Are most children accidents?

Question

I have many friends who have more than one sibling, yet it seems none of their parents actually wanted more than one child.

Are most children accidents?

And if you have more than one child, why did you want so many? Aren't they a financial burden? How would you pay for college?

To the 4th poster, I was the only child between my parents (one has another from another marriage)..so yes, I was planned. Woo-hoo!

Answer 1

my personal oppinion?

no children are accidents.

parents who claim that there child is an accident is only saying that because they are down at that time.

there is nothing wrong with any children, some children get favoured more, but every child no matter what is loved by their parents even if they dont say so.

children are NOT the ones that are the accident,

sperm and ova mixing aint a accident thats their purpose.

the only accident is if the parent doesnt take precaution, its not the childs fault its the parent

Answer 2

I have three children. The first one was an accident, the other two were planned. My first born was an only child for 7 years before her oldest brother was born. Because she had spent so much time alone, I didn't want my son to go through the same thing so I had another.
Yes, children can be a financial burden, but the joy and love is worth every penny and more. The pride that one feels everytime your child does something new for the first time, even as ordinary as walking is a big thrill. And it is a thrill that you can get even when your child is an adult.

Answer 3

These days I don't think there are all that many accidents. Some people choose exactly how many years apart they want their children and exactly how many children they hope they can have.

I have one adopted (not because I couldn't have any but because he needed parents) and two non-adopted children. Yes, its true that with each child comes yet more financial burden; but many families have enough money and those who don't believe the children are worth the careful budgeting.

Many people believe that a child who has no siblings is too alone and will be far too alone later when the parents die. Many people believe a little group of children makes a family more than two parents and one child seems to. Many people wish to have at least one son and at least one daughter, and many times people would like, maybe, a couple of each; so that the boys will have brothers, the girls will have sisters, and everyone will have both brothers and sisters.

Sometimes, too, people have one child and are amazed at how much fun it is, how much they love him or her, and how happy they are to have this child. They have a great time enjoying their baby and toddler. When the toddler gets to be more pre-school age parents may think how they'd like to do it all over again because it was so wonderful and fun and great to have a baby or toddler. Many people with more than one child will tell you they loved the first one so much they wanted another one just like the first one (even if they know the next one will be different).
People may have one little boy and wish they could have a little set of two little boys or else have one little girl and want a set of two little girls. People have all kinds of reasons for preferring to attempt to "design" the family they think would be perfect.

Very often people would like to have more than they end up having too.

My personal opinion is that if a person wants to give the right attention to each child they need to space them well and limit them in numbers, but people have additional children for any or all of the reasons above.

More than one child means more work, more financial requirements, more attention, and more of everything; but it is also more of all the wonderful things about having a child in the house.

It may be difficult for parents who have trouble with parenting or for people without children to be able to understand, but children bring a kind of joy to day-to-day living and a depth to the soul of parents that only parents understand it really isn't a mystery as to why anyone with one child would have more.

There's someone I know who had 12 kids, and all but 1 has graduated college. Someone else I know had 6 kids, and their father paid cash for private colleges for each of them. With savings, investing, annual incomes, and school loans and grants and scholarships; there's a way to pay for college if someone wants to. Its easier for some families than others, but there are ways.

No. Most children are by no means "accidents".

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Anyone who says their children are an accident is bs. The parents are suppose to be the one responsible for the child. And if you don't want one then use protection. Don't blame it on the child.

Answer 6

Well I have three boys now ages 21,20,and 18 no they were not accidents.they are the best things to ever happen to me in my life i love them more than anything.And they were not a financial burden yes sometimes it was a little tough but we always made it through,and maybe if we didnt have them my life would not have been complete.None of my kids went to collage but they all make over 16.00 an hour they all have new trucks and are saving to buy houses now.they also still live at home so they can save to have all of lifes needs.

Answer 7

I wouldn't say most children are accidents. I know that my husband and I tried so hard to conceive our baby. And we would love to have more than 1, we even have them 'planned'. But accidents do happen, but they are good accidents. And no children aren't a financial burnden, yes they do cost, but thats why you plan them. That way you know you can support them to the best of your ability. And who says you have to pay for your kids to go to college. Make them take out a loan, they will appreciate school a lot more if they know they have to pay for it. Both my husbands parents and my parents made us pay for our own college and we both agree thats the best way to go.

Answer 8

All four of my children were surprises especially since three of the four were conceived while I was taking birth control pills! As for any "financial burden", he works days and I work nights so we can avoid childcare costs plus I own my own business as a personal buyer.

When I shop, I use tons of coupons and keep an eye out for sales and clearance items. I have also signed up with UPromise.com http://www.upromise.com so a portion of my monthly purchases that I pay for with my UPromise credit card goes towards a college fund. They also offer a portion of your online shopping (if you go through their site) and your gas purchases, to name a few, to go towards college as well.

It's tough sometimes, but it can be done.

Good luck!

Answer 9

NO child is an accident.....God creates everything and every baby wanted or not is apart of His Master Plan. GOD does not make mistakes........Those kids are here cause He wanted them here and its not the kids fault its the parents....they need to be more careful if they don't want kids.

Answer 10

Anyone who considers a child an accident is a liberal: Selfish.