2006-09-05 19:52:50 · 24 answers · asked by MERE T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is wise to focus on a mate that we are equally yoked with but the love of a godly mate can change things.
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2006-09-05 20:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pashur 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It talks about it in the bible. It says that you are to marry someone that is of the same beliefs as you. You are not to be unequally yoked. Meaning you can not marry someone that does not believe the same as you. It causes way to many problems in the marriage and in child rearing. Imagine when your children get older and you have a Christian mother and a Jewish Father? Do you celebrate Christmas or Hanuka?
Just doesn't work. You are left with very confused children. Not to mention that you are leading your marriage down a very rocky path. Again, if you have a Christan wife and a Jewish husband, the wife's birthday will never be recognized by the husband... And the wife will never be able to celebrate their anniversary. Tell me that wouldn't cause problems?
2006-09-05 20:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person should marry for love...but a Christian should marry a Christian...In other words, as Saint Paul says, "Be not unequally yoked"...So my best answer to you would be to marry a Christian whom you love...even if you have to wait for God to lead His choice for you to you. I promise, seek His guidance & you will live in peace with the person you love, because God will NOT send the wrong person...only the person who is right so that loves flows both ways between the two of you. Otherwise, you take a big risk that the marriage will not be a good one because you will have different values which can lead to discord, unhappiness, & eventally maybe even divorce.
How do I know? Because I have been there...twice if you please. I have now made the decision that if I were to ever marry again, the Holy Spirit would have to pick out my husband. One was an atheist, I found out later...He didn't go to church so I quit going & became very depressed...we married for the wrong reasons...The other was more interested in everthing except a compatible spiritual Christian life...In other words, he found other women very attractive, abused alcohol, & followed through with the women & partying...I loved him dearly...actually made a god of him, to no avail...Even tho I loved him so, the marriage finally blew wide open...so there went another marriage.
I now know that marrying for love does not necessarily work unless the love flows both ways and is strong enough to sustain you for better or worse. That is why marrying a Christian with your values whom you love & who has the same values & loves you in return is a very wise choice & is worth the wait if that so be...I really believe the Holy Spirit is working on my decision. My prayer is, and this is a good one for everybody if they are serious,..."Lord, if this relationship is from You, if this is the right person for me, then protect it & bless it. If it is not, block it, please". ...It will work...I know someone now who may be God's choice...the only thing I have to do is wait...& trust, knowing the the Lord wants only the best for me. Wait & Trust.
Best of luck for a successful marriage founded on Christian love.
Love to you, Nala
PS...God is a forgiving God & a loving God...I do trust Him...If it so be that it is best for me to be alone, then I will accept that also...Knowing that I CAN trust & that, as I said, He wants only what is best for me...No more 'hell' please !!!
2006-09-05 20:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many Christians would tell you to only marry another Christian, but personally, I think you should marry the person you fall in love with. By the same token, that person should respect you and your beliefs and not try to disuade you from having them or from attending church. If they happen to be a Christian, or you convince them to become one, then all the better!
Ultimately, you have to be happy with the person you marry, or the marriage will not last for long, so go with what you feel is right, not what everyone else feels is right.
2006-09-05 20:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bratfeatures 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did Jesus say on the subject? When He returned in the Personage of Baha'u'llah, He encourage us to marry outside of our nationality, race and religion, in order to bring about the unity of mankind, the brotherhood of man, the Kingdom of God on earth.
I know a Sri Lankan couple--the husband is Catholic, the wife is Buddhist--their children were raised with both religions--and they are so very special to have had the benefit of the Teachings of both religions.
If there is only one God, how can there be more than one religion. They are different chapters in the one Holy Book of God that has no beginning and no end. Spiritually, they teach the same thing; only, socially do they differ in that Christianity came after Buddhism, thereby bringing Teachings for a most recent day.
If you would read the Bhagavad-Gita, then the Old Testament, then the Buddhist Scriptures, then the New Testament, then the Qu'ran, the the Bayan, then the Baha'i Writings, you would see they all had the same Author--God. They were just written for succeeding times in the history of man.
It's impossible to marry outside of your religion, because all the religions belong to the same one God.
In the Baha'i Faith, we choose who we wish to marry; then, we ask the four (living) parents' consent to marry the one of our choice. If I did not receive their consent after one year, I would discontinue my commitment to the one I have chosen, and continue my search for my b'sherit (Hebrew) (intended one).
2006-09-05 20:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian that married an agnostic. I love my husband very, very much and although he is a terrific person, it makes it hard at times. Take Christmas, for instance...he doesn't want to celebrate it in any shape, form, or fashion. He feels compelled to buy our kids and grand kids presents but it makes him a little angry. I'm not sure if he's mad over the commercialization of Christmas or the fact that he's kind of trapped. Philosophically, I think it's better for a couple to agree on the basics. Also, I want to tithe and he doesn't. Easter is another example. We disagree about taking God out of schools, courtrooms, etc. If you plan on marrying someone that has a drastic point of view from you, make sure each of you know what you're getting into. Talk about all the subjects you can think of in detail and discuss how you are going to handle each occasion without getting mad at each other. If you're going to have children, I think your first priority would be to determine what you are going to teach them about God, religion, etc. How will you celebrate religious holidays?
2006-09-05 20:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God said do not be un equally yoked. And allow god to choose your mate because he knows you more than you know you and he can see in the future. Since god said this he already pre- destined a wonderful mate for you. he would not pre-destine a wolf for a sheep. Dont live by human advice dont ask if it is a good idea. You are commanded to live by the word of God and not human wisdom. So the question should say what does god say about marriage and love or mates. God came not just to save you but to give you life and give you life more abundantly.
2006-09-05 20:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Brown Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Scriptures say: 2Co 6:15
What harmony can there be between Christ and the Devil ? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? It is a wise person that chooses to obey the Scriptures & thus have alot more happiness & harmony in their lives!
2006-09-05 20:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by maranatha132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea to marry a christian.But as a christians,our main aim is to win souls for Christ.So then if achristian falls in love with an unbeleiver,the best thing to do is transform the person to Christ.
2006-09-05 19:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marry anybody you fell in love with, because God loves each and everyone of us
2006-09-05 19:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by LyFiSabLiSs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋