I've been seeing this guy for about 8 weeks, we've got it on and stuff and I really like him. He told me I saw sweet and he like's me but doesn't wanna rush into a relationship after a 3 month break from a 3 year messy ending relationship.
2006-09-06 00:58:03 · 24 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he just a bit scared of becoming official?
2006-09-06 01:00:52 · update #1
He didn't actually see this girl very much by the way, she lived abroad so they saw each other once every 3 weeks. She's now back abroad.
2006-09-06 02:32:00 · update #2
ya, he is scared of becomin official and he is afraid of hurtin u.. so no rush, tis hav to wait and see how.. if he truely loves you, he will wan u.
gd luck n take care.
2006-09-06 01:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's best that you take things very slow with this guy, the truth is you could just be the rebound girl, it's amazing that some people can move on so quickly and go straight into another relationship and they dont take time to grief the last one. It's never really a good idea to go straight into another relationship so soon. If I where you I would just be aware that when relationships end one person is always more hurt than the other and they should deal with it by spending time with friends and family to allow time to heal. Some men can't start another relationship so soon but for others its a walk in the park. Whatever your name is I suggest that you use your Intuition but be careful. Goodluck!
2006-09-06 09:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by filmstu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you gotta remember that a long term relationship has had so much been invested into it. When things don't work out, it doesn't automatically guarantee that the emotions felt would go away like the blink of an eye. What you need to do is be patient with this guy you are seeing. Right now think with your head and this will help you stay rational. You will be thankful in the end
2006-09-06 08:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a three year relationship 3months isn't a huge amount of time to get someone out of your system. And rushing into something heavy is probably the furthest thing from his mind. He will be nervous and wont want to rush things. After I broke up with my long term girlfriend (3yrs 6mths) my longest relationship was about 2/3mths for about a 2yr period. Its only in the past 6mths or so that I feel I am now ready to have anouther real relationship. Its not that he is using you he, probably will just need some space emotionaly to get over somebody he was in love with. The timeing is just bad.
2006-09-06 08:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by mog65757575 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he says he likes you, I would leave it at that. What you gopt to remember is he has just finished a relationship of 3 years. that is a long time out of someone's life. I was dating a guy who had been with someone for 2 years and he wasn't commitment phobic, he just wanted to take things slowly. Be patient but if he doesn't come through in the end with you still wanting more out of it mayeb you should move on... Good luck x
2006-09-06 08:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by brumbeep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the guy in question and the circumstance's of his last relationship. If you are having to ask whether or not he is using you then i think you have answered your own question!
Don't let anyone use you you are better than that and there are plenty of nice guys out there just have to give them a chance.
2006-09-06 08:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by ladybirdjk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and space. If he really loves you, he will be back and he will let you know. Guys often fear commitment, especially after being in a bad relationship. They are in no hurry to get back into a similar situation. Good luck.
2006-09-06 08:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by sunshineasd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation and it end up as me being used to help him get over the ex once he was over her i was gone and forgotten............... but each person is difference and he might just be scared of getting hurt, try talking it through with him over a pint and see what he says but bear in mind blokes are not really into expressing themselves easily, if you do really like him and he asures you he is not using you just be paitent. x
2006-09-06 08:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody coming out of a longterm relationship may well need time. And this can be a genuine thing. Give him space and see what happens.
2006-09-06 08:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Felidae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some more time , mean time help him to resettled , start taking interest in his hobbies / note down his liking - dislikings , find out his family background and his relatives & friend circle etc to make you more confident to take apropriate and mature deciesion . Good luck .
2006-09-06 08:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both men and women need some space after they have come out of a relationship to sort things out and get grounded again. particularly the kind of relationship he was just in. he needs time to heal and get over her. don't push him too fast give him some space.
2006-09-06 08:09:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋