i look through my girlfriends myspace.
in her messages..
she is talking to this other guy like they are together.
I LOVE YOU...BABE..
just stupid/hurtful things back and forth for like 2 days..
i confront her and she freaks out...first said they were jokes..then admits they were just flirting whatever..
i decided to stay with her after she deleted her myspace...
everything has been fine since then..
but thinking about what she did still hurts alot and i don't know if i still want to be with her..they were just words..but it hurt.
(they were planning on hanging out and stuff)
so ...would you stay with someone after that or is that a sign that they will end up doing something like that again..?
thanks for your time.
2006-09-05 21:20:24 · 19 answers · asked by Eddie R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of what people say and the way they act on a computer is just, I don't know what to call it, but it's false. It's not who they are. It's just like this other alter ego of them, who they might be, or who they know they could never be. It's hard to take it too seriously. But, words hurt. You know that from your other situation. And you might be feeling doubly hurt because you feel kind of betrayed by multiple people at once right now. If your girl has deleted her myspace and says she wants to be with you, the best thing you can do is give her a chance based on what she says and how she acts to you and with you. You have to decide if you feel you can trust her, based on her real actions and the vibe you get when you're with her, not solely based on some stuff you read on her myspace. If she actually betrays you and goes to hang with another guy, that's a different story. You don't need that. You're deserve better than that. And at this time of your life you deserve somebody who is mature enough to see that you need some unconditional love and support from somewhere. At least give her an opportunity to be that person for you. If she falls short, let her go. And find somebody more worthy of your time and affection.
2006-09-06 06:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take some time alone to evaluating about what's going on. And see how much love you have for her. If you still love her you will forgive her and move on. You can't expect you'll be able to forget what she done to you. There's no way you can't forget. But no body's perfect, you never know that maybe next time it's your turn to asking her forgiveness. If you love her, you just move on with your life. Don't mention about the past. But if she doing the same mistake. Leave her, she doesn't love you as much as you do.
2006-09-05 21:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by v4nil7a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro i hate to be the bearer of bad news but just cuz she deleted her myspace doesnt really mean they arent talkin ive been in the same s h i t my ex actualy cheated on me though i took her word for it and left it at that next thing i know im hearing from her sister and best friend that shes still messing around u should confront her about it and keep doing so if u cant get rid of the suspicion of it
2006-09-05 21:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like she was crossing a line...people always think it is just fun but it can lead to more. I can understand your hurt and if you cannot trust her it is best to let her go for the both of you. I don't think that there is much she could do to make you think it wouldn't happen again and you will always be questioning her and that's just not a good relationship for either of you to build on. Good luck.
2006-09-05 21:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you had no right to spy on her. If you feel the need to spy on her, then the relationship was in serious trouble to begin with. Relationships should be based on trust. I agree she souldn't have done that, but you shouldn't have spied. If you should stay with her or not depends on how willing the two of you are to working toward that mutual trust.
2006-09-05 21:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it depends.
is ur gf d flirty type?
i have few closefrends in myspace & there's this guy i really became close 2.. he wud say love u in his messages but dat's all a frendly luv..
i have a bf & he knws i hung out w/2 of myspace frends.. he didnt mind as long as i tell him.. he simply wana make sure i dnt get intimate w/any of them...
u shld have a clear agreement w/her. make sure everythin's platonic
2006-09-05 21:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...Actually, no I would leave her. She is not mature enough to handle what you want in a relationship, monogamy. But thats just me... You're going to have to forgive her if you want it to work though....You're going to ahve to let it go or it will always ome up at the worst times and make things worse.
2006-09-05 21:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Don't stop! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know its hard to forget when someone hurts you but in order to be able to have a good relationship you have to be able to move on if not the past will eat you up if you can forgive and forget then stay with her but if you cant then i suggest you move on it will only make you more miserable
2006-09-05 21:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances of something happening, is highly probable, look at it this way, if there has been a first time of persuance regardless the issue, who's to say there wont be other times ortemptations
2006-09-05 21:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Phaque tu" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know she was only flirting you have every right to feel hurt. But give it time and if your relationship is worth it, then give it another chance, try to not think about it.
2006-09-05 21:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋