I dont talk to my Mum, for lots of reasons, i dont want to either, i am an adult that can make that decision, so please dont comment on that, but my sister and i are very close and she is having a baby and i am so excited! anyhow, her baby shower is at my Mum's house and i dont know what to do, i want to go and be a big part of the shower, but i dont want to go to my mums house! is that childish of me? mum says she doesnt care if i go there, but it almost makes me sick to think about it. would you go? please give reasons why, Mum and i will never get on no matter what, we hate each other!
2006-09-05 22:25:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just go, you won't regret it.
Try to be nice to everyone, if you get bored, or mad you can leave or just hide somewhere. At least you supported your sister by showing up.
2006-09-05 22:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Trinity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the shower. You may have a less than desirable history with your mum but this shower is for your sister so it's not about you. Not going to the shower would show your suster that there are limits to how much you care and love her and that would not be a good thing. Just put on your big girl pants and tough it out. If the tables were turned I am certain that you would want her to come to your baby shower - "don't expect any more out of life than what you are willing to give it"
2006-09-06 05:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by PhreeJak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing you have is your sister, & after all it is about her right? & the baby to be? Try to think of how it will make you sister feel if you are not there, even if there is a problem between you & your Mum. A shower is a special time for a Mother to be, & I am sure she will want you there, but I am also sure that she wants what's best for you.... If it was me, I would go & support my sister, she really needs you...
Now more than ever....
:o)
2006-09-06 05:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Linda Jo V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only 1 reason to why you should go and that is your sister, who you said is very close to you.
You should set aside your differences with your mom and just enjoy this special day with your sister...as it will be very important to her. You don't have to talk to your mom, just be civil and say hi. Or you dont even have to stay for a long time, just show up and be there for your sister on her special day.
And you know what, these kind of situations will probably occur more because of the new baby...you would have to see your mom on special occassions and gatherings in the future anyway.
2006-09-06 05:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Beachy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard when you don't get along with your parent. But for your sisters sake go unless you want to have her a separate baby shower on a different day. But do one of the two cause if you don't you will regret it that is your niece or nephew she is gonna have and a baby shower is one of the most special moments.
2006-09-06 05:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by jenn_burks311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person for the day and go to the baby shower. Be there to show support to your sister. If somebody brings up a bad topic of conversation simply tell them that you are not there to talk about any issues, you are there for your sister. If things get to hard...you can leave early!
Good Luck!!
2006-09-06 12:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by rosie91380 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you already said yourself that you're an adult that can make that decision of not talking to my mom, then why're you contradicting that thought by wondering whether or not you are childish to behave that way?
that was just a thought of mine, you don't have to take it seriously.
anyway, if you really love your sister, why should you let your mom stand in the way of being a part of her baby shower?
it is all about pride, whether or not your love for your sister is strong enough to lower that pride of yours down a notch.
hope i've helped in some way. all the best.
2006-09-06 06:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to eat the cake and have it too!
Just the way you do not want us to comment on your relation with your mother by the same token, you should not go there! So what if you love your sister?
Your sister loves your mom and apparently so, as this is arranged at your mom’s place! By not going to your mom’s place you will prove that you hate your mom more then you love your sister.
On the other hand if you go to your mom, and throw all your hatred and make an initiative to talk to her, (so what if she does not take your invitation positively), it will be seen that you love your sister more then any hatred that you have had. And if you decide to go to your MOM’s place, you should be convinced yourself why you are going and with an attitude to forget the past incidents and to start afresh!
2006-09-06 06:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if I had a sister and seh was having a baby yes id go. well you should reconsile with your mom, has she always been a bad parent? well u could ask your sis to have it at your house if that is such a prob or have it else where, or u could go and say hi to your mom and how are you doing, thats all you can do. I did not talk to my mom for 6 months and I regreted afterwards.
do u think u can b civil to each other for one day?
2006-09-06 05:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to hate your mom.Is ur mom right and give her some respect.Just think of this, ur mom gave birth to you and she take care of you.Dont you think you should give her some respect.The word you say 'childish'.to me i think ur a quite a bad person.So what can you do is just go to ur mom house and talk nicely towads her.Then take whatever things you want to take from ur mom house.I am a gangster,but i i always treated my mom with all my love and respect.Think of this....Clock is ticking before is too late...
2006-09-06 05:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love your sister and are very excited about the baby...that is one situation.
you and your mother are another...being civil never hurt anyone, and plus its your mother...you only have, ONE mother...you will always have MANY problems...its the line you draw between what you decide to forgive and forget, and what grudges you keep...you only have one family...try to look at your mother as a person first, you might understand why she did the things she did or said what she said,...no one is perfect especially not our parents...but even if the situations are irreconcilable they are still forgivable.
2006-09-06 05:42:27 · answer #11 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋