feeling depressed?

Question

lately i have been feeling really depressed. i have a good life with a lot to be thankful for and yet i cant see that. i lost my mother last year and i think the grieving has something to do with it. how do i pull myself out of it.

Answer 1

I lost both my parents within 6 months of each other, 2 years ago and I still get bouts of depression. They are getting less frequent as time passes but you never get over the death of a parent.

Answer 2

I agree with Sarah and I lost my parents in about the same time frame. The only advise that I can provide is reflect your love and support that your parents gave you to your children. It gives me a sense of passing on their legacy. When I really get down and sad, I sometimes look at the stars alone at night and send a prayer to them cause I know they are apart of the grand design that God made and surely the message will be delivered. I move on and understand now that this is life and dwelling on it will only make me spiral out of control and into a deep depression that perhaps I cannot get out of.

I am sure your parents would not want you to dwell in the same way and would have wanted you to be strong and a rock for your children. Keep up the legacy and enjoy your children second by second, they grow up so fast.

God Bless and Have Fantastic Day :)

Answer 3

There is no magic trick to pull you out of it. It can still be a big thing 8 years later. If it is around the anniversary of your mums death its understandable that you feel like this. Sometimes it can start a few months before the actual date. Each year it gets a little easier and the actual day can be one of peace and hopefulness (I know that it doesn't feel like it now). Take it easy and think about all your feelings to do with your mum, good and bad. Give yourself 10 mins every day to just think of her it can get out feelings that you may have been unaware of. Best of luck to you, just feel what comes and let it go.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time just now. Yes, grief can be awful and there's no timetable for feeling better.

It might be an idea to chat to your doctor, he can tell you all the options and you can think about how you'd like to treat it. Find someone you trust you can talk to, that can only help.

For what it's worth, I've been there too, but I got better and so can you. But it will take time. Be patient with yourself!

Take care and best wishes.

xx

Answer 5

if u wanna be really thankful, thank god that ur mother didn't die in the war in slovenjia in the 1994, and ur father gets married later to medusa her self, and then dies in 2001 because of lung cancer, and u live alone not in ur origional country, and now u r just 19 and u r already fed up with life, thats my life, so count ur blesses and shut ur piehole!
P.S. : ur grief depends on the way that ur mother died, if u was the reason of it, like a car accident or something, then a little grief is good for u, but a YEAR ? u know u r better than that, so get ur self out of that hole, and try to be stronger.
with all my love and support,
Julian Astivski
Wein, Austria

Answer 6

I know it's probably easier said than done, but try to get out and have some fun and laughter. Occupy yourself so that you are not left to think about it all the time. Find yourself a social group that have meetings once a week or whenever, have something to look forward to. And anytime you want to talk to someone, contact me. I'm good at making people laugh, and I'm good at listening. Take care of you.

Answer 7

When the one near you departs it is disheartening.

Only realization that it can not be undone and the fact is that she is no longer with you, you should go ahead and take your life normally.

I am sure if you visualize that you mom is looking at you from heaven and is unhappy because you are sad, you would like to bring normalcy in your life. And the fact is that her soul would be sad if you are not well.

So be normal and be good to yourself. You can start loving yourself with this realization.

Answer 8

i've, ever since a close friend of my who i call him my brother die in a freak accident seven years ago. and i've been mourning for the dead by wearing black in respect ever since till now. and its a long story for myself but in any case, its true that money can't never buy back anyone one you loved but just try to remember once awhile of her smile and wishes to see you happpily going through your days. the memory where you and her have with have share together. remembering the very one second of time to give you the confidence you needed to live in joy rather than depression that disrespect her wishes.

Answer 9

Well if you ever want someone to chat with and give advice please feel free to contact me. I have an open ear and will not give you stupid answers like some people on this site.