my 8 yr.old son is acting sick every day of school..nothing is working..he says he just misses me..can u help?

Answer 1

Is it possible that he is being picked on? Kids will sometimes say they are sick in order to avoid a bully. Ask the teacher to keep an eye open, if possible. Ask your son is he is being picked on. Tell him if he is (some kids will not talk about it) that you can come up with ideas on how to get the person/people to quit.

Answer 2

I did the same thing when I was young because I was being picked on and isolated. Talk to your sons teacher and see if s/he can keep an eye open for that. Enrolling your son in an after school program that intrests him could help him make friends and gain confidence. Things like scouts or church youth groups are great and not too expensive.

He may be struggling with his school work and is trying to avoid it. his grades may be fine but if he wants A and he's getting B or C's its very discouraging. Good luck!

Answer 3

A lot of times acting sick is a sign of being bullied, or maybe he can't see the board, he's behind his classmates, or is just REALLY shy. Ask him why he thinks he needs to act sick everyday since he's going to see you after school. Tell him you miss him too, but you want him to get a good education so that he can grow up to be smart.
Get his eye sight checked, he might need glasses and is ashamed or frightened by not being able to see.
Ask his teacher how his progress is. Is he behind in reading, or spelling, math?
Does he talk about any of the kids in his class? My kids mention specific names of the kids they play with, or "fight" with. Write those names down and ask his teacher how those kids and your son interact. Maybe he's too shy to make friends, or maybe they're picking on him. There are all kinds of things that could be going on with him. Just start with one, and keep eliminating them until you have no more. I'd say as a last resort, see a counselor. I try to "fix" problems before they get to that point. Good luck!! =)

Answer 4

Maybe he DOES miss you. Really. I am sure there are several times a day that you tell your co-workers or friends a trivial story about your child and think "I miss him". He is using "grown up" language to tell you what he is feeling.

I have a "date night"...and we PLAN for it and it gives each of my boys something to look forward to and it's NOTHIN BUT MOM! We exclude movies and the show, because we need "talking time". I have found taking them to a China Cafe and making a rule you have to use chop sticks for the 1st 15 minutes of dinner is a good challenge and awkwardly a fun game.

Car time can also be special...make it so. Life is busy, so slow it down. It only takes a moment to ask what your child brought home from school...show him what you brought home from work. Also, the lame ole grocery shopping can be fun. I give my boys a list and they are on a search and destroy mission trying to complete a simple(but fun) grocery list while I gather all the family stitches.(check their stuff though, you may end up with nothing but sugar)

Just make some YOU time for him.......

Answer 5

Ask him what is going on, and tell him that you are going to schedule a meeting with his teacher to see how he is progressing in school. It might be something simple like he can't see the board and needs glasses to something serious as he is being picked on. Either way, you need to be collaborative with the teacher and he needs to see that you and she/he (teacher) are on the same team to aid in his learning! You could ask him if carrying something of yours (handkerchief or something small to fit in his pocket) would help. Whenever he misses you, that little material thing will serve as a tactile reminder that mommy loves him and he can make it a few more hours at school. Good Luck

Answer 6

I don't think you need to bribe him with sweets or whatever, because then he will expect to be jollied out of every unpleasant situation. When my son (9) plays the sick card, and he obviously isn't sick, I tell him I'm very sorry but we all must do things that we don't want to. I tell him, Mommy has to go to work, and you must go to school. If you really feel sick, go to the nurse. (Then at least he has an out if, on the off chance, he is sick). Then when you see him later, play a board game before bedtime or whatever, but stick to your guns.

Answer 7

My boy also did that when grandparent come and stayover. he act sick(well...he's getting a bit sick from crying) and also complain about unhappy incident that happens in school. I checked with some of the teachers, but everythings is going on fine in school. After grandparent left, he become normal again. He just miss them too much and want to play with them when they are around.
so my point is talk to him. all the children need to go school. that's his responsibility as a child and you may give example of your duties and dad duties etc. Don't forget to spent quality time with him too. At their age, they need a lot of assurance, attention too.

Answer 8

I would guess that there's something wrong if he acts sick EVERY day. Maybe a bully, maybe his teacher. Take his problem seriously, and just the fact that you do will help him feel better.

Answer 9

Has something changed in the household? When I was growing up my family moved to a different state and I knew no-one so I did the same thing everyday. I got over it eventually.

Answer 10

Something tells me mom doesn't spend enough time with her son. Make a "date" to spend an evening with just him. Have him pick a restaurant, maybe go to a movie or rent a couple, "camp out" in the livingroom, pop popcorn, drink too much soda, eat megatons of icecream...Play the kind of games he likes to play. I used to do this with my daguther all the time, funny how as she got older she felt more comfortable "opening up" to me when I went to her level, I guess that's why her purberty was easier than mine ever was.