I live in Florida and my boyfriend lives in North Carolina. We both have busy schedules since he is an athlete and I have a baby on the way; we also bith go to school. I went to visit him this past weekend and found out that he flirts alot with the girls up there. He was hiding it and I only found out because she called his dorm room and I was suspicious as to who she was. Me and him have a two and a half year history with a couple breaks in between but supposedly wants us to get married and have a family together. I understand that we wont see each other for months at a time but does that make it ok assuming it doesnt go any farther than just flirting. Another factor to look at is the fact that I am a nude stripper and its my job to flirt and.... well I dont think I have to go into detail. But let it be known that I only do it cuz the money is good. Should I break up with him? Or should I allow flirtin to destroy the trust I have in him? HELP
2006-09-06 01:41:34 · 8 answers · asked by Monica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are lucky to have a person caring for you and want to be with you when times permit and you are around , as per your profession and way of life , you must allow him to do little bit flirting for the sake of killing boredom , mope you will understand the message and will take very mature decision to take care of your future . Good luck to you both .
2006-09-06 01:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Jack B, he is doing much more than just flirting with women because you said that you flirt, but how many of the people that you flirt with have your house/cell number? You have a reason to flirt because it gets you more money but what is his reason to flirt ? If you don't find out today, you will eventually find out the truth.
2006-09-06 08:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't allow him to do anything - it's his choice if he wants to flirt. If someone calls his dorm room don't assume that he is cheating. Sounds like you have things you need to work on if you want to stay together. You didn't say - is the baby his? Perhaps you should move closer to him if you want it to work.
2006-09-06 08:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one thing that military wives face all the time, How do you know that he doesn't have the same doubts about you - the key is to talk about these things that bother you and him - if they are out in the open then choices have to be made and discussed. Like how did this girl get his number - did he give it to her or did she get it some other way.If he knows what you do for a living and he's ok with it and still wants to marry you - I'd say he trusts you more than you do him !
2006-09-06 08:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by donalde 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's perfectly normal and healthy to flirt with the opposite sex. It doesn't mean you don't love the person you're with, or that you want to have sex outside of the relationship. For most people it's a way to get a little ego boost.
As long as it doesn't go any farther than flirting, I think you have nothing to worry about.
2006-09-06 08:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I assume he's the father of the baby? You strip while pregnant in a smoky bar? You are in a relationship and in a job where you have to flirt with other men? I believe you have more order needed in your life than your boyfriend.
2006-09-06 08:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by pixiechick 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is doing more than flirting if girls are calling his room dump him
2006-09-06 08:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by jack B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't dump him yet. Just pretend as if all is ok, if evidences of his flirticious attributes keep poping up then break up.
2006-09-06 08:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by hottest 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋