I find few ladies running a full time job, managing their children's studies+cooking+managing the household work just with ease (that's what they say). Even after returning home after a full day job and doing all the above chores, they say they have time to take their children to play in park and talk like their children are just smoothies who listen to parents in a very good manner. In short life sounds like a dance to them. Practically I find this impossible. When I come home from the job, I am very,very tired and loose patience easily. Am I abnormal? Pl. serious answers only.
2006-09-05 22:38:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm one of those women who finds that life is a dance. Sometimes it's a nice, slow waltz and other times, it feels more like you're in the middle of a mosh pit!
I work a full time position at home dealing with patients, attorneys, doctors' offices and insurance adjusters plus my employees. We also have an 11-year-old son with autism (high functioning), a 6-year-old daughter and a 2 month old son. For me, it's knowing how and when to say no and planning my schedule. Organization is key! Also allowing yourself some "me" time is very important to your mental well being. My husband and I plan a date night at least once a month where we get a sitter and get away for an adult night out... the only rule is that we don't talk about the kids. Not that we don't love them but they're such a big part of our lives that we sometimes forget to talk about the little things that help keep the romance in our life.
Also, for those parents who come off like they don't have any issues with their children... either they're not paying as much attention to them as they want it to appear they are or they're just not giving you the whole story! Of course, for me, our kids are wonderful but there are days I want to duct tape them to the ceiling! However, I do always try to put the best face on the situation I can since it's less tiring to keep a positive attitude than to let a negative one pull me down.
2006-09-06 00:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're abnormal, i think those women who say they do all that are fibbing to you or they have a maid who comes in to do all the cleaning and chores so they can spend time with their families, or a husband who helps out. I have worked at least one job for a while and have worked 2 jobs for the last 8 1/2 yrs. I have to make time for my children and i have to make time for household chores. working one job is not possible as my ex doesn't pay the child support that is owed to me and my bills are such that i was behind which is why i took on the second job. I've now worked 2 jobs for quite a while and i will say that when i'm home from work, i do not take my children to the park or clean house. i make time for the chores that can't wait, like laundry- when i come home from the one job i start a load, when i come home from the other job, i put it in the dryer and start another, then i sleep, when i wake up i fold whats in the dryer, switch the laundry, start another load, put the folded clothes up while i'm getting ready for work again. while i'm doing laundry- i'm usually starting food to cook or cooking something that can be untended for 5-10 minutes. I will tell you- I work 72 hours/ week and i'm tired. I dont know how women have energy to handle job + family time plus supervising studies, cooking and managing household. my house is a wreck and i've been working on it on the weekends- the oldest child turned 19 and moved out in August and the youngest one is off traveling with a carnival and working for the carnival. its just me and the 4 legged kids at the house and i'm trying to make up for 4 years of neglect and get the house in order on the weekends. i've made a lot of progress, but i still have a way to go.
2006-09-06 05:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by tiggerkitty3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. Some thing you can do it eat right. I work full time and do all the above that you mentioned up above. You have to prioritize your schedule. If you need help ask someone you know or your spouse(if you have one). It is not easy and we do get tired but I don't notice how tired I am till I sit down. I would like to be like you for a change. May be someday.
2006-09-06 09:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not abnormal, life is very stressful and hard there is never enuf time i n the day to do it all, we all wanna be super mums and be able to do it all, i find it impossible to work, take care of the home , the kids, the pets, the everything, and the quality time with kids, oh and then there is never no time for me, (except for now lol), i dont knwo any woman who can actually keep it together, perhaps on the surface yes. we are only human, we aint perfect.
actually you will mostly find not all is as it appears on the surface.
2006-09-06 05:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by oz_gurl2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "sound" very normal to me. Personally I wouldn't believe the other ladies. What they are telling you is more like wishful thinking.
2006-09-06 06:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by AJK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body's energy level is different and you are not abnormal.
2006-09-06 05:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people have more ambition and drive than others. many are driven by what they want to do with their lives.
are you getting enough sleep?
do you exercise??
do you have outside interests??
2006-09-06 05:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by horsysue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋