Just wondering...
How often do you fight in your relationship?
2006-09-06 03:08:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure there are couples who never fight, but it's not healthy. My parents didn't fight for 13 yrs, then they got divorced. If you don't fight then it means you're letting things build up inside and eventually it will all blow up. We're human it is impossible to agree with everything your sig other says, and impossible to go every day without getting annoyed by something they do. You learn to pick what it worth getting upset over, but fighting is completely natural and healthy. As long as things get resolved and taken care of. You've heard the saying never go to bed angry? It's a good idea to live by that. Sometimes you have to know when to just let things go. Evaluate the situation, is what you're arguing about really a big deal to you? Is it a big deal to them or does one of you just have to be right? If it's a topic that your sig other feels strongly about, just let them have it. And don't be too stuborn to apologize even when it's not your fault, I promise you'll start seeing the tension smooth a bit over time and you will find the favor returned. But, although fighting is normal and healthy, there are no nos involved. Stick to the issue at hand, don't throw in past mistakes by the other person. Don't call names or say things that are hurtful. Talk about the problem with out expanding the argument. Words can sting, and they can stick with a person forever and wavor on your relationships trust and security. Don't mention breaking up every time you fight. Fights happen, it can't really be avoided, not if you want a strong relationship. Communication doesn't always mean it will be calm. Also fighting can help you learn things about your partner. What they may keep hidden can come out in a fit of emotions. Understanding why your partnet does something can make it easier for you to let go in the future.
2006-09-06 03:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are any couples who haven't had any type of disagreement, they either haven't been together very long, or one of them doesn't care enough to express their opinions and feelings.
My husband and I don't disagree very often, but it does happen. Maybe a couple of times a years or so. The main thing in a relationship is to be calm and willing to talk through your problems.
Actual fights, we've had 3 in the 9 years we've been together, 8 of them married.
2006-09-06 10:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lately, too damn much!!! But we are having growing pains. We've only been married for a year and lived together for a short while before that. We went through Katrina together, living in others houses and not really having any privacy. So it's just growing pains and getting to know one another on a higher level. If you feel that you two are fighting to much then you both need to chill out and talk on a mature adult level and work it out or go your seperate ways.
2006-09-06 10:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by im2cute4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We really don't fight that often and its very short if we do.. needless to say maybe once every 2 mo.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-06 10:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO!! anytime you put a male and a female together theres bound to be differences. Were wired different. Plain and simple. However if hes not so stubborn and takes time to understand things from a womans point of view..we the she-beast can be soothed and tend to be less over-worried about every aspect of the relationship
2006-09-06 10:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I can say that for me and my fiancee we don't fight. We both learned from previous experiences that when you fight or argue you tend to say things you don't mean but, once they're said you really can't take it back. We do talk things out and try to understand each side of the issues at hand and we figure out the best solutions even if both have to give into it.
2006-09-06 10:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by tabby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married for 5 years now, together 16 years-we have fights almost everyday - nothing big, nothing serious and after that we start to laugh and that is all.
2006-09-06 10:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by twiny B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i are both very passionate people and stuborn we fight probably once a week little tiny tifs every few days, but very rarely anything serious.
serious fights like once every 3 months
2006-09-06 10:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happily married 16yrs; we don't fight - she gets mad, I figure out why later on and then go "geez..."
2006-09-06 10:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just don't agree on anything.
2006-09-06 10:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋