For the guys,what is it you want from a woman,is it just sex?

Question

I am really curious as to how many men out there are just interested in sex or do they really long for a life of love and commitment,someone to hold for life or just use and go on

Answer 1

No silly, we need someone to cook and clean and wash our clothes too :)

Answer 2

Sex and physical care touching cuddling, kissing is very important but its only one part of a relationship.

Relationships are about sharing life in all sorts of ways and it's best to do that with a friend.

If I get the combination of good friend who turns me on that's the best combination.

I'm great at making friends and can be friends with someone that has different values but for a life partner values are also very important.

Typically in the past I've been attracted to women first, then got to know them as friends, obviously next stage is sex and then of course all the chemicals kick in. The chemicals keep going for a year then I'm great at being friends so that lasts for two years (3 years) but typically there has been something wrong, i.e: shared values. I haven't quite clicked on the shared value thing, so have ended up going in different directions and then splitting up. In a couple of cases with some resentment which builds up as we go in different directions

This time my approach is going to be:

1) who am i attracted to, physically, chemically, sexually
2) what are their values, are we compatible
3) dreams and future stuff
4) can we be good friends

if these are all OK then sex, because it's the sex that gets me into a relationship which isn't really going to work well long term. Human race has evolved so much in the last fifty years and we all want so much out of life, in the past I think sex happened and then society had you stay together even if you hated each other for decades. Life is to short for that these days.

Of course my plan is the theory, good intentions don't always hold out :). Depends upon my discipline and my ability to hold on for delayed gratificiation.

Hope this helps, I'm mid thirties though and I know I thought differently in my twenties.

Answer 3

TAMMI M:

What is it that guys want from a woman, is it just sex? It depends upon your age and maturity level. As well as a persons wants and desires. In logical sense a male will want friendhip, love, carressing, babied, gentleness, and trust in his mate, girlfriend, friend, or wife. As most men our desires are looking to the future and what the plans willl unfold. We often ask ourselves over and over: Do I want an everlasting relationship with this woman? Is this my true soul mate? Is she only good for sex? What about her attributes? Can she be trusted around other men? Can she stay true blue? Is she a "Player" or down-to-earth-person? Is she loving or spiteful? Vixen or Careing? Gold digger or partner? Lover or just user? Shes pretty on the outside, but what makes her tick on the inside? Shes stacked, but is she worth the time? She is pretty, but is it only skin deep? What is her interests? Does her accomplishments benefit both her and you? Is she a slut, prostitute, lover, whor, or plain "just her:? Has she had a lot of men and hopped from bed to bed? Is she safe to have sex with, or is she hiding a disease that could eventually have rapid repercussions? Is she a one guy gal or multiple guy gal? Can she fill my most wanted needs? Is she intelligiant or stupid? Mature or girlish? druggie or alcoholic? There are many questions a man asks himself, before committing or staying with a female, those above are just a few. When guys are young they have one thing on their mind and nothing else and thats having conquest in sex with a woman and as many as he can seduce one way or another. Unfortunately a woman gets pregnat and wham-all of a sudden the old cliche-"Ain't mine its his or I am not the only one she slept with!" Or a man runs away because she scared him off by threats or being untrue! As a guy matures he begins to think of a future, a good career, a family, the right woman. Then he begins to extract facts and figures of what if this or what if that?
Most middle aged and older males have already been down the old road of "only sex" then reaches back into his past to find that one special person they left in the wings somewhere, and usually by then their long gone- he then shifts to a more logical and thoughtful approach. Where do I go from here? They start searching and searching, trying to figure who, what, when, and where? He then seeks out the loving companionship of another woman he can find that is available and then they start all over again, only this time, their older, wiser, and smarter.
Now their ready for committment unless, they have had a bad relationship, then its very coy and very touchy.
Does a guy only want sex from a woman? When they are young thats the truth, when they get older and more mature, its a different story. Some guys like me learned at an early age, what to seek in a woman, we were always taught the rights and wrongs of things about a woman and nature kicks up our hormones and how to be a gentleman and a true trusting relationship-but then again, I was brought up on the farm many moons ago and we country, half cheyenne/sioux indians are taught totally differently, we were taught to respect the women and treat them as equals in many things. Again I am from old school and today our value and traditions that the younger folks use today are not even close to what our teachings and value were. In this fast paced, technilogical world today, we often go after: the" fast bucks" and do not want to listen to others who are wiser and older. A one night stand is the "Big issue" today and unfortunately we turn the tables of time and eventually find it to late to return to that "Special one" we left behind! And so life ever goes in its ever circling cycle, as the Hawk soars and the Eagle far sees, so does our young men today...

Answer 4

I'm usually looking for someone who can challange me mentally and physically. Can she whoop my *** in Tennis, or can she wrestle me to the ground? Heck even if she tries and wants to get better that's great. Can she work her brain and challange my opinions and thought process that I grow intellectually? Is she commited to me, does she notice the sacrifices I make, or the extra efforts I take to please her or surprise her, or anything allong those lines. Can I actually tell her she's beautiful and mean it? That one is also important, I want to be able to say that lets say 20 years from now. No I don't have anyone right now... Okay and the last yes sex is important, but in a different way. To me it is just a bonus to the relationship, a way to highten our intamacy for one another. A way to show the highest form of affection.

Answer 5

i generally NEED a woman and less in the WANT stage

surly we want sex but the question here is what's next to sex?

i mean momentarily it is but if you get used to it then us men will think that there's no difference between women and cars right?

so i think we (or some of us men) need women as our strength to go on living and fighting to the outside world and bring them the goods

lets face it guys behind ever successful men is...you know who

women has a GREAT role in our lives so i think some men knows what I'm talking about...

all in all just wanna say thanks to all you women out there and you should be proud of yourselves....

peace out...

Answer 6

it all has to do with maturity. When the guy's young like, 18-25, yeah, that's mainly what they're interested in. But when he matures, he wants more than that.

Answer 7

Sex is always high on the list, isnt it the same for woman

Answer 8

I never treat sex as casual. It is a thought, but not the driving goal

Answer 9

All I have ever wanted, which I have now, is honesty, caring, repect, and love. Sex comes after all those have been met.

Answer 10

It is just sex .