I've tried everything, a potty chair that makes music, books, videos, sitting her in front of the TV, sitting her in the bathroom, running water, even sitting her on the actual toilet with one of those smaller seat inserts for toddlers, nothing works!! She is in preschool, and the teachers do help with potty training and she will go for them. The thing is that she only goes to school 3 days a week (I can't afford any more than that). On the days she is at home, I am in a constant battle with her to use the bathroom. I try not to yell at her or punish her, but it is so frustrating, especially when I know she can do it since she is doing it at school. Why won't she go potty at home for me? I need help ASAP.
2006-09-05 21:37:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When I read your question it makes me think that too much emphasis is put on the potty-training. If it were my daugther, I would ask myself what she has to gain from not using the potty at home? Is the time, when she's having her diaper changed the only time of the day when she has mommy completely to herself? Is she afraid to let you down? Is going or not going on the potty the only thing, where she's in charge? You know your daugther, so you can probably think of several other possible reasons for this situation.
Small children cannot control very many things in their daily life - others decide what they shall wear and eat, where they shall spend the day, when it's bedtime etc. One of the only things the child can control (after a certain age) is wheather or not to go in the diaper or on the toilet. Children often experience emotional stress or discomfort as stomach-aches, and often react on such problems by holding back and become constipated or by beginning to pee/deliver faeces in their pants. I am telling you this because a potty-training can become an unresolveable problem, if the child and the parents aren't 'pulling in the same direction'. In these cases - and in your case, as my advice would be, the best way to solve the problem is to stop all talk of the potty and every attempt to potty-train the child. Give the child a break, and when she's ready to use to potty again, she'll let you know. It is not unnormal for a three-yeat-old not to be potty-trained yet. Give her the time, she needs. Best of luck to both of you!
2006-09-05 22:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a lot of others have told you, u need to give her an incentive. Stickers is a good idea. Also you should sit her in the pot, and patiently sit with her on a chair in the bathroom. Talk to her and maybe you can ask her if she is getting the feeling of wanting to do. If not, OK, keep talking to her. Does she do at a particular time in school. Ask her teachers that. If she does make sure that u put her on the potty at that time. Or whatever time u think is when she does at home. And I hope that you have stopped diapers. It will take maybe few weeks, maybe few months. Also maybe u can ask her teachers to tell her that she must sit on the pot at home as she does in school. Kids are very receptive to their teachers
2006-09-06 02:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by manu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We bribed my granddaughter, candies every time she went to the bathroom. New pretty panties and the explanation that big girls don't pee in their panties, they use the toilet. (Silky panties feel really icky when they are wet) I've even resorted to taking kids in the bathroom with me, sit them on their potty chair, and show them by example what big girls do, that they don't wet their pants. I had one that was 3 years old before we could potty train him, also. Thing was that the more of an issue it was, the harder he resisted. Make it a positive experience, no scolding. Maybe with the pressure off, she'll decide it's a good idea after all.
2006-09-12 06:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Gramma Nita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when my daughter was 16 months i potty trained her it took me 1 week to complete the task. What worked for me was keeping her all day in panties and giving lots of liquids throughout the day. I would then sit her on the potty right after she finished her drink and seh would usually go and when she did go i would give her a big praise. She loved it. When seh didnt wanna go i would sit her there for a while with toys to play with ex. her favorite doll, a toothbrush, and sometimes i would just give her a cookie. Anything to occupy her mind while she was on the potty. If nothing is working for you i would suggest asking your child school what they are doing differntly then you are at home so you can try that as well.
2006-09-12 01:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had some problems with my son using the potty. It sounds like a power struggle to me, since she'll do it at school, but not at home. Maybe if you just backed off she'd think that you don't care weather or not she pees in the potty. With my oldest I just let him run around naked, and for some reason that did it! Best of luck to you, I know how frustrating it can be!
2006-09-12 06:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her special new underwear and then start bribing her.
We made a sticker chart. Every time she went in the potty, she got a sticker. Every day she had a clean/dry day, she got a sticker. When she got a certain number of stickers, she got a toy. Nothing big and fancy, usually one of the cheap-o Barbies that came with just a bikini.
2006-09-05 23:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have patience. Remind her that she's a big girl and diapers are for babies. let her pick her own favorite character panties. let her know they are not supposed to get wet are soiled. make her throw away her own soiled diapers. because diapers absorb the moisture she definitely wont like the feeling against her skin in her new panties. she may even hide them from you. show your disappointment or make sad faces when she wets herself but dont be too harsh. ask her every 15mins if she has to potty or turn the water on when she enters the potty room and let her do what she can by herself. let her walk around diaper free but be prepared.
2006-09-05 22:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by SCHANEEKQUEAH GOTTI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. Do you keep her in or out of diapers when she is home? I have 2 kids, and my son was difficult to train, it took me 6 months. But my daughter only took me a week or so. It is best to start during summer months. My daughter hated being messy, so for her all I had to do was take her out of diapers and leave her in pretty underpants. She didn't want to get them messy. I took her to the store and she got to pick out all the pretty underpants she wanted. But all kids are different. Unfortunately, everything you have done, I also tried. But if she goes at school, then she understands. So it might not hurt to try the pretty underwear thing...
2006-09-05 21:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We take our 2 year old grandson to the potty room and we sing a potty song for him and a dance while he is on the seat!@
2006-09-11 12:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force a child to use the potty. I have learned from personal experience that a child will go when he or she is ready. You can try rewarding her with small things when she goes. Incentives work well for young children.
2006-09-11 05:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by XiE18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋