is adoption really an option......?

Question

do we have to put a child up for adoption when God has given him/her to you ....... and what if it affects the whole of his/her (child's) life... who is responsible for that .............

Answer 1

There are times when it is the best thing for the child. It's a better option than abortion (which I personally don't agree with) and so for some people adoption would be the only option. I mean do you really want a drug addict with a baby because "god" gave it to you? Or would you rather a good loving family that wants a baby and can take care of it to get that baby?

Answer 2

It is really hard to give u an answer.. because it depends on situation.. On your side you know the reasons why you should put the child up for adoption.. Do you think is it the only solution (a part abort that I'm not agree with) ?
If the problem is that you are too young.. maybe your/her parents can help u and your girlfriend.. problem is financial question.. well you can work.. and get the money.. problem is that you are alone and your girl-friend.. is died.. and you are scared.. to take care and responsability of the baby due to you are young and alone.. it is not enough..
BABY is love, is a gift, and no-one can refuse such gift.. eventhough means : sacrifice, responsability, releases..
Forget that it is the best for the child.. due to that child one day will be a boy/girl, a man/woman .. and that person will always ask WHY my parents didn't want me?? Why God wanted me on the Earth if my parents didn't want me? Which was my fault?? Why was I not able to get their love?? all these questions will affect his/her life for ever..
Yes you have the option.. but you had the option to have save sex.. don't you think????
So your solution could be just a selfish solution no the best for the child..
Think very carefully about all the faces of the problem.. don't think about the best for your child.. the best for your child is HAVING YOUR FULL LOVE:. ..
Good luck..

Answer 3

No one has to do anything The decision has to come from your heart. Think about what will be best for your child. There are many adopted children in the world who truly love their adoptive parents and then there are some who don't. The same can be said of our birth children, some will love us forever, some grow to resent their parents. Everything this world has to offer will affect the whole life of your child. Make the most of what you have or what you have to offer the child and prayer that your decision is the right one. Remeber however, that God has not given you the child anymore than he takes children away. It was your action that brought a child into the world so don't put the blame on God for choices you make, good or bad.

Answer 4

A child is a gift from God, I agree. But adoption is something that is the only thing that will work for some families. If a mother knows full well that she cannot support a child, but she disagrees with abortion, she has the option of giving the child up for adoption to a loving family who can give the child the kind of life they deserve. It all depends on the situation at hand.

Answer 5

I was adopted when I was 3 months old. I am now 43. I have ALWAYS known I was adopted no one tried to hide it. I grew up with my parents reading the book to me "The Chosen Child". Was my life perfect ~ by no means, however, my biological parents were 13 & 14. Now, 43 years ago, that was unheard of. And, I don't care what era we are in ~ no one that age is responsible enough to raise a child. So, what other option is there.........abortion. True, but then I wouldn't be alive today to love and hold my beautiful 2 1/2 year old daughter and love my husband. I thank my birth parents for letting me live, but giving me a chance to have a life with people who could financially and were mature enough to take care of a child. At 13, could my mother have finished school while taking care of a baby? I don't think so. They were irresponsible by getting pregnant at that age, so I can't imagine either of them would have been very responsible parents at that time. I certainly hope that every day, minute & year that passes they have a little hurt inside for the little girl they lost. But know that I am better for having actual adults for parents.

Answer 6

you do not HAVE to do anything you don't want to. who said you HAVE to give up a child for adoption. that is a persons individual choice. everything we do and say affects our children no matter who is raising them. it is better to use intelligent decision making when situations make it unsafe for a child. there are ways to adopt out and still be a part of your childs life. sometimes, the love of a child makes it imperative to give it up for adoption

Answer 7

Adoption is a noble thing to do. If you adopt a child in need you are giving them a chance at love and family. I don't know your circumstances but you should be quite certain that the child's need for a better life exceeds his/her need to be with his/her parents. He might resent you later if he thinks you could have just tried harder to keep and raise him.

Answer 8

Well adoption is you choice when the baby is born.If for some reason you have to put the baby up for adoption it will affect the babies life.
It'll make its life better and give it more opportunities in life.

Answer 9

adoption is widely argumentative. if u think a child wont be happy or that it cant be cared for properly then i think the best thing for the child is adoption. but if your just like nah i dont want a kid im just a kid (grow up**if u make the choice to make a kid then ur grown enough**)then thats shame shame. there are a lot of kids to be adopted out there and they go from foster home to foster home and not all of them are good so think very hard on it.

Answer 10

Look at the word adoption. Ad(option). Of course it's an option.