If a woman left his boyfriend, and the boyfriend knows is because she is not over with is ex, can things work?

Question

I am a guy, 31 of age, exboyfriend of a person that left me, and all things for me explain that she is not over her ex who died couple of years ago. She was sometimes frustrated with me for no reason, like I don't do things I am suppose to do in a loving relationship (like: you are not doing what my ex used to do with me/us since she had kids from a previous marriage).

After time does it works, I think she will realize she let a person go for silly reasons (actually I finished the relationship since her attitudes were driving me insane, since I was not doing anything wrong), but I wonder, once things are in peace and she realize, any chances she will call me (because I was getting along great with her and her kids, also sleeping in her place when kids where in their bedroom, etc). I don't know, it's confusing and I wonder if a person will either look for a new person, or will go back to the pastures she had before, because we were a NICE couple.

Answer 1

I'll keep this short and to the point.

1. Hand write one letter or poem that pours your heart out, and make sure to mail it to her.

2. Keep her in the back of your mind, and not the front....go make something of yourself, go for your dreams, and date people along the way....you may be surprised who else is out there.

3. If you truly believe she is your soul mate, then never give up, but do not contact her often (maybe 3 or 4 times a year at most)...always be pleasant and patient, make her feel she is always welcomed in your arms.

4. If you continue to get no response, then take this a one of the most important lessons in your life that will shape your future as how your relationships will go. I promise there are other people out there that will make you feel like you did with her. You now what you're looking for, because you found it once already and loved it. Good Luck Buddy.

Answer 2

I guess if you truly love her, you should try being patient for a little while longer.

But, it isn't fair that she's comparing you to another man. In fact, I would find that pretty insulting.

Why don't you call her and make her sit there and be totally silent while you tell her what you're really feeling. If you don't think that will work, write her a letter and leave it under her doormat or some place she'll find it. Be honest and open about how you feel and where you'd like things to go with her.

Answer 3

I think that she needs to actually grieve for her X, and then make decisions for herself. Even after two years she might have not had the chance to just let it all out. I would try to get her to talk to someone that will listen to her about him and not get mad. You could do this for her. Once she sees how caring you are and that you are not trying to replace him in any way she might open up more to you. I would tell her how you feel when she compares you to him. Just be there for her. It could possibly work but first she has to let him go before she can give herself to you.

Answer 4

If its meant to be she will come back. True love always finds a way. Do your own thing...don't wait around for her. You have to truly love yourself and be happy before someone else will love you. If she finds someone else-you are better off anyways. I think eventually she'll come around though-just be patient. Women do crazy things!!! But we have good intentions!

Answer 5

I wouldn't sit around and wait. Go out and date with others.And in the mean time think of this saying. Lets see....
What is that old saying; "If you love someone set them free. If they come back it was meant to be."
It sounds corny, but it so TRUE..................

Answer 6

It may eventually work, but by then you might have found someone who thinks your perfect the way you are.

Answer 7

It won't work until she's ready to try to make it work. Move on if she isn't ready.

Answer 8

Somethings are just better to let it go!!!