What exactly does the fear of rejection entail?
2006-09-05 23:41:27 · 22 answers · asked by solo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something in your upbringing has led you to the point where this becomes a problem - fear of rejection is very common for guys. Most of us learn to only 'ask' when we are pretty sure the answer's got a fighting chance of being 'Yes'.
Get to know someone first - so they see what you are like underneath the shyness - learn to read their body language (what they 'do' not what they say) and one day - casually test the water... even something corny like "How would you react if I suggested we might go out to a movie or for a drink together?" Do it in a non pressure - almost laughing casual way - so if they don't want to they can say 'No' without the BELL OF REJECTION tolling in your head (and them feeling guilty too).
2006-09-05 23:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel that way. It happened to most couples at the beggining. You'll as time pass. Yes, i do feel scare. Whatever it is, it's never a bad thing or to ashamed about.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys/girls look at 2 things, prettiness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve. All the best to u.
2006-09-05 23:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not scared. After 36 years of getting rejected, you tend to get used to it. LOL. I have a fear of acceptance. :)) If I see a woman I am interested in and want to ask her out I ask her out. If she isn't interested in me or can't then what did I lose?
People are afraid of rejection because they think they have feelings for the person being asked out. They have their hearts set on one particular person. When they don't go out with them, they are crushed.
2006-09-05 23:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most the times I can say yes, but every once in a while I get this burst of courage and you know what happens.... I start going out with people, and life becomes more complicated and then the good old fear comes back and keeps my life nice and simple. ;).
2006-09-05 23:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can often get scared of the unknown or rejection, but at the same time i know this is something i've been given to get passed in order to feel confident
2006-09-05 23:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Vick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because, every girl i have ever asked out has rejected me, so rejection seems inevitable. I avoid asking girls out cause i dont want to get hurt again
2006-09-05 23:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by tazman2087 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good answer Dee. My fear is much like yours, except I am afraid my wife would Lorena Bobbit me lol.
I like my couch, but not enough to want to sleep on it all the time, that's what I always say.
2006-09-05 23:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by ffxi_minizilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no never, I love to be with and talk to people
never shy,,,
never even think about rejection, why would anyone
there are so many people to meet in the world(USA)
2006-09-05 23:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not scared at the end of the day they can only say no!
2006-09-05 23:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by Irishbird3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, rejection makes you feel like a fool, and if you see the woman often its worst.
2006-09-06 00:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋