I have had all of this anger inside with no release, I write songs and everything. For some reason that doesn't work. No one has ever given me a reason to "let it all out." I work in a place were I have to deal with balligerent drunk bums. I REALLY want to release it on them, but I am worried about losing my job and my control, I do not want to lose ALL control and accidently kill someone. What do I do? (no anger management)
2006-09-05 18:50:48 · 13 answers · asked by goode_times_die 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are still holding back some unforgiveness there somewhere. Perhaps you were abused, neglected or made to feel insignificant as a child.
Now, you want to reach back into your past and try to find the thread ends leading to your present anger. Once you do, you need to forgive the responsible person, or persons. Once you do, forgive yourself for holding it all in this long. This is truly the only way you'll achieve any lasting peace. Good luck.
2006-09-05 19:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am still dealing with that myself. I have found that talking out your feelings with some one you really trust can help. If you can't just open up them maybe a pastor would help. There is also mental health too. No, I am not saying you are nuts but our feelings can get us into deep trouble if we don't deal with them and like you said you are already concerned about killing someone if you were to let go of it on your job. So I would seek counseling. I can tell you it helped me cause they know how to give you the tool to deal with those kind of feelings inside. The main thing here is if you are really tired of feeling these aggressive feelings or not? If you are then it is up to you and only you to make changes by seeking help. After all we can't do everything alone all the time. I hope this helps you.
2006-09-05 19:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by dfw7xcrazy55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he IS three of the more driven/exercise nutty breeds out there rolled into one. I'd maybe throw in something like some of the kong puzzle toys, or see if there are any other puzzle type toys out there that might occupy him for a while. Another option - and it sounds funny, but it CAN give some relief, is if you can afford it, there are some ball throwers that can be set to a timed release, like for people to practice things like tennis serves. You could conceivably teach him how to retrieve the balls and put them in the bucket so they'd cycle through for the time you set :p At least it might give you SOME downtime! If all else fails and you feel you really can't handle him - contact one of the local S&R groups. With his energy and play drive, if he's not high strung, he sounds like he'd be a great candidate for the work since he sounds like he has high play drive, and you already know he can scent seek. Heck, if you decide it's interesting enough - see if there are any volunteer S&R units in your area and see what you'd need to do to make it a team effort.
2016-03-26 23:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the job is driving you this crazy then quit! Dont say you cant! You was looking for a job when you found that one wasn't you?
If your just richously pist off at the world , You might want to figure out why and fix it. My God! Your talking about hurting and killing people! What good would that do anyway other than get your A $ $ suede or in jail. Either way it would cost you big ! Then there you'd be pist all over again. Get a grip or get a new life !
2006-09-05 19:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many males find themselves in this group. Anger management is always a good idea! When you get in your late 40's or 50's, a great deal will leave you or it should become more manageable!
Drunks or not, they may suffer this as well as you. Most males can't explain it.
Believe it or not, this starts around puberty, and it is harder on some than others! It's a real bite. Believe me I know!
2006-09-05 18:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years is alot of time to hold it all in, but I know what you mean (abusive father). I turned to writing songs to let it all out, it helped, but you have to look within yourself and want to be better than that.
Try boxing, it will let you hit something and you can do it is hard as you want, and you get exercise. It's a great way to let go of frustration without pulverizing someone else, (unless you get into the ring that is!)
2006-09-05 18:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a punching bag, install it inside your room and at the end of the day, let loose at it until you sweat and feeling emotionally empty. After that, rest, take a shower, take a walk around the block and say to youself "What the hell for?". Bet you'd be smiling after that.
2006-09-05 19:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a gym and work out...... pretend that the punching bag is the face of the person who is causing you such pain and anger..... and even tho you may not want or think you need it, counceling is nothing to be ashamed of..... do you want to take the chance that you may hurt some innocent person, that just happens to be around when or if you loose control ???????? God bless
2006-09-05 18:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
exercise and find something that ur passionate about and replace that with the moments when u get so fed up. my oldest bro is like a raging mad animal sometimes. its fearful to think that one day what if his possible children end up having to see him like that. id say seak help in any form you can. you can change if ur willing to try.
2006-09-05 18:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by theskyispink v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medication...
2006-09-05 19:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋