I've tried, but it just feels like I can't let go. This guy cheated on me about 4/5 months ago. I've tried seeing other guys since him and nothing has worked out. Now I'm back to thinking about him and I got in touch with him. He goes away to uni next week, so I know we're not going to start seeing each other again. I just want to forget about him! Especially after what he did. How do I let go?
2006-09-05 21:55:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's that old cliche....time.
It sounds like you need some sort of 'closure' on this too, to enable you to let go and move on.
It DOES get better honestly - but there's no rule book which sets out how long it's going to take. Just hang on to the knowledge that although it may feel like it, you won't feel this way for ever.
2006-09-05 21:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lily & Stu Too 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. True, I've tried for years and still cant seem to forget people who have hurt me real real bad. But I think the best is to socialize a lot and get into constructive activity. An when the moment flashes in your mind, its best to take up some activity. Music, photography, painting, reading, crosswords, puzzles, pc games, there's so much u could do to deviate your mind from those cruel memories.
2006-09-05 22:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard! Things like this can take weeks, months sometimes even years to get out our system completely. Why not just give yourself permission to dwell on your feelings, examine them, have a bit of a cry etc instead of feeling its wrong to still be upset - amazing how good getting all those feelings out in the open is. And then, forget about boys/men and focus on other areas of your life... work, seeing friends etc and pretty soon you'll be so caught up in everything else you'll have moved on without even realising it!
2006-09-05 22:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has done something bad to you and you still remember him?!
You are probably in the prime of life, when you need the most attention. It is best you move on. Do not look for 'other' adventures as I am sure they will most probably be 'mis' adventures.
Time heals such wounds...getting rid of all his gear, gifts and stuff is a good idea. Make friends, hang out with ur girlfriends, be more cautious when u meet men. Only socialise with guys who have a 'family' angle (if you want them to stick to you!), concentrate on your career, hobbies and other interests.
It takes time but it is sure worth it...!
2006-09-05 22:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cyrene J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is possible to forget about someone completely, whether they were good or bad to you. But it is possible to think about them in a much less obsessive way.
Your first step is stop seeing them: out of sight, out of mind.
Second step: move on, get to know other people (but not necessarily trying to fill in a hole), find new things to do, don't fold your arms.
And lastly let time pull its weight. Four or five months is too short. You cartainly will need a longer time to heal. People are different: some need it longer, some need it shorter. Eventually you will think about him with a smile. It happens to everyone, why not to you?
2006-09-05 22:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u really like the hurt and pain he caused u or it so little that u want more.If he has really hurt u as u've said u won't even need a priest or imam to help u forget him talk less of wanting him back except u're the kind of chic that enjoys pains.
Th choice is urs forget him and move wiyh ur life or continue to enjoy the hurts.
2006-09-05 22:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once fell in love with a bad guy. He cheated on me, didn't call, all that bad stuff... But oh boy was I crazy about him. No-one else had the same kind of twinkle in his eye when he laughed, no-one else was as witty or intelligent, no-one else could talk to me about the stuff he could talk to me about. And no-one else was so thrilling in bed.
That was over 20 years ago. I still think of him from time to time and I am sure my heart would go clunk even now. But I also know that my life would have been one big misery had I stayed with him. Instead I married a man who cares for me and cherishes me and with whom I have been able to grow and flourish! And, whats more, he is much better in bed!
2006-09-05 22:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by granny2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will be the only thing to make you forget...rushing out and meeting men your not really into will only make you think even higher of him because you compare them to him. once he has gone it should be easier so just concentrate on having fun with your mates and keep yourself busy.
You will forget about him eventually when you meet someone when your not on the rebound and then you'll think "what did I ever see in him".
Trust me, I was once in exactly the same situation as you and now I have met someone 10 times the man he was, who would never cheat on me.
Good luck & keep busy.
2006-09-05 22:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its still very fresh. It won't take long before you start remembering what an **** hole he is.....cheating on you. Nasty behaviour, you deserve more and thats what you need to focus on. Don't get yourself another man, its not neccessary. Don't plan it. He doesn't even deserve the respect of you talking to him anymore either, but if thats what you feel you must do then do. Eventually you be pissed off with how nice you were to him after the events pass....
2006-09-05 22:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can never forget. Find new hobbies that can take you time. Trust me u will move on but won't for get.kindly try not to compare other people you meet.Email me sometimes for certain questions in your mind.
Hope for some better.
2006-09-05 22:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mac me right 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋