Why do women change so drastically towards their partner?

Question

Do they just pretend to be nice to catch you?

Answer 1

I think the change you speak of is a two-way thing; perhaps they're disappointed for one reason or another.

Answer 2

It's not as simple as that. It's not only women who make more of an effort at the start, but it's not usually deliberate. Most people don't set out to con others. It's just the way things go with familiarity. Actually it can be a good thing in one sense - a sign that you are not stressed about whether you are secure with each other.

All relationships change, and good ones change continuously. Are you expecting everything to stay the same?

There are strong programs running. Don't be naive. Most people are (underneath it all) looking for a long term partnership and the program is often very strong in women - the wish to be married, settled, have kids etc. They are looking for a man to feel the same and want the same. If that does not seem to be on the cards then they may start to cool off.

Have you talked about what you both want? Relationships require communication. You both have to ask for what you want and say what is and isn't working. If it's a good partnership you will find ways to work together. If it's not then you will find out anc can both find someone who is more right for you.

Of course there are many other possibilities. Are you still appreciating her or taking her for granted. Did you make as much effort to start with as she did, or is she now seeing that it was all one-sided? Are you sure that you are not being self-centred (including whether you are a selfish lover). Sexual dissatisfaction could certainly cause what you describe.

So don't assume it's all her fault. You have to be willing to ask yourself hard questions too.

Answer 3

I assume the reason some women change so much, is a direct result of how much the guy has changed in his way of treating her. Typically when the relationship first starts, the guy is most always sweet, and does nice things (whether it is a back rub when first waking up in the morning, or sweet little complements).....after the "glow" has worn off and the real relationship starts, sometimes the guy stops doing that.....and that can be very confusing and frustrating to the woman. It makes them feel like the guy doesn't look at them in the same special way, and the woman wonders what is wrong.....so maybe that is when she starts to nag and things like that. Just a guess

Answer 4

Because some women feel like they have to put on a front to catch a man. Then when they feel like they've got him then the REAL them comes out. Basically its just being fake as hell

Answer 5

They are worse predators than men ... They hunt for an unsuspecting guy, trap him with offers of all the p***y he can handle then slowly but surely brainwash him into becoming their slave ... Besides which they never really trust you and practise their nasty vindicitve side just in case you get caught with your pants down!

Answer 6

No MEN seem to change the further they get into a relationship.
1. we are NOT here to be your mother
2. we are NOT here to clean, cook, sh** non stop
3. we are NOT your trophy
4. it is NOT your right to look at another woman let alone sleep with them.

1. it is your job to protect us
2. make everyday special
3. treat us like a princess without being leachy
4. sometimes we need space!

Answer 7

you could ask that same question the other way around... So when you don't group every women under one header, you might get a reasonable answer

Answer 8

It certainly feels that way, happened to me in a six year thing.
When you start to relax they get comfy, i think itsthem hormones, if ya married well, ouch.

Answer 9

It is their attitude to the wedding ceremony," Aisle, Altar, Hymn"

Answer 10

it doesn't change until u change the situation by getting that little piece of paper called a "marriage certificate"---don't get married and it won't change