help me if you can?

Question

hello everybody...i am 22 yrs old and i am in love with a girl in my college for the first time in my life..It was somthing like love at first site..i started to like her before becoming her friend..(not on the basis of her looks)..i don't know how to explain it...but i think i love her and wud like to marry her and spend my rest of the life with her..the problem here is she doesn't seem to like me..i have tried speaking with her many times to know much about her..though she answers all my question she behaves as if she is not interested to speak with me..whenever there is place beside me to sit..she wud never come and sit beside rather she wud tell one of her fnds to sit beside me and she wud sit in their place..all these days i was sending SMS to her..but now i have stopped just to check weather she is sending one to me...but she hasn't don't that until now..she is rly friendly and close with other guys in my college..she seems to be like this only with me..rly hurts a lot..HELP ME

Answer 1

It is called a crush...you are young..and i had this happen..I think she is not interested...pls... move on.....and invest your time in someone who likes you.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have thought about this a lot. However, I think you need to pace yourself.
Sometimes, people need to warm up to you.
Sounds like she has become a little more comfortable with you, since she is the one that has contacted you this time.
So at least take that as a sign that she thinks about you as at least a casual friend, at least for now.
If you are interested in pursuing her, you need to contact her back and let her know that you are not ignoring her. That could probably send a signal that casual friends is all you are interested in.
Keep up the conversation and ask her if she would like to meet you for coffee or something. You have to start small and work on a relationship. That's just the way it works.
If you two can find something in common, it would help.
You need to have normal conversations and find something to laugh about together.
Normal relationship steps. Your first one on one 'date' isn't the place to confess your love for her, but you need to actually HAVE a date before you can think of moving further.
If she isn't interested in becoming more than friends, most women don't have a hard time letting guys know that it's as far as they are willing to go. You just have to be prepared for that as well.

Answer 3

My Friend u r exactly ( I repeat exactly again)going the same way I was going when i was in the college and attracted to a girl( my class mate) even i used to think of spending life with her, but she had no feelings for me, and mind it Bryan when u will pass out of college u will find a better girl then her, as i found my girl Friend, she is lot more intellect than the one i loved in my college life so my suggestion to u is to go straight away propose her, if she turn u down don't worry at all u will definitely find u r partner as I found when i was losing hope to find one.

Answer 4

Ahh, welcome to life. After being married for 11 years, I am dating again and it is still the same. The object of the game in dating is to find someone who has feelings just as strong as you do. That is tough. You will probably feel this way again and others may feel strongly about you but you don't have those feelings in return. But one day, when you do meet someone and you both share those feelings, it is amazing. It is worth all the love and pain you will go through. So hang in there. I know it hurts now but time does heal.

Answer 5

If I had a nickel! I'd give it time. You may want to just ask her for time with her. Let her get to know you...allow her to see that you are a man of honor and not a creep. Give it time...but I'd make some move if I were you...if she doesn't respond I'd move on...and I know that's hard when you feel as you do. Maybe invite her for an evening walk..girls love that. Be a gentlemen, allow her to see this side of you.
Never be a jerk or brag...she will see right through that..be yourself...but bold.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Sorry to inform you, but she doesn't seem to be interested. I know that sucks, but there really isn't anything you can do. Try to meet some other girls at your school and attempt to move on. Life is too short to be waiting around for someone who probably won't feel the same way about you. It won't be easy, but it sounds like the best thing to do. The best way to do it is to just leave her alone entirely. If you keep torturing yourself, you'll never be able to move on. Good luck and be strong.

Answer 7

It sounds like you already know that she isn't interested in you. So you need to stop waiting for her to pay you some attention and notice you. Youre only going to hurt your own feeling more than they already are. This is the time to move on. She will certainly notice if you do move on, and if there is any intrest on her part that will put her in action, if she's not interested you will certainly know for sure, and you will be reaping the benifits of other new relationships.

Answer 8

i think you`re scaring her,or maybe you are wearing too much Cologne,seriously,i`ve had to ask guys to sit elsewhere for this reason.cannot understand why she doesn`t like you.i think for some reason,she is your idea of the perfect girl & you`re prabaly in lust. honey, face it ,you can admire someone,however to love someone like this & seek her out,when she has made it clear about her feelings shows you need to work on yourself.is it low self -esteem? please just work on getting her out of your head. be yourself,when you`re acting like a love-struck puppy.a lot of times you try to hard to impress,it`s a turn-off,try to fiqure out,whats turning her off, turn-offs are talking too much,bragging,being tooserious, lighting up laugh more. treat her like everyone else-try to joke when she trades places-like say hey great to the other person, i`d rather sit beside you. work on this,don`t despair, she may come around,good luck

Answer 9

if the fact that she doesnt want to sit by u isnt enough to tell you then just tell her how u feel and ask her how she feels about u she seems kinda snobbish bro i think u should just look for another girl good luck with whatever u decide to do

Answer 10

Just because you are besotted with this person...it dosent mean she feels the same about you, maybe you should let this one go before you become irritating to her, then she'll have a real problem with you...if you turn your attentions away from her, who knows maybe then she will notice you (reverse psychology).

Answer 11

you know sometimes girls are playing hard to get. the more you show them you like them the more they ignore. i know it would be hard for you coz you said you really love her but why don't you try to give your self a break. give her time to realize how important you are. if time goes and she acts the same then it's time for you to move on. you can still find someone to love that can love you also back!