I met this guy through my ex boyfriend. My ex was my boyfriend at the time. We got on really well and had loads in common. We even swapped mobile numbers. He kept texting me all the time asking me to meet up with him for drinks but as I was with by ex at the time, although i fancied him, i wasnt interested. I told him this and he understood but still he kept asking me out. this went on for about a year! my ex obviously wasnt happy with him texting me all the time and kept referring to him as a player!and that he was only interested in the chase!since ive split from my boyf, i have met up with this bloke on two occasions. nothing has happened between us other than a kiss. ive told him that i like him and he says he likes me too. he knows all the right things to say. however, thats as far as its gone. he seems to have gone "cold". was it just the chase?is it because im now wanting him to text me that it seems that hes not so much anymore?
2006-09-06 00:13:28 · 23 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He used to work with my Ex boyfriend. They were not friends. got speaking to him at m Exs leaving do.
2006-09-06 00:19:40 · update #1
Perhaps he's feeling the waters, he knows you split up with your boyfriend and you have only met two times. I think he's letting things go at their own pace, as far as texting you...perhaps since you're seeing each other in person he doesn't feel he needs to text you as often. The best thing to do is ask him about it, if he really likes you the way he says he does then he will tell you what he's feeling.
By the way, very few guys are only interested in chasing girls so don't let your ex send doubts. Trust your heart and instincts and see where they lead. Good luck.
2006-09-06 00:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by swordsmanoflight21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im currently in a similar situation.Guys like this are called self startlers which means that when they cant have you,they want you and vice versa.It also means that they start what they cant finish and leaves us confused.They think it,they want it,they go after it but then they cant handle it!They get so caught up in the moment and when they realize that you are all up in their faces or space,they back off and dont want no part of the relationship.They scare themselves basically.Okay.your ex was right to a certain extent but that could have just been jelousy.But arent you glad you figured this all out by yourself and didnt just believe your ex?As far as the other guy goes-forget about him.He may like you but thats where it stops.Dont expect anything from him cause he aint gona commit himself in any way!Sweet!
2006-09-06 07:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you coming on a bit to strong. If he wasnt expecting that it may have taken him by supprise. Perhaps hes just a bit shy face to face..ok at the end of a text but in reality a bit quieter that he wants to be. Best way to find out is to ask him straight what he wants or what his plans are. if he hasnt got the right answers for you then you would be better off dumping him and looking elsewhere for male freindship
2006-09-06 07:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lone Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Chase is over & he has the chance 2 have U 2 hiself, now what does he do?
Playing it cool!
UR choice give him a reason 2 chase U again or tell him U really aren't interested in mind-games & him being cold now, after texting U 4 over a year!
Men!
Aren't they weird?
2006-09-06 07:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was dating someone,who i knew was moving to a new country in the next 3 months. i met a whole group of his friends ,and started flirting with one, the other did move and i am now married to the other.
the person who talks about the rule is blowing , because you are not a schoolkid and it's not like it's your sister or even friend' ex boy.
for him to have persued you so long seems quite sweet, seeing him twice and only having a kiss is fine. maybe he is in no rush ,just like he was patient to wait for you. in fact i would like that . if you trust his intentions ,then be patient or take matters into your own hand.
who knows your ex may be coming to your future wedding as happened to me.
2006-09-06 07:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be revenge towards your ex . To get even over some thing which happened before you met...... Now your not together i would not pin your hopes on this new guy Find another man a fresh start...
2006-09-06 07:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would meet with him again and speak to him. This may lead to making something official. Let him know how you feel again and he should let you know in return. If it doesn't work then i would move on. Ive went through a similar situation but i moved on so its best to just find out what going on with him? Good luck with everything.
2006-09-06 07:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by clairie1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was making a play for you whilst you were still in a relationship with his 'Friend' what makes you think he will treat you well?
Decent men do not make a play for their friends lovers! Players do!
I bet if you blank him by not answering his texts or making any contact he will come running because its his ego he loves, not you, and that's why he made a play for his friends girlfriend. To make him feel great about himself. I wonder why he doesn t feel great about himself anyway? Hum mm lucky escape I reckon!
Don t take it personally, its his problem not yours and he probally does it all the time.
2006-09-06 07:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Nicola H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to cooloff with this guy!
It's quite clear that you have limited your circle of friends because of your ex.
Why is it necessary to be attached with the first person of the opposite sex whom you get to know? Why can't you get to know as many friends as possible, without committing yourself first?
Do it first, to get to know everyone better. Then you will have a wider choice of possible partners to choose from, right?
What is the hurry to be attached or to choose a partner? It is so much better for you to be free to get to know each and everyone better, before you commit to a relationship that will lead to the longer term. Share this with all your friends, then there won't be so many break-ups between couples.
2006-09-06 07:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this bloke needs his head kicked in, he obviously has no morals or respect for anyone apart from himself I'm surprised your ex didn't confront him at the time, is just rude and disrespectful. why are some women so dumb that they still go for idiots like that?
2006-09-06 07:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by crownose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋