ok i know tthis is stupid.but is sex painful esp. the intercourse part.be honest guys!!!i am a first timer .?

Answer 1

It appears that you are a female.From my first experience the girl enlightened me on a number of things.It was a first for her as well.First it takes a lot of time.You have to engage in a lot of petting and foreplay.The woman generally pretends she does not want the stick,but no generally means yes.After both of you completely get rid of your clothes naked start kissing intensely.This will loosen you up a bit.Then he will kiss you from head to toe before inserting his tongue into your vagina.By now your vagina should be wet and willing.It is your turn to part your legs and invite him to enter,but play with his penis with your hands and suck it if possible.Now you are ready to be mounted.The first few strokes are awkward but soon you will heave together.Make sure he sucks your boobs hard when his penis is stroking you inside.a man peaks or reaches a climax before you so try to get excited slowly. Try and make him hold back ejaculation for much as possible.Kissing on the mouth is helpful.Happy *******.

Answer 2

It's should be painful. While mild discomfort and stretching is normal, it only hurts if he's an insensitive jerk.

When you are ready to let him try, make sure he spends plenty of time of foreplay. He should get you ready for sex slowly, and thoroughly. He should gradually stretch you before penetration, probably with his fingers. The more time he takes, the more care he gives, the more tender he is, the better it will feel. As he enters you, he should be going slowly, not ramming it in all at once. After he's in all the way, he should hold still for a minute or so to give your body time to get used to him in there. He should also move slowly at first as you adjust and stretch around him. Tell him how you feel as you go, he's not a mind reader. If it starts to hurt or feel uncomfortable, tell him to hold on while you adjust. He doesn't have to pull out, in fact he shouldn't, but holding still can really be a help when trying something new. Tell him when you are ready for him to move again, what feels good, what doesn't. The more you communicate with him the better it will get. As weird as it may sound now, talking is a very important part of sex.
With time and practice it gets better, so don't expect perfection the first time. It helps if you loosen up before you actually start to have sex too. A warm bath or massage can loosen your muscles so you aren't stiff for the act. If you are stiff and your muscles are tight, penetration will be more difficult for him and you.

Answer 3

I think the anxiety girls feel about virginity is based more on their fears than on pain.

I was 20 when I had sex the first time, because I was extremely head strong on waiting until I was ready to go that distance with someone. I enjoyed playing the field too much, and I enjoyed being young and carefree. I didn't like the idea of sex interfering with other aspects of my life, especially all the dating around I use to do.

If you think in you're heart and mind that you're ready for a sexual relationship, I think you should go for it. Be sure to be objective about it, and be honest with yourself.

The pain factor of having sex the first time can be rated with having bad cramps. Relax your mind, relax your body. What will make the experience worse is if you're really tense and you feel lots of anxiety. If you are feeling that way, I don't think you're ready.

No matter what, always use protection. If you're in a situation and neither of you has anything to use, don't do it. Always be prepared.

Answer 4

It truly depends on who you are with and how much they know about pleasing a woman. A whole lot of foreplay will make it easier for you. It shouldn't be painful without any pleasure for you. If it is, then it was done wrong or by the wrong person. There will be a small amout of pain or discomfort, but the reward is worth the pain. When I say foreplay, I mean lots of kissing, petting, touching and playing. Good Luck to you and remember to relax, use protection at all times and have fun.

Answer 5

Any thing you do first time it is difficult but not painful. It is the state of mind that decides pain or fun. If you think that it is fun you would not feel pain even if it pains. The fun and joy as well as sexual desire would take over pain ful part of the act of having sex. Do not worry, have it for the first time and u shall be ready for having it again and again. If it was painful half of the world would have been virgin.

Answer 6

Take your time when you do it, make sure your man doesnt rush it, it might stink alittle bit for when your Hymen is torn, but if your man does it right, it should be just fine. Dont go in there like 2 wild Pronos and do it rough and all out. Take your time, make it a romantic night and exciting for both partners. Make sure your man knows that, tonight is about being slow and romantic., not about Slam Bam, thankyou mam

Answer 7

Its like suffering the pain for something you desire. If the person is worth it and you feel safe and respected.....it eases the pain. Dont concentrate all your attention to that spot and tense your body in anticipation....distract yourself with foreplay, caressing, kissing......it would be over before you can dwell on the pain and from then on it gets better and better

Answer 8

What are you sitting there ready to go? Are you waiting for someone to say know before you let your BF jump on you. YES it hurts!

But hey on the brighter side you could become a big hoe and then it wouldn't hurt anymore :P

Answer 9

It hurts the girl a little bit when the cherry is popped.... not a big deal and you shouldn't worry about it too much unless the guy goes down on you like a jackhammer. Tell him to be gentle.

Answer 10

It depends on how "big" the guy is. and I'm seriously not trying to be funny. But my first time was with a guy who was rather "small" so It didn't hurt at all.