i've been eye-balling this chick for the past six months and i fear that if i approach her she will give me a cold look or reject me & my self esteem is at its all time low, please help me
2006-09-06 00:01:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Approaching women is all about how you feel about being rejected. Women want the guy who doesn't get intimidated by her.
Ask her while expecting a no. Many times that's what you'll get, but sometimes, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Don't use the advice to think of her as nothing... not a good idea! Also, not realistic, and not true.
If you really wanted to go out with her, and she says no, show her that you are really disappointed. She just may be testing you, and say yes.
2006-09-06 00:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it!
Most people have a fear of "rejection".
If one does not overcome that fear, and in another sense, that person likely would never succeed as a salesman.
As one matures fear of rejection is generally overcome. Life hands out rejection to all of us and one finally realizes that "nothing happens".
Think of it this way. Ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that can happen"? If an invitation to someone is polite, non threatening, sincere, and without "sexual inference", the average person may do no more than answer with a "no thanks" or just a polite "no".
We have all witnessed boys, adult men, who use some smart as* remark in their approach. Even those kind of men have some fear of rejection, and feel that they will be turned down, but, "Ah Ha", just what I expected. Snobby bit**." They received what they sowed.
They feel justified with the insult.
Always ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that can happen?" Once you accept that, even if the answer is "a no", that's it. That's all.
A refusal may have nothing to do with you, but lots of other reasons, and no one is obligated to explain a polite "no". If the reply is some insult, you don't need that person in your life.
2006-09-06 07:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Younger guys tend to feel this way because they haven't realized that for every hott chick, there is one hotter. For every smart chick, there is one smarter. And if that one particular chick you are eye-balling doesn't like you its the end of the world right.
Wrong. You have to think like shes nothing, just another person that has no significance in this world. She could be gone and nobody would give a sh1t.
Think that way and your self esteem should boost up. Also being cocky mentally works as well. Just dont let it show on the outside, be a ****** self.
Yeah thats all from me.
2006-09-06 07:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of dating this “chick’ is daunting because you don’t know her yet. Try to start a very normal conversation with her … just to know her. After talking to her a few times, asking her out would be much easier. It’s kind of natural and you wouldn’t be so tense.
2006-09-06 08:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa.. had the same problem.. picture yourself as a pin ball... just a cold hard pin ball.. forget about the emotion u feel for her and just do it.. ask her and if you bounce off
(rejected) turn right around and hit on the next girl you see.. and don't stop bouncing till you hook up.. and don't even consider the looks as long as you find a female..
2006-09-06 07:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by terryshawn1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of rejection, u just have to go for it mate, u never know til u try
2006-09-06 07:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by kensta78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and ask. and ask. and ask.
just be (don't just act like) a gentleman and show her you are REALLY interested in her.
In this world, you don't get anything without asking.
this girl turned me down about 8 times, on the 9th try she finally said yes. We got married 4 years ago.
2006-09-06 07:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by petetabingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because us girls are as scary as hell :P
Just do it, dont be a pussy. Even if she rejects you you WILL get over it, seriously if you think about it you have nothing to lose seeing as you dont have her anyway. Sounds like youre more afraid of losing the dream :P
2006-09-06 07:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by Luminiferous A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the austarilian dude said we're afraid of rejection and to just give it a try and if she says no then u know shes probaly one of those grls who only date popualr ppl
2006-09-06 07:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by circaskater56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without danger, there can be no courage. You either do it your don't. You will get clobbered sometmes, but don't worry about it and move on.
The important thing is to JUST START TALKING. You'll find it then becomes easier.
2006-09-06 07:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋