I loved this guy so much but he broke my heart and left me in the cold. After crying my eyes out night on end, I finally was able to put him out of my mind. Many months later he's now back on bended knees pleading for my heart. I feel bad about what he did and going back to him may not be a wise idea. But deep down my heart, I still love him. What should I do?
2006-09-06 02:47:37 · 24 answers · asked by Sarah N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DONT!! Please, i have been there and done that... many times. If you go back you will begin a cycle that never ends.
He probably broke your heart to leave you for a few months to play the field... Don't be stupid, you know he did... Why would you want to take him back after he had been with someone else?
I know its hard..I know you probably still do care... but save your sanity and move on. Tell him you don't want him...make him believe it and make yourself believe it too. Go out with the girls, have fun. Go dancing. Go shopping. Give yourself time to get over those hurt feelings. When you realize how much fun you have with your friends you will forget why you felt like you needed him, and you will feel great to be able to tell him that (especially after how he hurt you!).
Please don't go back... It makes me sick to think of what it was like for me. I don't want anyone to make the same mistakes!
2006-09-06 02:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been thru the same thing. I ask myself time and time again if he asked to be with me again will i go back, even though its over and deep down i still love him? The answer is NO. For one whatever he did hurt u apparently and he didnt love u in the first place or he didnt realize what good of a woman he had. Two if u go back to him trust me it wont be the same because now u wont be able to trust him and u will have a barrier around u and u will eventually stress over that. And ur right, u stilll feel bad about what he did even though u tried to push him out of ur mind, which means that ur not fully healing from what happened. I think u should stop and try to take care of urself first, heal from what happened and grow and learn from it. U may still have love for him but honey he doesnt deserve u. Please take care of urself and heal ur mind,body and soul.
2006-09-06 10:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just gonna break your heart again. Remember why you two broke up in the first place. You got over him, and you don't need him. Still loving him and caring about him are two different things. My ex and I don't speak, and pretty much despise each other, but I care about him to the extent that I want to know that he's okay. You have no reason to feel bad about what HE did because HE did it and you didn't do anything to deserve the heartache he gave you. Let him go, it's better for the both of you.
2006-09-06 09:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not Do It!!! You may still love him but I doubt very much if you will be able to trust him again. You will always have in the back of your mind that he left you. This will destroy any chance of a relationship right from the beginning. Please don't do it, there is a reason this relationship finished, it is the cosmos' way of telling you he is not the one for you. Go out there and find your soulmate and leave this dog where he belongs, not with you!
2006-09-06 09:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't do it. Enjoy your life now that you we're able to take him out of your heart, think really good about it before you do anything. Maybe you can just tell him that you need some time and that you would love to remain friends and see how that goes, play around and enjoy your self your young and don't need to be tied down with some guy that doesn't know how to value you for what your worth.
2006-09-06 09:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by sour_apple809 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont fall for it. Its a step back. If you werent good enough the first time around what makes you think the second time is gon be better? You will always think about what he did to you in the past. I dont think your heart is still in love with him. Your emotions are just familiar with him because of your history. Being friends is good though. Move on.
2006-09-06 12:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Blkoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether he has always been a good or bad guy or may be love was too blind to see?
You know him better than most of us and asking us is simply to reinforce what you already know you want to do.
I may be wrong but I bet he is not such a good guy and you know it,however he has that side quality you think you can't do without. He Is sometimes this loving guy but wont he hesitate to hurt you again?
Please think hard. If he is worthy your heart how far are you ready to risk it again,Mmm?Fate guide your decision.
2006-09-06 10:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by Elsalsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be strong and walk away - i know it's tough, but think of all those tearful nites - they suck - now he is out of your mind, do you really want to possibly revisit all those emotions? you know it's not a wise idea to go back, so don't do it - you're better off alone than with a guy that left you in the cold - let him feel the pain that you did.
2006-09-06 09:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on alot how long you guys where together and what he did to break your heart. It's going to be hard because even though you love him there are going to be trust issues. Your not going to know when or if he's going to walk out on you again. It's a chance your taking and if you can handle it then I say go for it. If you can't you know wher to go and what to do.
2006-09-06 09:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him and more importantly does he really love you. With any relationship there is loads of pain, but all it boils down to is the above and do you trust him not to end your world again
Call me a cycnic but women I have completely trusted before have shown an amazing capacity to lie through their teeth
So my friend at the end of the day, it gets dark and only you can know if you can give him your trust
Good Luck and hope you dont have more tears x
2006-09-06 09:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by greydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋