Why does sex with a friend ruin the friendship?

Question

It always seems to happen doesn't it?

Answer 1

OK, from experience... sometimes it can work, (the friendship), but it's really REALLY hard, especially when one of you gets a new love interest. Plus, whenever you look at your friend, you think, "I saw you naked...oh crap, you saw ME naked...hmmm...did you like it, or are you going to ignore me from now on..." People really like to avoid the conversation after the sex. That's the only time I got my friendship to work out was because we both talked about it... here let me tell you how it went... *smile*... I go... "Ummm yeah..." He says... 'Yeah... that was OK with you that we did that, right?" I say, "Yeah, of course, ummm... so is this going to happen again?" He says, "I don't know, I guess we'll see... but I don't want a serious relationship right now..." I say, "OK, good, me neither... " And then we had sex a few more times over a span of a couple months while hanging out and still being friends and saw other people, and at one point I wanted more (of course, I'm the chick) but I realized we discussed it, I wasn't about to risk a long friendship because I "changed my mind" when he was perfectly explicit about his intentions. We're still friends, I'm married and he's engaged... he didn't go to my wedding, I don't want to go to his, I still have feelings for him, he still has feelings for me, but we are best as just friends, and we both realize that. We just can't be around eachother alone.... hehehehe...

Answer 2

Because it shouldn't be with a friend...It should be with a Husband or Wife.

Folks will learn one day, However, I'll never figure out why folk haven't learned already...the end always seem to be a TRAGIC one, rarely, "Happy Ever After".

It's a USE, LEAVE and LOSE encounter
At least if you're married you can't be considered used because the relationships are suppose to be, and no need to brag about how good it is (was)

Answer 3

Yes, it always does happen, because women always attach expectations to the sex they have. A woman does not have sex with a man expecting to stay 'friends.' Her feelings are always stronger, and she gets let down when the man (men are perfectly capable of seperating sex and emotion) does not reciprocate her feelings. Also, if you're really great friends and you go at it, the following conversations are destined to be awkward.

Answer 4

You are having sex with the wrong friend, or not having sex with the with the wrong person, whatever the case maybe. There are people out there who have sex indiscriminantly. Those are the friends you are looking for. Simply stated, they no longer trust you if you sleep with them and don't think that makes a difference.

Answer 5

Because it turns into a Relationship instead of Friendship

Answer 6

When you have sex with a friend, you are no longer a friend. You supposedly become lovers and you quit looking at each other as friends. After that, the relationship is never quite the same.

Answer 7

Simply becase sex w/ friend puts friendship out and sex relationship in.

Answer 8

Easy, because friends are FRIENDS and not in a committed relationship. Friends means you can date anyone else and it is okay but most likely the first person who leaves will be okay, but the person who was left behind feels jealous or abandoned.

Answer 9

frinds are thouse who have same type of toughts and others things. sex with frined is not a bad, but when one feel to have sex and other do not, then it can ruin the friendship.

Answer 10

yes the friendship changes to either Girlfriend or Boyfriend