Please read,I'm 15, and would really appreciate you honest advice, even though this is long. thanks!?

Question

What should i do?
Could you please give me the best advice you have? I am just not ready to let her go yet??
this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, I know this is a no, she clearly said she wants to remain friends, and trust me, I am treating that with respect and honor. Now my question is, is she just scared like she said because we have been such good friends for a long time, or because she doesnt see me like that. If she doesnt now, will she

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1 hour ago
Now , what would she have said she doesnt want to ruin a frienship?? Without meaning it, I asked her straight up to be honest, and I know she isnt lying. What should I do? I mean I know nothing is gonna happen in the near future, but maybe when she matures a little bit, or decides to take the risk to date me, I mean, I like her so much, and am just not ready to let her go. I know she is afraid of me breakin her heart, because she told one of her friends, that she doesnt like how many girlfriends I've had that Ive broken up with. And she really used to act like she liked me, I mean, we obviously had soemthing more than friends, but when I asked her she got scared and backed off. She also told her mom, who she is really closed to, that she is REAALY scared of ruining the frienship. What should I do?

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9 hours ago
But, her friend asked her a few minutes ago about it, and she got all mad and said who wants to know?..and her friend said me.. and she got all mad and signed off. what should i think/do??

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2 hours ago
And why would she get all mad at her friend, I mean the email I replied to her was nice , caring and understanding, so I dont know why she thinks I put her up to it? Why was she all mad if her friend asked her about it?

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1 hour ago
Now, I am not an idiot, and I emailed her back and told her i respect her decision, and totally understand her decision, and I am not smothering her, directly, but her friends mite be talking, what should I do

Answer 1

let things cool off for a couple of days and leave it alone. Then after a couple of days call her and talk about something funny. Make her laugh. It is the best way to get through this. You can still like her, but like her as a friend first because that is most of what a relationship is anyways. Enjoy her friendship. Don't talk to anyone else about liking her. Maybe things will blossom down the line. Patience is a virtue

Answer 2

I want to give you the best answer possible
from her e-mail she truly care about you and she wants and needs you as a friend/ so having this back and forth from her friend it is becaome too childish (eventough you guys are still children)
so for her sake why don't you be a friend (a good one ) and respect her wishes
and you need to start dating other people and enjoy your teenage years (no sex) just go to movies and have a burger once in a while
remember she is 13 she have a lot to learn so let her get to know herself
if in the future she wnat more form you and you are still interested than you will be with someone that know what she wants
Good Luck Hope I have help

Answer 3

My son who is 16 now was 15 and was going with a girl who was only 12 at the time but is now 13. She was a rebound affair and was not mature even though she said she was she acted very childish and constantly was doing things to make my son pissed and he would take his anger out by breaking holes in the walls. She would constantly lie and say she didn't say or do anything to make him mad which was always a lie my son came to his senses and broke it off with her. She would have her friends do things and tell her things that wasn't true about my son she believed them over him.
If she wants to be friends accept it and maybe down the line she will come to realize the perfect boyfriend for her is you.
Stay friends with her and eventually things may turn around.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

13 years old is pretty young. In fact, most parents don't even let their kids date that young. You should respect what she has said and continue to be supportive throughout it. If you are genuinely close friends this oportunity will be available to you for a long time to come. I know because my best friend and I had a similar connection for about 12years (from age 14) and after we left highschool I waited and waited for him to say that he wanted more than a friendship since he had said it when we were younger, but he never persued it again until days before my wedding. Dont wait too long, but give her some space while she is so uncertain.

Answer 5

OK well here goes,If you keep pushing the issue your going to lose out all together.She has already told you several times she just wants to be friends,You need to accept that.Now she's getting pissed off because your now bringing other people into this private matter.Yes you are now guilty of smothering her and the issue even though it wasn't your intentions.Stop with the third degree,drop the subject,leave her alone for a few days to let this blow over,And go back to being friends.If she wants you she'll tell you so.Just calm down.Hope this helps you,good luck.

Answer 6

First of all u r way too young to be thinking so seriously. From what she has said she seems to be quite honest with u. She like u as a friend and she doesn't want to lose that. U cant force some one to like u just b coz u like them. So respect what she wants and stay friends. Who knows maybe later on she might feel differently. But as of now all she wants is to have a friendship with u. So if u care for her, u will do that. Wouldn't u rather be friends with her and have her in your life than not have her at all?????? Think abt it n decide.

Answer 7

Im 14, so i kinda know where you guys are coming from! Listen, she probably is keen for you now, but is scared that if she decides to date you, you might just dump her after a couple of months and that would leaqve you guys pretty uncomfortable as friends. She doesn't want to jepordise your friendship so she thinks you're a great guy! For now, leave the situation and let things mature naturally, rather then it being a forced relationtionship!Hopefully you guys will just be together in a couple of weeks! Good luck xx

Answer 8

When I was 13 one of my best friends was 15 and was a boy. And one day he told me he really like me and wanted to be more then friends. But I didn't want to be his gf because I didn't want to lose him. I knew he had gfs and broke up with them. So I told him we needed to have a heart to heart talk. So we sat on my front step and we talked for hours. And we told or friends to stay out of it. It was between us. That was two years ago. I'm 15 and he is 17 now. And to this day we are still best friends. So all I can tell you is just sit down and have a talk with her. And believe me at 13 I was scare too. But I'm so glad we had that talk. Because I got a great boyfriend and he got a great girlfriend. But we still hang out together and have a great time. I hope you the best. Just love her has your best friend.

Answer 9

yes it willl be a bit hard for a while to talk to her when she know's how you feel about her,I have had this happen to me in a couple of cases.The thing with realationships is sure it may be flurting at the start and you could end up dating,but if left to long as she pretty much said, is she doesn't want to lose you as a friend if it didn't work out,future wise if anything it wouldn't be probaly for a long time down the track,like 20 years or something stupid like that.
Sorry dude but that's the way I've seen it happen

Answer 10

I would suggest letting the whole thing go. You're 15 - you're not ready for a romantic relationship with a girl. Most guys at 25 are not mature enough for a romantic relationship.