Datting a guy for 2 weeks, he make effort in meeting me for the total of 2weeks. But i felt i have done a wrong move in engage in sexual with him yesterday. Now i am having mixture of feeling, sad, confuse and etc...
I have just message him, but there isn't reply. Now i am in confuse stage if he has lost the thrill in me ?
He is 39 this year.
While i am in my 29 this year.
Don't know i just feel sad and confuse. What is happening to me ? Should i call him ? or wait for him to call me ?
2006-09-05 17:45:53 · 7 answers · asked by devil22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has just reply my message. Going for business appointment. Am i thinking too much, prehaps like what the gals say i am worry of being used. Sigh..
I know men look the chase, unfortunately i have given in after his repeated tries in getting on bed. Sigh..
Now i am lost don't really know what to do next. On the next few days he will be busy with his business and couldn't meet up. Which i have been told before going bed with him.
Yes i am worry of being used and as well as getting dump after that. :(
2006-09-05 17:59:05 · update #1
He called me actually on the very day. I guess problem lies on me, where by i am having insecurity. Or perhaps he really don't know i am feel insecure.
He is too busy in work, i only get to see him during the weekdays evening but every monday he will attend his badminton game with friends follow by late supper. At time other evening he will be with other friends for coffee.
Weekend he belong to his family as driver.. sigh..
He ask to be given time to adjust his daily schedule, coz he has been singlehood for years. I don't even know his friends and he has never invite me to his circle of friends gathering.. While i am too pride to request to join in. humh..
But today he was too busy that he forgetten to give me his daily calls. But on late evening, i received a sms from him. Apologize to me for being to busy.
I am happy to receive that coz at least he remember me when he finish his job. :)
I don't know what to do with the relationship..
Any guys around to give view
2006-09-07 02:51:08 · update #2
I just hope that the sexual activity you did with him was safe. I know, both of you were on the right age or shall I say mature age to be resposible enough in things that you guys deal with. But, its my request that next time you go with him, pls dont give him everything. First things first, try to know him better. What is your relationship with him? Sexual thing is for lovers. He loves you? Is he sincere with you? Try to study his inner intentions, dont get so impressed with the highfalutin words he's saying or simple things he's doing for you or petty stuffs he's giving you. Boys will try to please you until they get what they want ( not all ).
You had sent him message and he replied, you have done your part at least. That's enough for now. Wait and let him do the move to communicate with you. If he care and value you, he will get in touch with you, no matter what.
Wait until you prove to yourself that he's indeed worth all that you're giving and that he will give your life a deeper meaning with all the affection, respect and care that he owe you.
Well, final decision will of course comes from you. This is just a bit of advice. It's you who deal with it...until you find the answer to what's bothering you. I also dont know what you feel for him.
2006-09-05 18:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by SassyGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should call him to clarify things and tell him about your feelings. If he start to avoid you after this incident, then I m sorry to say that he is just making use of you to have sex. Normally if a guy really loved a lady, he will respect the lady's decision when it involved sex. But since it had already happened, ther is no point in crying over the spill milk. As you have mentioned that he is going oversea for business, wait till he is back from his business trip and have a good talk with himn to clear the doubts. I hope that things will work out well for you
2006-09-06 04:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you should call him... be casual and friendly and listen real close to what he does NOT say..... really pay attention to the conversation you will get the answer you seek..... and may I suggest that next time you get to know the other person before engaging in sex.... some times it is the challange they seek, and when met they move on to the next........ God bless
2006-09-06 00:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you feel bad about the sex! I think you are afraid that now you've been "used" and "rejected". Quite possible. Don't call him, that will only make you seem more available. Men love the chase. The chase is usually "sex" - unfortunately. If you give in too soon - they win - and they don't give it chance! Don't call him, if he is interested he will call you - guaranteed!
2006-09-06 00:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy...Its already happened.DONT call him.Wheather he likes you or not, let him make the move.Bare in mind, if things are yours...its yours.Hope you find peace...God Bless
2006-09-06 00:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become a telepath, or learn to communicate your needs better.
2006-09-06 00:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are duped by him. You are being used.
2006-09-08 10:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Grace is a liar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋