I have had a crush on this guy for about 2years now & i can't get over him. He knows i like him but i doubt he has any feelings for me but everytime i see him i wish we were together what should i do?
2006-09-05 18:47:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop putting yourself in a position where you see him.
or
Have a fling with someone else.
2006-09-05 18:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are two options:
1. Never say anything and just pretend that you are ok being friends (i am assuming you are friends!), and wait until he gets a girlfriend, and then wish you would of told him earlier.
Or
2. Tell him that you have feelings for him and that you care about him, and ask how he feels! This is a very brave thing to do and you have to be confident in doing this, and you will have to be prepared if he does turn you down right in front of your face. But this is all part and parcel of life I am afraid.
Sometimes you have to go out of your "comfort zone" to tell people around you, how you really feel and think of them. I have learnt this the hard way, bottling up your feelings for someone for two years is along time.... and perhaps he has feelings for you too, but he is too shy/scared and wants to be seen as a "real man".
If you take the first option then you will always regret later on and ask yourself "What would it of been like if..." Life is too short for that.
2006-09-06 03:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I know exactly what you are talking about, you see I used to have a crush on this girl for like 4 yrs. Of course the person is already aware about your feelings, but they don't think much about it. So, I didn't do nothing about it as time went by.
My advise to you is try to start a conversation with that person as much as possible like try figuring out what he enjoys to do, hobbies, anything and then take it from there. The worst thing you can do is not trying and always wondering what if? So, don't repeat my mistake, i regreted it. Besides you got nothing to lose believe me, the world is waiting for you! Hahaa!
Good luck.
2006-09-06 01:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that one is really hard, I would say that I have be in a relationship for 8 years and always have been crushing on the person I was with before this 8 year relationship. I would drop everything and go with her right now. Really, I do not think you can.
2006-09-06 01:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Just reflect on your relationship with him for the past 2 years. Were you happy? Did he do anything to please you? Were you miserable when you were with him and found that your crush was not returned? Why the crush? What had attracted you to him, his looks? Is it logical for you to continue your crush on him?
Once you wake up, and I am sure you will, you will start to live your life and be rid of your misery. Life is short. Why choose a miserable life over a life of happiness? The choice is your to make. Only you can change it and not one else can do it for you!
2006-09-06 02:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most folks feel that way about someone in their lives! I do!
I don't believe you ever get over it!
If he felt the way you do, he would have already made a move to ask you out!
It seems like the rest of us, you have to go on with your life and keep it as a good memory!
2006-09-06 01:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there...although for half the population the crush is on a girl rather than a guy...unfortunately the only solution tends to be to reduce the part they play in your life.
2006-09-06 04:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by All the answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh.... Ask him. If he says no, then you know the answer, and can put him out of your mind romantically.
I've done it a dozen times. If he's not reciprocating the warm fuzzies... then it's probably not what you want. A girl likes to be doted on and splashed with attention. If he hasen't given that to you in the 2 years you've known him. You have one chance, and that's by asking. That's it. One chance. (or you could be persistant, and bug him all the time about it. either you'll scare him away or he'll get to know you better, and things could develop.)
2006-09-06 01:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a couple split up once, they cannot get over again. It is difficult. Find an another man.
Godspeed
2006-09-06 02:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him. You'll get sick of him real quick. I married my "Super Crush" after years of chasing him, we are now arch enemies. Crush are meant to stay crushes. Move on.
2006-09-06 01:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Deirdre S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋