Ok. I'm 21, I'm attractive, I keep myself very nice, I dress nice, I am not slutty, and I have a good personality. I am very likable. I get hit on by alot of guys and even hot guys tell me I'm attractive. But the one guy who I absolutely adore and want to be with is my 18 yr old best guy friend. We have been friends for a little while now and I've always had more feelings for him, but I don't think he looks at me like that. People that know us think we'd be perfect together, think that he'd be lucky to have me, so why doesn't he look at me like that?! We slept together once, just recently, and we're still the same. We talk and whatever, but I want so much more from him. What do I do? How can he look at me as ok to sleep with but not as a gf when we are so close (we talk about everything and anything) and he feels comfortable enough to completely open up to me. What is going on here?
2006-09-06 01:27:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I was never dating the best friend of the guy I am talking about here. He was just a friend of mine who liked me, but I didn't like him that way, I want to be with the guy I am talking about here in this question. I never used him to get back at his friend or anything. You might want to make sure you know what you're talking about before you go on here accusing me of sleeping with and using guys
2006-09-06 02:10:17 · update #1
He doesn't think I sleep around, he knows I've only been with 3 people, including him, one was with my bf of 5 yrs.
2006-09-06 02:12:10 · update #2
hmm..in short..i think u guys are best of friends(basesd on the info that u gave,though it wasn't that much),i think getting to ask him for real would be good..if he' s a good guy fren,and if he likes u,u guys would have a good relationship..even if he doesn't have feellings for u,dun worry,it's just a conversation..
but if he doesn' tlike u at all,i think he's a cheap cos he will slp with u just for the sake of it..if that's really the case,dump him..
all the best,hope this works..
2006-09-06 01:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by alexgnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is you made your biggest mistake by sleeping with him. He now probably thinks you'll sleep with anybody, and has a lot less respect for you. Why is it so wrong to have a platonic relationship with someone who can truly be a friend and confidant? Sometimes it might take a long time, but real solid friendships can develop into long-lasting love.
Being a tramp isn't going to do anything to earn respect from him or any other guy - and, more importantly, won't earn you any self-respect, either. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: the more guys you sleep with, the more guys will think you're only good enough to sleep with, but certainly not good enough to have a close, committed, mature, long-term relationship with. Grow up, accept some responsibility for you life. -RKO-
2006-09-06 08:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by -RKO- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all because he is 18. Guys are still pretty immature emotionally at this age and generally not ready for the bigger stuff. Nature is not on your side, for now. Patience will do the work. If you can wait 3-5 years, and he will be yours. You're seem to be a very smart girl, so you know what to do meanwhile.
2006-09-06 08:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to get us to live your relationship for you, are you?
It certainly feels like it when I read back through your previous questions.
Are you going to make a move without asking what you should or shouldn’t do.
You aren’t looking for someone to blame if things go wrong, are you?
You neglected to mention in this question that the guy you slept with was the best friend of your guy friend (Refer to your question… Should I tell my guy friend that I slept with his best friend?)
That was a pretty important point to leave out, don’t you think.
It would make a damn big difference to the responses you’d get if people realised you had used this guy to cheat on his best mate.
I’m not going to try to help you.
Find someone else to blame when it all blows up in your face !!!
2006-09-06 08:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want any chance with him don't push your feelings onto him.
Were you guys intoxicated when you slept together or sober?
That will make a big difference.
Take things slowly.
I personally think doing him was a mistake, but only he can tell you what he's really feeling.
2006-09-06 08:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly is so open with you and you two talk about everything why do you ask that Q here? Sounds like he gets the milk for free.
2006-09-06 08:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Love is the principle thing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are u ?? so dump, that u sleep with a guy and then say ur not his gf, u are jsut 3 yr older to him, if u can talk about any thing and everything, what next step do u expect that he bends on one knee for u?????????
2006-09-06 08:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by cc20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wel i really think u shud sit bak wth him on a weekend n tlk to him abt whtever u wanna n do let him knw hw u feel abt him n hw much u care for him.And i really feel tht wil work out jus let him knw hw feel abt him okie.
2006-09-06 08:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you sleeping with 18 year old, you should be dating 22-27 year olds they have a whole diffent view on things, more like your own
2006-09-06 13:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think he feels your attracted to him? maybe he's shy to think that you would'nt like him back coz maybe he's thinking is he the one your looking for? maybe he's lack of self confidence. deffinitely he likes you also! try to show a little bit passion to made him feel that you like him to be your boyfriend! goodluck!
2006-09-06 08:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋