And I appreciate my husband that much more for knowing that he did choose me.
2006-09-06 10:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can scare someone away. You need to make sure that the feelings are absolutely mutual before you go down that road. When I first said it to my husband, he freaked and pulled away until he realized that it wasn't a death sentence or a marriage proposal. I personally treated it as no big deal and just avoided saying it again. I actually said it kind of casually, but since he had been hurt by a previous fiance, he was extremely sensitive to those three little words.
2006-09-06 10:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound crazy..but the moment I saw (my now fiancee)I knew he was special. Guess its a vibe thing whatever it was I felt it...I went up to him we hit it off..after the 3rd date I loved him...I'm not one to keep my mouth shut so I told him how I felt. He wasn't at that point and graciously listened and held me and explained the level of feelings he had at that time..if he was scared he didnt run..in fact my honesty made us closer..we moved in together a month later and are still going happily strong..its all in the person girlie its what that person feels each of us are different. I say if thats how you feel your entitled to feel it!! shout it out! If its not excepted then at least you can take a step back and rethink maybe save yourself pain in the long run..Never let fear of a mans reaction to your feelings shut you up..love yourself open up. Your loving nature will be appreciated by the right man at the right time
2006-09-06 10:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to tell em how you feel. And Ive always been afraid that they will run, but you gotta do it. Get it out there, and if they run...its their loss & not on the same page as you. The feelings need to be mutual, if they are he will stay put & be glad you opened up...maybe he will too. You could always write it in a letter or a poem, that what I do sometimes. Good luck!
2006-09-06 10:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ofcouse it helps. but must do this at the right time. thus when your partner is most vulnerable. after a romantic evening with only the two of you together all night. or if you're extra close, then you must tell him after a great love making.......
but please don't tell him on the phone or through the mail....it will not help.
2006-09-06 10:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Rasman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bit tricky. but if you truly love someone you should let them know how you feel. if he feels the same it could turn into a beautiful thing. at least you will know how he feels. just remember life is to short to keep holding off telling someone that you love them
2006-09-06 10:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by SA angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, words are just words until your actions come to play. Remember the old addage? Actions speak louder than words?
2006-09-06 10:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are as many success stories as heartbreaks, but I can say that not telling them is guaranteed not to end in a success story.
2006-09-06 10:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you explain to him whats going on and be honest i'm sure things will work out fine.If he's ment to be with you he can handel it no problem.His actions will be your best sign.Good Luck!!
2006-09-06 10:25:31 · answer #11 · answered by endigogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋