he works at minimum wage jobs. won't try to better himself by getting a better education, and only thinks of himself. they were living here with us until my daughter was hospitalized and under drugs, that's when he took advantage of the situation and talked her into moving out to live with 9 of his friends. Now all i hear about is how bad it is where they are at. and how unhappy she is. I told her to wait till she was out of hospital to make a decision but she wouldn't hear of it. At that time she couldn't make heads from tails. How do i get rid of this guy. or whatever ,,,, any suggestions.
'by the way, he is a compulsive liar as well. lies about everything. he told his wife that he got laid off , when in fact he was fired. oh i could go on about all the lies he tells her. but she doesn't see it. They are always broke and need things for the baby, and i won't refuse them things for her. she is such a sweete. HELP
2006-09-05 21:49:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i feel for you.. you need to start collecting evidence of all the wrong/lying he does... and getting it to her.. not directly, but indirectly. get her close friends/siblings involved.. it's the only way..start making her part of the "other" side, in a very subtle way.. so that she's forced to see his true side... just remember not to bring it up yourself.. let her be pissed off and flare it up when she finally decides to have it out
i had a situation with my best mate in exactly the same dungeon.. but i took up the challenge to pull out of his grips, no matter what (they had been going strong for 5 yrs).. it's taken me 2 yrs, but she's well out of it and thankful to god that she's saved... don't lose time.. don't care about her brash coming backs.. she'll thank you one day, you are the parent after all!!!!!
2006-09-05 21:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Souns like my sisters soon to be husband. NO ONE likes him in our family and most of the people in his family cant stand him neither. We cant stand his mother neither. She is one of those "I know everything" types and haves a 9th grade education.
Good luck with getting rid of him. She is going to be with him regradless untill and unless she learns on her own. Telling her to leave him and such will only make her want to stay with him to prove you wrong.
My family tried that with my sister. However they left her alone about it but she knows he is NOT welcome in any of our houses but she is. She knows how we all feel but we dont say anything anymore to her. Now we have noticed she calls us all up complaining about how bad he is, she works and pays all the bills he wont do nothing but play video games and make a mess he wont clean up. Then he likes to hang around little kids all day while she at work. (FREAK). So we think soon she will be leaving him cause she is realizing that what we told her is true.
2006-09-06 04:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord what a mess.First you are right to provide for the baby.DOES your daughter love the baby?Then one day she will want better for her child.One day I woke up told my husband to get a job or get out, 3 day to become a man.33 years later my husband is the boss of over 900 employees and makes good money.He only has a high school ed.ALOT OF PRAYER ALSO HELPS.
2006-09-06 05:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by funnana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have two losers who made a baby and you want to take it all out on him. She chose him, none of your business. She may never leave him. And if she chooses not to ever leave him, you will be the one she turns away from because you are too busy bashing the man she chose. All you are doing buy tossing money at the problem is prolonging it. They will never fix there problems as long as Mommy is there to stick a bottle in their mouths when they whine.
2006-09-06 04:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋