To end this "Why do guys cheat" debate...(well, maybe not) but if a guy is satisfied with what he's got, would he have a need to go elsewhere? I get so tired of hearing this, "Well a guy can still cheat even if he does love his girlfriend." Is that a fact?
If a guy has it all with the girl of his dreams, why screw it up? Explain please.
2006-09-05 19:13:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I preface my statements with this: I have never cheated, nor will I ever. I would rather break up with that person first and then pursue other interests... with that being said, I think most guys cheat because they are NOT satisfied with their relationship. Just because the girl thinks everything is perfect, doesn't necessarily mean the guy does too. Unlike women, guys tend to internalize things, and don't necessarily bring up things that might be bothering them. Quite honestly, if I guy cheated on you, he can say anything he wants to stay with you, but it still makes him a d***head. I think the question most girls should be asking is why do we keep taking these guys back? If I guy knows he can get away with it, you are only condoning it. If girls can live by these rules, guys wouldn't get away with as much:
1. If he beats me, he doesn't love me... leave him.
2. If he cheats on me, he doesn't really love me... leave him.
3. There are several BILLION people in this world... why are you going to get hung up over one guy?
2006-09-05 19:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by onin90 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear, I do not agree with you , this depend upon the girl partner as well . See , if partner think that sleeping together and sharing one roof is sufficient , is wrong . Both of them required some privacy and freedom also, for a while . If one understand this very small point and keep the home full of love / humor and pleasant surroundings , you will not find your person is even think to go out for a change . It is really in your hand only to keep him for ever without any rumor about his any other movements .
2006-09-06 02:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I'm afraid if i don't figure the whole mystery out, I will die alone. I'm 35.
Whenever I've really felt "in love" like you might expect romantic love to be, my woman at the time started to get annoyed by me and like me less.
Whenever I stayed strong and distant and remote, and didn't put a lot of emotional energy into the woman, but stayed flirtatious the woman wanted me that much more.
I got to feel that I couldn't win. I couldn't indulge my desire to be "in love". When I did, I surely ruined things. When I was distant but superficial and flirtatious, I attracted them. What was going on?
Something about what I associate with "love" freaks chicks out.
A guy can cheat but secretly love his girlfriend, but that's gotta kill him inside, I would guess. If he's really in love with his girlfriend she is going to get sick of him and probably cheat on him. It's happened to me 4 times now.
But if he holds back and rarely tells her he loves her, if he isn't really honest but really loves her deep inside, that's the best way to keep her. She is going to be in there always wondering what exactly he's thinking. This keeps a woman intrigued.
That's why a man should keep his feelings to himself as much as possible. Nature just makes it work that way. Sucks, especially because I grew up buying all the female bullshit about being honest and true and sincere and loving and all that crap that women walk all over.
So that's my answer :)
2006-09-06 02:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've never cheated regardless if I'm in a good or bad relationship. Or whether I'm happy or mad at my g/f. I couldn't live with the guilt even if I would never get caught. It is so selfish, hurtfull and disrespectful.
I have a personal code of conduct that I live by and it seems to keep me out of trouble.
2006-09-06 02:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question answers its self. If the guy cheats, then it's obvious that he DIDN'T have everything he wanted. To have everything he wants would not leave room for cheating. If the person cheats, there is something missing that he/she is looking for that isn't available.
BTW...it isn't just guys that cheat...females are guilty of this also. My ex-wife was slinging pu$$y out of both britches-leg when we were married & I tried to be the model husband. It ain't just the guys who are guilty.
2006-09-06 02:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by awarriorandapoet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men, and women who cheat are never happy. Wether or not they have a great person at home. Those type of people will always be looking for something more.
2006-09-06 02:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is often as simple as variety! You might like Mountain Dew, but sometimes a Coke just hits the spot.
2006-09-06 08:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex..........did it to be one of the guys.........it was available and offered while out with "the boys" kinda hard to turn down when your reputation used to proceed you. (all the while those egging him to do the deed, were after me to do it with them).
If men could only think about "regret" when someone is readily available there would be alot less cheating.
He still wants me back.....and "everything" was very good up until that point. He regrets it now.......but I don't regret leaving him.
Same old saying......you don't know what you got until it's gone!
2006-09-06 02:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Dear
I think as a matter of fact a guy will always stay with the woman of his dreams or with whome he intends to stay,,but its always the one sentence that makes the difference..
VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE.
Regards
2006-09-06 02:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by JUDEdaObscure 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i also would like an answer for the same question plese help if the guy has got everything he wants than why he turns to infidelity?
2006-09-06 02:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by pree_thecoolest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋