Why do girls have children with boyfriends?

Question

Don't you think that to have a child you suppose to be married since it's very unstable and inconvenient to have a child with just a boyfriend.

I think when you having children out of wedlock its immoral, doesn't give you enough legal rights and your boyfriend can tell you any time I have no obligations for you since you not my wife, what would affect their children. It's harder to walk away from marrige also. Also unmarried man have better options to look on the side.

Answer 1

i dont think girls and guys are intending to have kids when they have sex, but it is one of the possible side effects of having sex.

Answer 2

Many children are not planned, but are nonetheless welcomed by both parents. Since many adults can and do have sex outside of marriage, there is always the possibility of contraception failing with the logical result.

Some people simply don't wish to get married. If neither person is particularly religious, then marriage is a much less powerful institution. Other people may not wish to spend the thousands of [currency] that results from holding a wedding, even just a small one, and would rather spend the money on the house or the children, or even on a treat for the couple.

With the shift in trends over the past century or so, divorce is no longer considered such a shameful thing and neither is cohabitation. Given that marriages break up, it is not a permanent way of binding two people together and there are many couples who appreciate that marriage will not save the relationship dissolving if it is going to dissolve.

Some people prefer the convenience of cohabitation. Sometimes they fear that marriage will change what is a happy relationship into something sour. Many couples continue cohabiting for years and years for this reason. Others prefer that the financial situations are kept seperate. This is particularly common where one partner is much wealthier than the other, or when one partner is holding an inheritance that they want to go to children of a first relationship and they don't want their new boyfriend/girlfriend to have a claim to that inheritance.

Some couples don't marry because there are different religions within the relationship, and there would be a lot of difficulty organising ceremonies that would keep both partners and their respective families happy.

There are lots of reasons why a couple may not want to get married before having children. The inconvenience of the father being a boyfriend is minimal, given that he can still be named on the birth certificate and is then recognised as the father with all the responsibility thereof.

Answer 3

Marriage is just a piece of paper! I have 2 kids with my BF and we have been together since 2002 and lived together for about 5 years now! We plan to get married when I finish school and starighten up some credit things but he is more loyal than many husbands. My parents were married and had a dishonest relationship but hey they were married ! My dad was not a good father and my mother was deceitful.Then when they argued they screamed and disrupted the whole house. We of course argue but never raise our voices. We are honest and teach our kids to be the same. But we are worse parents because we aren't married?? WHATEVER!

Answer 4

I don't think a boyfriend is a factor. Women haven't been going the traditional while of marriage and then children for awhile now. If she is financially ready (if you ever are!) and mature enough to raise a child, I don't think she needs to be married or even have a boyfriend (or vice versa for the men). She does need to keep in mind that if this boyfriend is just a temporary thing, she needs to take her children into consideration. They don't need men coming in and out of their lives like that. Hopefully this won't offend anyone as this is only my opinion.

Answer 5

Sometimes stuff happens....or life happens. Or a couple has been together for a long time, decide not to get married, then have children. But in many cases, they get pregnant first(which I like to call the "backwards way"). Whether a couple is married when they have children or not, does not mean the relationship will last. Judge not, for you have not walked a day in their shoes.

Answer 6

Someone else pointed out that they didn’t plan to have children. Having children is a side effect of having sex. He is correct.

The fact is almost all my friends, from HS (22 years ago) have children by more than one women (the women you are asking about). None of them planned on having their children. They just happened because nobody thinks about the consequences of sex. I have asked many dozen people about this. Most of them used birth control for the first time after the second or third pregnancy.

Answer 7

Ive been a single parent of two boys for 11 years. my children have a very stable life and they are both very smart when it comes to school, I dont picture my kids being criminals or drug users or having kids when they are teenagers, My children are well educated and are very smart when it comes to diffrent things, Just because Im not married doesnt mean my kids are going to turn out to be "thugs" I raise my kids very well yes Im sure its difficult on them because they have a piece of garbadge father but they know they are loved and that I do everything in my power to take care and educate my children

Answer 8

I fell down a rabbit hole on this one once.

http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=30279090&blogID=162749230&MyToken=da8a0c9a-4ebf-415f-829e-a2c153fb902a

heh.

"Stuff" doesn't "just happen". If you have sex, you accept the possibility of becoming pregnant. Realisticly, there aren't that many real "rape babies". Other than women crying rape, there's still an awful lot of highschool girls doing that because they lack any level of maturity.

You don't fall on a dick and get pregnant darf oops! It's not an accident.

Answer 9

I agree. Kids need to see what`s traditional. And institutional marriage ain`t crap. Mine ain`t, and i`ve been institutionalised for 28 years. I also don`t think you should get any benefits for kids. If you have `em you should support `em. Not the state.

Answer 10

Because they want to keep him, they know that the boyfriend wil be rich someday and all they want is money, even if they aren't together, what will keep them together is they child/children. She will ask for child maintenance which will became face and body as soon as she receives the money. It's either that or it is because they are dumb.

Answer 11

I don't think girls have a ficking clue about how difficult it is to raise a baby. They think they'll be like Baby Alive, and instead mamas find themselves playing Survivor - outwit, outlast, outplay. Its a ***** of a lesson to have to find out the hard way