I've broke up with my bf a weak ago. We've been together for 4 years and we loved eachother very much but we keep fighting all the time lately and decided that we can't be together any more. Few days ago i met such a cute guy who is 2 years yunger then me , he is very inteligent, goodlooking,and he also likes me and I would like to be with him but I can't stop wandering is it too soon.It's just a crush, but we're spending a lot of time together every day (because of my job) and I'm having butterflys in my stomach when we looks at me, talks to me... I'm realy begining to like him.
Does being with this guy means that relationship I had with my ex ment nothing to me,because it's not true? what should I do?
2006-09-06 02:43:19 · 19 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They say that the recovery time for a relationship is 1/2 as long as the relationship was: ie, if you were in a relationship for 2 years, then you'd really be ready to date/be in a relationship in 1 year. However, there's no shame in dating a guy who's better than your ex.
Chances are, you're like me, and after a while of being with the same person the butterflies go away. When you get the butterflies with someone else, then it's natural to want to get more involved! Just be careful, you don't want to run the risk of him being a rebound guy. Be up-front with him about the recent ending of your other relationship.
2006-09-06 02:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just butterflies... like you said. You have had a week to recover from a 4 year relationship that was probably very emotionally draining.
Give yourself about a month (at least). You can still have fun with the new guy and talk to him and stuff. Just don't jump into it. You are probably just feeling flattered because someone is giving you positive attention and everyone likes that. But dont get into something before you let yourself heal from the last relationship and figure out what you really want.
Enjoy being a single girl for a while.. If you make him wait for you, you will both appreciate the relationship more once you actually begin it. :)
2006-09-06 02:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not mean that your past relationship meant nothing. But since you were in a relationship for 4 years and are now free, this is probably very exciting. The thought of somebody different. You might be attracted to this guy, even like him, but before you pursue a serious relationship with somebody else, make sure that all of your past feelings and problems are gone. Otherwise, in the long run a new relationship wont have much of a chance. There is nothing wrong with meeting new people, or even dating new people for that matter. But do you really want to start a new serious relationship a week after you left one? Just take it slow and if it was meant to be something more it will be.
2006-09-06 02:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn's mean that your previous relationship meant nothing, It just means that you like this guy and he's helping you through a very rough time right now.
I'd suggest easing up a bit, so as to make sure you are sure you want to go further. Make sure you're over your ex and that you really like this new guy because sometimes we don't really look very closely at the rebound guy and he ends up being less than what we thought.
Good luck.
2006-09-06 02:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you were with your bf for 4 years it sounds like you left him a long time ago. I say go for it but be careful of the feelings of your ex. No need to rub it in.
2006-09-06 02:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by bradthepilot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you were with the guy for 4 years then it could possibly be too soon.....But in your lifetime you don't have to wait a certain amount of time. I usually wait about a month unless the relationship before was doomed...
2006-09-06 02:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by Crazychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesnt mean that at all. It sounds like its been over for awhile, but you two just finally made it permanent. Its ok to move on when your heart is ready to move on. Dont worry about what others say. YOU know that you loved your ex. Thats all that matters. I say if you want to move on and get to know this new guy better, then do it.
2006-09-06 02:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were with your ex a long time some marriages dont last that long anymore,you need to get over him first i think its too soon to get in another relationship,maybe your used to being with someone and this other guy would fill that void,jumping into something too soon wont help you find what you are really looking for. good luck
2006-09-06 02:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear ... give some more time to realize whether it's a love or jus a crush and ....as soon as u realize tht it's luv go for it ... !!! but make sure u dun feel bad later on tht he's younger than u coz for me i wud never want my bf to b younger than me ..but if it's true love then ofcourz jus go for it n dun look backwards ..past always hurt....k take care i hope my question have helped u out :) thx tc
2006-09-06 02:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by gurl_typical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep spending time together as friends and if something is to come of the relationship then it will..
2006-09-06 02:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by jhaejhae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋