My ex- wife keeps changing the pickup dates for our son and refuses to accept my phone calls?

Question

It appears that every time I make an arrangement with my ex-wife, she changes the appointment by stating that our son (who is eight) has choir practice or a family reunion.

When I call to speak with my son, he sounds as if he is reading a rehearsed message and is very vague on the phone. Until recently, my new wife and I kept him for the summer and when we returned him to his mother, all she did was gripe about missing clothes.
When I asked her to make a list of the missing items, she couldn't recall. Lastly, I pay child support and I'm a good father to my son, how can I move past these petty issues and get back to seeing my son?

Answer 1

I know this is a really hard situation and that sometimes one parent or the other behaves immaturely or doesn't always put the child's best interests first.
Have you thoguht about some kind of third party mediation maybe with the grand parents or with a councilor to work through this and come up with a plan.
Of course children/s plans do change all the time and if you do live far away it can be stressful on the child to have to live a long way away.
Also children know when there is tension between parents and try very hard to please both parents and will worry about upsetting anyone.
You sound like you want to resolve these issues and i am sure your ex wife does to, if you try and keep things mature and practical I am sure you will be able to work through this.
Good luck

Answer 2

If you want to protect your interest in your child's life. The only answer would be get an attorney. Let the court take the burden off of everyone involved more so your son! Just reassure him you love him.

Just get it done make it legal and hope for the best! Good luck..

With a smile,
Mo

Answer 3

Eww yeah sticky situation. Sounds like you have a bitter ex-wife. Try just talking to her. If she refuses to do that then I really dont know what to tell you. Why is she so bitter? Maybe if you can get to the root of that question and try to discuss it with her and resolve issues it would help. But if this was not a messy divorce and no one had an affair or whatever I dont see why shes being like that.

Answer 4

If you want to get to the nitty gritty yes a lawyer but maybe she's still hurting and it will pass in time hopefully. She needs to look at the big picture and realize she needs to do whats best for your son and keeping him from his father is not doing any good unless your not a positive influence on him. I dont know the situation but i hope it all works out.

Answer 5

first of al how many family reunions doesd this bimbo have one every week?? ir how much choir practice is this geting 7 days a week here?? and your son is being coached bye your ex bimbo as too what too say here!! okay you say your new wife had the kid for the sumerr why dident you sit downe with and say look you unhapy whats going on behind the scenes here we are amazed you had this kid for a entire summer and just around and stared at one another. and mising clothes are you running a nudist colony there??okay she couldent recall thats a bimbo for ya, is she hiding the clothes are they brand new what?? you need too see a atourney here shes forgeting things making up excues and is a half baked bimbo having family reunions every week right. dont refuse too pay the cild support just drag her hind end back too court its all pety bul!! and how much choir practice can the kid absorb?? during the sumer i would have questioned the kid too a certain point.

Answer 6

She is playing head games and as usual for you, she is being a ***** and a pain in the ***. Take this twit back to court and reverse the discomfort back onto her. People like her would have had their butts kicked so they would never forget it in the old days. Too Bad you can't publicly embarrass her some way.

Answer 7

Sweet Jebus I hate to say this, but you may be well served to get your child one of those Firefly cell phones and instruct him to call you if he is going to be late, or at the very least he can tell you where he is and you can pick him up a church. You can also get the courts involved again, but that may be costly for you.

Answer 8

My brother lost contact with his daughter 12 years ago because his wife kept doing the very same thing. He was granted access to see his daughter but the ex wife made things as difficult as possible for him. Having wiped him clean financially she had nothing to loose. I would have pressed to take the wife to court on behalf of my parents who were also denied access, but they would not do this as they thought it would harm my brothers chances of being able to see his daughter. I would advise you seek legal help before you loose your daughter altogether. my brother has written letters and made audio tapes so that if and when she does contact him she will have proof that he has tried constantly to be in contact with her over the years. My heart goes out to you, but please seek legal help.

Answer 9

Call your local police department, IF you have rights to have him on certain days and he wants to come you can get the police to come with you and get your son. You can let her know that you are willing to fight for your son, If your son likes you better or likes to live with you more. you can try to take her to court, Your son is of age were he knows were he wants to live. You might get full custody

Answer 10

SR. FOR WHAT EVER REASSON SHE WILL NEVER BE REALLY HAPPY, ABOUT THE SITUATION, MAYBE SHE HASNT FOUND REAL LOVE, AND IF YOU DID, RESPECT her loneliness, and dont argue so much with her, agreed to any date she gives you with your son, i am a son of a divorced famuly, one warning, its very easy to the son t fall in love with her step mother, i venn there. dont make it much more confussing for your son, by figthing your ex, respect her grief, she sounds unhappy, and envious of your new found love, someone has to be the inspiring voice of reasson, calm and zen to him,, your child, dont create any more difficult, hardcore habits adults, the world is full of that. be the voice of calm, patience and reasson, you are allready enjoying a nice piece of woman, we all want thatm even your son will want that, dont make it difficult for him, help him understand the stupidity and sometimes uncompability of us, stuoid adults.