2006-09-05 22:02:58 · 26 answers · asked by Cindy needs answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He beats me when he is angry with life and when I want to leave him he keeps going while he apologizes at the same time.....help
2006-09-05 22:06:42 · update #1
YOU DIAL 911-THEY WILL HELP YOU GET INTO A SAFE PLACE.
PLEASE DO THIS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
HE COULD KILL YOU THE NEXT TIME HE BEATS YOU.
GO TO A LOCAL CHURCH TELL THEM WHAT IS GOING ON,THEY WILL HELP FIND YOU A SAFE PLACE.
DO NOT GO TO A FRIEND OR FAMILY,HE WILL FIND YOU.
BUT WHAT EVER YOU DO GET OUT NOW.
2006-09-05 22:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by funnana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was in your situation. and after the beatings he tells you that he is sorry and didn't mean to do it. Says it won't happen again ,,, blah, blah, blah,
GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE NOW. I'm serious. when ever he isn't around , pack up and get out. if you don't have time to pack, then leave empty handed. just get out of there as soon as you can. Preferalbly somewhere that he can't find you. Go to some family's home, or a friend, get a restraining order against him. if you have to, go to a womens shelter. there are all kinds of listings for abused women. call 911, if you feel threatened. do anything you have to do to get away from him. Don't make the same mistake that i did, It almost cost me my life. He is now behide bars. where he belongs. Good Luck
2006-09-06 05:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he beats you, you can't tell him you are leaving. If you are going to leave, then go. Don't wait. The longer you wait, the worse it will be. I have been in your situation and there is no way you can stay there. If you don't have anywhere to go, then call a shelter. Ask yourself this question, "Is this man worth my life"? I have lost a few friends who stayed too long. It won't get better, it only gets worse. Please get out while you can.
2006-09-06 12:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get you family and friends help. You need to take a day off work and get all you things in order. Do not tell him you are taking the day off. Them when he is at work start moving your things to another place ( friends, family, get a apartment). Then move out before he comes home. Change you cell phone number so he can not call you. You need to be strong. Just make sure you think of everything before you move out, so when the day come you just move out. Act normal around him so he does not have a clue. Call the police so you can put a restraining order on him. **** Luck and be careful.
2006-09-06 09:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. Leave with what you can carry or the clothes on your back but get out.Contact a Woman's rape centre and protection society. Get what you can on a medical record(pictures of bruises, scars whatever) get support,you do not have to do this alone and contact the police and have the bastard arrested.But get out now. This type of behaviour doesn't stop it just gets worse. I've seen how much worse and no one looks good in a body bag. Get Out.
2006-09-06 05:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off if he beats you he doesn't love you, you should of left him a long time ago sweet heart and the next time he heats you beat the dog s*** out of him catch him off guard and he won't know what hit him but we'll know it was you lol but it aint a laughing matter you need to beat his *** get a frying pan and wait until he is asleep and beat his *** don't kill him but show him what it is like to be defenceless and have all your crap packed and leave or if it is your place kick him out and call the cops and get a restraining order on him Good Luck and if you need someone to talk to hit me up anytime
2006-09-06 05:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave when he is away dont tell him your leaving either that is dumb he cant know pack your stuff small things and leave put a restraining order on and then if you need to go back to get your other belongings just get a police escort really you need to get out the abuse will never stop im sorry
2006-09-06 05:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by terri l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go into a local emergency room. THey have a list of safe places that you can stay. The shelters have the knowledge and the resources to help you get away from this man.
This is a very dangerous situation.
Do not become violent with him yourself.
Don;t listen to these people on here, that will only cause you more physical abuse.
If your local ER doesn;t have the resources like mine does.
they can help you find the places to call and go.
There is usually a social worker on duty who can help you.
please please get out before he hurts you anymore
2006-09-06 05:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by gerilynn35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police and get yourself into a womans refuge, until it is safe for you to return to the family home. Unless he agrees AND goes to anger management classes he will never change, and few men who do abuse their partners EVER do change. Its a tough position, but the beatings are only ever going to get worse get out now!
2006-09-06 05:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a battered woman for 4 years. I finally went to a place in Vencie called Oceanpark community ctr that refered me to a battered woman's ome up north, away from hi , where He didn't know where I was. You can forget restraining orders, they don't stop the abuser just slow him down. You have to just wait fro that right mement in time, and it will come unexpectedly, as it did for me..when he is not there and opportunity presented itself for me to run...I took nothing..just ran , if you know someonoe who will hide you out til you can get a woman's shelter to help you great, If
not, you still gotta go...get on a bus, get to the nearest police station or fire station tell them you need to get to a battered woman shelter immed..they will help you. I wish I knew what area yyou were in..but if you get a chance to split, do it THEN..I had a cat I was afaraid he'd hurt, I took the cat with me, ran into the street screamed for a passerby to take me to the church that in turn took me to he center in santa monica to help me. The hardest part is not going back.I kept thinking "IF only I had// STOP RIGHT THERE do not go any further..that is just you guilt tripping yurself and falling into the abuser's pattern of trying to make you believe you "had it coming"..YOU DO NOT HAVE IT COMING. I am talking survival here....YOURS. Get familiar with the places in your area that should the opportunity to run sudenly come up, you will have advance info on where to run to...YOU CAN DO IT..YOU MUST DO IT.
2006-09-06 05:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋