How do I get over my ex-girlfriend (whom I still love even after 6 months)?

Question

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me 6 months ago and i'm still having a really hard time getting over her. Her reason for wanting to break up was never really clear. All i know is that one day she decided she didn't love me anymore. And so the truth is i still love her with all my heart. It's been 6 months already and I still feel just as bad as the day she broke my heart. I've talked to her only a few times since but i find myself wanting to contact her more and more. Now i've read a lot of advice saying i should cut off all contact with her. But i don't want to. I know i'm still holding on to her but i love her too much to let her go. I've had a girlfriend since then but i ended that after a month because it just reminded me more of my ex and made me miss her more. I feel like these feelings are never going to go away and that i will never be able to love another person in the way that i loved my ex. How do i get over her or should i just tell her how i still feel? Please help.

Answer 1

I know it's hard for you and maybe right now you won't believe me, but you will get past this. It hurts when we love someone and they walk out of our lives. It's hard to focus on anything around us and so many things remind us of that person. You are grieving for her right now and it's OK to grieve. As the days go on you will find it easier to think of her and not allow it to tear your heart out. I speak from experience and I too thought I would never love again, but I have since met a wonderful guy and when I looked back on my past relationship I now know the relationship I am in now is truly true love and he has made up for all the hurt I have been through. Sometimes people are only meant to be in our lives for a short season to help us grow and learn. Hold your love for her in your heart and remember the good times you had, but don't allow it to keep you from moving forward. Life isn't easy and sometimes it really stinks, but time is a healer of hurts and time is what you need to get over this. I pray all goes well for you and hang in there. You will get past this and tomorrow is another day.

Answer 2

well u see there is a 50/50% chance that u could get her back or have to leave her,now if u love like u say i guess u would jus have to wait till she notice wat she is missing juz like i say U NEVER KNOW WAT U LOST UNTIL U LOOSE IT so just wait till she realize inn the main time don't stop contacting her.the other 50% is that maybe she gave u something that u never had from anyone before and cos of that u wan her more,if she was your 1st if u know Wait i mean then that's a differ case cos that happens to Lot of people meaning its normal,but also love is like a ocean in different shores the wave u feel in one shore is differ from the other but they are all good love never dies so u can fall in love but its gonna be different from Ur 1st.do only thing i can say is we are like puzzles in a puzzle box and some puzzles mach with the right space and some don't some have slit different,if u say u love her go for it go slowly on her Thu as a friend keep contact but u should see some other people too when the time comes she will or may not.

Answer 3

Not knowing why she broke up with you is what is tormenting you and like most women she doesn't want to talk about it for a whole host of reasons that women agree with. She herself may mot know why. Cut off the communication with her. You may have to create as best you can (and for your own sanity) a reason that she might have broken up with you. The reason can be right or wrong and make her look bad, but this is an issue of emotional preservation. One you do that, you will slowly begin to date other women without the emotional baggage of your previous relationship. Healing a broken heart is a linear process and one of the most endearing qualities that a man can undertake.

Answer 4

I can't say for sure, but if you do tell her, be prepared for the worst. That way you will be ready for anything. If she responds positively, great! But if you tell her and she does not feel the same way, she may break contact with you.
It could go either way, but I'm guessing you need to do this. If you don't, you'll never know if there is/was a chance. If you do, just be prepared.

Honestly, I think your best option would be to move on, but his is for you to decide.

Sorry I don't have a more definitive answer and good luck.

Answer 5

I'm dealing with the same exact thing you're going through. My boyfriend did the same thing to me like your girlfriend did to you. I still can't get over it and it's been 7 months now. You just have to move on and realize it was not meant to be. Don't worry it'll get better, unfortunately it takes time for this to pass. Hang in there.

Answer 6

First, just accept its over.
Second, try not to think about everything related to her memory.
Third, avoid being alone most of the time.

There is more worthwhile in life to occupy our thoughts with than a girlfriend.

Answer 7

dont go back to her and tell her that what u feel, if u dnt want to get into a relationship again with her....divert ur mind and spend a lot of time with ur friends...that is what i've done to overcome the same problem faced by u..

Answer 8

Every time you think about her, squeeze your balls really hard. Eventually you'll associate her with pain and you'll stop thinking about her.

Actually, I've heard it takes two years to get over someone. So there's not much you can do.

Answer 9

IT WILL GO AWAY MAYBE IN 3 YEARS BUT YOU WILL REMEMBER HER. I KNOW IT HURTS BUT LET HER MAKE HER CHOICES IF YOU LOVE HER BE HAPPY FOR HER JUST TO SEE HER HAPPY. FOR THIS PROCESS IMAGINE YOU ARE MOURNING A DEAR FRIEND AND PRAY. GO SWIMING OR SOMETHING YOU LIKE TO DO. MAYBE YOU DONT WANT TO DO NOTHING NOW ANG YOU THINK YOUR LIFE IS OVER BUT NEVER TRY ANITHING TO HURT YOURSELF IS NOT WORTH IT

Answer 10

Not sure , i still love one from 17 years ago :( and yeah what pimp said