Moving in with my girlfriend?

Question

i dont want to screw this up. what should i look out for ( be carefull of) give her her space.....anyone with experince please help.....

Answer 1

mr muffin dont look out for anything just be yourself and let her be herself when you are too cautious you tend to make mistakes so just take it easy oh one thing! dont hog the remote control! lol

Answer 2

If you are moving in with her, into her place, it's probably not for the best. You should move in together, that is get a place together that you have chosen together so that the balance of power will be equal from the first day rather than in her favour.

What it takes to get along with your partner is love, trust and respect which should flow both ways in equal and abundant measures. In practical terms that means you do your bit by being polite and listening to her, doing an agreed share of the housework, buying an agreed share of the groceries, letting her come and go as she pleases and intiating sex regularly. In return she should do exactly the same for you. Both of you should see this as taking on a big responsibility to spend the rest of your lives together and you should get engaged as soon as possible to prove your commitment to each other.

I'm sure it will work out if you just make an effort. Good luck with that!

Answer 3

howzit Boet? like your avatar ;~)

well she has obviously agreed with you,so enjoy it. you are of the age of a millennium man, so do as a millennium man will do .

you are both young by the sounds of things but that doesn't make your love any less real then more experienced people. be honest with her from the beginning so she all ways knows where she stands. talk to her about chores and be willing to pull your weight.as it is new for you to live together,accept that a time will come when you may irritate each other, be willing to communicate.

if you must play computer games,xbox etc,make sure you also give her some time. you know what women complain about -no attention, or too clingy, and eventually no appreciation. try to avoid those. but remember that your needs are also important,and if they are not met ,you will resent her later...praat nie van slaapkamer speeletjies nie, but if you are sporty ,keep playing(after all she should want a nice fit healthy bloke about)

oh i am a bit jealous(mine is not a new cohabitation,which is allways fun and exhilarating), you have some wonderful exciting things ahead of you....enjoy it.maak seeker dat jy die champagne gereerd het.

Answer 4

First off the always have sex may have been a sarcastic answer but as a women in a live in relationship that CAN start to slip. Be sure to romance your lady a lot. Lack of sex isn't the WORST thing, but it does tend to make the lady wonder more than anything "is he bored with me?" Never a good question to ask yourself.
Second, yes, give her space. Get used to the fact that she WILL do things differently from you and allow that. She must be willing to do the same.
Lastly, and this is most important, at one time or another you will want to kill this b&$%#. You are living together now and fights will happen more often. At first it will be bliss but then BAM every little thing you do will set her off. DO NOT YELL BACK. Leave and run to the store if you must. Give it time to settle down but never, I repeat NEVER ignore it. Once things have cooled a bit talk to her grown up to grown up. Always be willing to listen to a lot of "I feel"s from your lady. We do love to put out emotions out there.
I know this sounds as if moving in is a bad thing. It's not. I love it and wouldn't know what to do with myself if my bf moved out. It will become comfortable but you have to get through the transition phase.
Much love to you and yours. Congrats and good luck. Keep your romance going and she'll be happy! I promise.

Answer 5

Be prepared to compromise. Treat each other with respect. Be intimate as often as you can to strengthen the bond between you. Be an individual as well as being part of a couple. Keep lines of communication open. Share the cooking and household chores. Try not to be too anxious about it otherwise it'll spoil what should be a fun experience and an adventure for you both

Answer 6

Living together is not about sex. It is about the daily details. Make sure you both go into this with good clear channels of communication. Remember, talking things out before they get out of hand is critical. Give her time in the bathroom. Keep the kitchen clean. Learn the fine art of negotiation, compromise and reconciliation. If she does things to irritate you, think of the things you do that might irritate her. Talk about those things and smooth them out. Bring home some flowers occasionally (always a hit). And relax, living in the same place is a good way to find out who you are actually living with!

Answer 7

Don't ever leave dirty things around. Unwashed cups, cans, dirty clothes.

Don't ever, forget, to lift the toilet seat up. I know we guys can aim well but to aim to please, we have to act like we can't aim at all. So lift it up so that she won't yell at you to do so.

Flush. Of course.
Whatever you do, don't forget that there is someone else in the house!

Keep the music to your earphones unless you think she will like it too. No harm trying but once she asks you to lower the volume, lower it to 0.

The kitchen is her territory. Do not attempt to cook anything more than a fruit salad in there. Unless you are incredibly sure of your culinary skills, but try in small steps. Don't try to do a Jamie Oliver and end up messing up her kitchen!

For clothes, make sure you wash seperately and dry your clothes seperate from hers to avoid mixing them up.

And, if she is tired from a hard day of shopping at the mall, offer to give her the whole bed. Sleep on the couch. Get a very big blanket for the bed. If not sleep on seperate beds, or stop using the blanket.

Also, do not leave lights or appliances on if she turns them off. Watch out for those.

And do not use the bathroom for too long! If you really must, ask her to join you. Do not use her towel.

Finally. When in doubt. Ask her. Then kiss her.

Answer 8

My husband and I lived together for a year before we were married and have been married for over 20 years.

I would recommend sitting down with your girlfriend and go over the ground rules as well as each others preferences before a bag is moved in. Once you have had this conversation, you will know better what she expects from you and the living arrangement.

But be sure she knows your expectations as well. I understand you want to make this work, but if you don't tell her what you expect or want you will find yourself angry with her for intruding into your space.

Hope that helps...

Good Luck

Answer 9

If you are moving into her place, remember this is her territory. Women (yes, I am one) are like wolves. It is easier to move both into neutral territory. But respect her stuff, and if she is tidy, try to be tidy. I just got married and my husband and I did not live together first. He leaves his shoes all over the place and it drives me nuts! He also has all this bloody lego everywhere....but anyway, just try and respect eachother, and if in doubt as to how she wants something to be, ask and discuss it. You can compromise on things. Remember now you will be together alot more often but don't expect her constant attention. Also, perhaps before when you spent time together it was to do something, like see a film or go to the pub- now i might be a bit more mundane, but still make time to do fun things together.

Answer 10

Respect each other and work together. Realise that life is too short to let irritating habits bother you. Thank her, listen to her and realise that different ways of thinking and looking at things aren't necessarily wrong. But also let her see your ways and views.

The answer to most things in life is good COMMUNICATION.

Oh and reading the only and original Woman are from Mars Men are from Venus should be made compulsory for both parties involved!!

Answer 11

Be yourself ... both agree where things go and always keep open communication. Also remember girls have a lot more stuff especially in the bathroom then you do.. Leave the toilet seat down ... wash out the sink after your brush your teeth .. don't leave change laying around, pick up after yourself (she isn't the maid and you should contribute). Offer to help with dinner ..

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel