I really was in love with this guy...we went out for a long time, but there were certain misunderstandings that somehow never got resolved. It was long-distance, 14 yrs of age difference, but we were a great match. We had things in common I never thought I'd find anybody with. I broke up with him when my life was in shambles, and started dating someone more there for me, literally. I soon realized my mistake, but as I was breaking up with the other guy, my love started seeing someone else, asking me first if he should. I was tired of him always asking me for advice; I told him to make his own decisions; he decided to date other people. I was crushed. He never explained why he chose this. Now, I cannot talk without him hanging up on me. Sometimes we seem to get somewhere in a discussion, but someone always shuts down. This happened over the phone and I think, because of the phone. We deserved to see each other face to face, but he just won't make this happen. I feel no closure. Ideas?
2006-09-05 21:20:54 · 9 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this guy really loves you, he would do everything in his might to contact you and see you. If he decides to date other people and you feel hurt with the things he's been doing, then he doesn't really love you... no matter how compatible you two are, if he can't do anything to help support the relationship then it's not gonna continue. I think he's better off as your ex... find someone who could treat you right.
2006-09-05 21:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard..And you never know how it will turn out..Now you guys may have been "in love" but people change and you cant make someone stay with you against there will..The best advice I would have for you is to let things take there course . If it was meant to be, you guys will be together again. It might seem wrong now. But it will get better for you. And you might find someone closer and who will be there for you when you need them."Don't cry because it's over, cry because it happened"
2006-09-05 21:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by Fesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound harsh, but you did leave the decision up to him. You chose not to voice your opinion, and his decision is the consequence that you need to accept. There is a possibility that he asks you for your advice because he values your opinion. This doesn't mean that he can't make his own decisions. I ask my boyfriend for his opinion a lot when I have a decision to make because sometimes it's nice to be able to get a fresh perspective on something, and sometimes he sees things in a situation that I can't see. Because you've broken up with him, he is now entitled to decide whether or not to explain his actions to you.
My best advice for you in this situation is to seriously discuss it. Explain your feelings to him and allow him to express his to you. However, you also need to realize that he may not want to start over with you and that is something that you will have to accept, because that is his decision to make. But rest assured, you will get over it with time and you will find someone better for you. You just need to learn from this experience and grow from it. Sometimes we learn the best from the mistakes that we make. Best of luck to you!
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2006-09-05 21:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lumburger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let go. All the magic is gone and its time to move on. I seriously doubt that meeting face to face will save that which is truly lost.
Sum up your reserves, gather your resolve and concentrate on putting it behind you. Lie down and relax and get comfortable. Then go inside yourself and focus on your future. Horn in on a new set of goals and make that your primary attention. Start to love yourself all over again and give yourself a fresh start.
2006-09-05 21:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Be his friend only,he may just come back.But get on with your life.At one time i felt i would die over a lost love.Now married to another man 33 years(still madly in love) I thank God I didn't keep crying over a lost love that was only puppy love.But at 17 I just knew he was the love of my life.At 19 I married the love of my life.
p.s.the other man turned out to be a real bum,lazy and ugly.
2006-09-05 21:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by funnana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on and so should you.
If you REALLY want him, let him know exactly how you feel. Men HATE ambiguity. They really don't want to have to guess what you're thinking all the time.
However be prepared to hear that he has moved on. and don't hold it against him. You suggested he make his own decisions now you have to live with them.
2006-09-05 21:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, As painful as it may sound- it seems he has moved on. Also, the way you described his sudden change of mood- sounds as if his feelings towards you may have changed. Move on and get past him because he obviously has.
2006-09-05 21:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by biznaz21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some time.. && you told him to make his own decisions so therefore it mustve sounded to him like you didnt want him..
2006-09-05 21:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by livelifeinthefastlane<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is the best in your life!!! G luck love will b anything better...sure
2006-09-05 22:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by nonglnalak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋