How do i teach my little boy to pee outside?

Question

I have a 2 1/2 yr old little boy who is potty trained. Where we live & the amount of travelling (from child minders ect.) we do he needs to be able to wee outside if he needs to. I have no man where i live to ask - so i need to teach him myself but i am clueless when it comes to boys & these things! - (i trained him to sit on his potty).
The main advice i need is:- how do i get him interested in going outside (at the moment he just wets himself if he needs to), Does he need to wee on an object or just in the air, If so how does he stand by tree (how far away), Does he face the tree or rest his bum on it? Does he need to hold it or not?
I know this may seem crazy, but i feel guilty that he doesnt have a man in his life.

A big thankyou in advance to everyone who answers,
Lol. Sian & Harry xxx.

Answer 1

Start by teaching him to stand up to pee while at his potty - it's probably what he's most comfortable with.

I know when the kid I used to babysit was potty trained, he was encouraged to push his gut and pelvis forward so that he was over the toilet, making it impossible for him to miss. If he wanted to, he could hold it, but if not he didn't have to.

At the same time, you have to encourage him to speak up when he needs to pee while you're out. If he's still peeing sitting down, then treat him the same way that you would treat a little girl. If he's peeing standing up, then encourage him to find cover from prying eyes and pee against something if possible. If not, just to find cover from prying eyes.

The whole, his not having a man in his life is a completely different issue.

Answer 2

I guess I was one of the lucky ones. My son 'loves' to pee outside - but we stress, 'only when necessary', and he does very well. He's never sat down to pee - always standing at the toilet with his own step (that he moves over by himself - as this same step is used at the sink to wash hands/brush teeth/clean up). We have a rock outside next to the patio that we call the "flat rock" and that's the only thing he's allowed to pee on outside. I do prefer that he use the potty, but there are just some times when that's not available! Your little guy is only 2½ - don't push it, as he'll get it - naturally! I liked the idea of having a bottle or something for him to use ... we used a "pull-up" when we were going on longer car trips, etc ... until he was old enough to tell us that he had to go to the bathroom. I'm guessing that at 2½ he's not quite to that stage yet. Then, when he was old enough and the car ride was just a little too long, we pulled over and pee'd on the tire of the truck - away from traffic, mind you! So - as you can read by all your answers, there is no magic solution to your situation. It's going to be trial and error and maybe a few more wet underwear, but it'll happen. Good luck to you - and your little man!

Answer 3

Are you French or something?? I thought pee-ing outside was illegal in Britain. If you have to - then OK - but you shouldnt be teaching it as the norm!! Yes he does have to hold "it" otherwise he'll pee all over his pants - I would say out of the wind, about a foot away, aiming for the base of the tree to avoid splash backs, better for your feet to be slightly elevated from where your pee-ing so it doesnt run onto your shoes. And dont feel guilty, sure it would be good for him to have a male role model - this could be your brother, father, cousin etc - but equally you are not washed out yet and there are plenty of guys out there who understand that people come with baggage and will be totally fine with getting to know and love your little man.

Answer 4

I have two old toilets in my garden (for planter purposes) and my daughter loved to pee in those, LOL. How about making a target for him? Just paint a circle on some cardboard or hessian, and give each circle points, eg 50 for the centre, 20 for the next one, 10 for the outer one. You could also incorporate this with treats, e.g. a sticker for hitting the target. You could also accumulkate points over a day and give him a treat accordingly (e.g. 150+ = a small toy, 100+ = a pencil, 50+ = a large sticker). Alternatively, you could get him to pee on the slugs :-) Good luck!

Answer 5

You are making the situation far more complicated than it needs to be.

I don't think you can (or should) get a kid interested in peeing outside because then it becomes a habait you'll have to break, it's best to somehow time it that having to pee outside is a necessity.

Yes. you must hold the penis. Depending on a person's penis, it can either go straight down your pants, or flail wildly around. Best to have a hold on it so you can aim it.

Doing it in open air or against something is a personal preference. But i'd assume for a kid against something is better because it provides cover, and gives you something to concentrate on and aim for. You STAND FACING the object. Holding onto it isn't necessary unless you're drunk.

This is one of those things that comes naturally because it's an animal instinct. You'll just have to give a little push and he'll figure out on his own.

Answer 6

I have a son and even though he has his father around, i needed to do his training. First he used to sit on the potty, then i told him that big boys stand and pee. Yes u need to hold it initially, but if he really really nees to go, then he will be able to pee even without u holding. To train him, time him and make him pee every 1 hour or so, maybe reward him for peeing in the pot. Once he starts peeing outside his pants, he will be able to do s even against a tree. He needs to face the tree and not rest his bum on it. Doesnt matter how far he stands. Obviously not very far!!!

Answer 7

I think you must be less anxious, or you'll make him anxious too. If he thinks it's a big deal he will not manage to do it. Be casual about it. Teach him to tell you when he wants to pee, like he does when he needs the potty. When you're outside and he wants to pee, tell him to lower his panties and do it. Make it seem like a game that he'll have to grab his penis somehow to aim at sth, let's say a tree or stone, so that he doesn't wet himself. This is instinctive to men, I am sure he'll manage better than you can explain to him.

Answer 8

it does sound kinda crazy by all of us with boys know that even if we don't want them to do it they pee outside. so it shouldn't be that hard to get him to pee out there. take him outside and tell him to pee on the grass or make a rock wet. turn it into a game and before you know it, you too will have a boy that pee outside. good luck

Answer 9

At first my son was scared to pee outside. Then, I told him how cool it would be to pee on the tree or in the grass, etc. That really interested him. Now if we're outside he just says mom I'm gonna pee. Then, he tells me what he's going to pee on to make sure its ok. As far as holding it and things, its not really necessary. You can teach him if you want but my son doesnt. Your son may be embarrassed to do this too. My son gets very embarrassed if anyone watches him. Just reassure him no one can see him and turn your head. Just be careful bout teaching him to pee outside. When my son first learned thats the only place he wanted to pee at NO MATTER WHERE WE WERE! LOL!! Good Luck!

Answer 10

He's only two and a half. Why not get one of those travel urinals for children or even just get a wide-mouthed bottle with a cover that will stay on tight after its used, and let him use that?

When he gets to be four or so you then tell him, "Oh - you know what men do when they need to do wetties? They......."

Once he starts doing that the going outside thing (if its really necessary) will come naturally to him. Don't over-emphasize or over-analyze something as basic as a little boy learning to do "wetties".