How can i learn to like myself.?

Question

i constantly feel like i am not good enough, that i have nothing to offer as a person, and that i would be better off not living.
what are some things i can do to learn to like myself?

yes i have depression and i am on medication

Answer 1

Don't give up on yourself. You just need to soul search about your inner most qualities. What are your strengths, weaknesses, skills, hobbies, etc. You might be in a rut now, but maybe you should branch out into unexplored areas and try something new or adventurous. Maybe travel if you can. Study something new. Keep in mind, no one is perfect and you are what you make of yourself. Think of what you think is the ideal person and strive towards that. You have your life ahead of you, and take each day to learn a little something new. : )

Hope this helps, or email me if you need help. : )

Answer 2

I advise you enter mental health counselling. That person can help you explore why you don't like yourself. Working through those issues can free you from these bad thoughts.

Remember that there is a reason why you are here on earth, and so leaving early isn't an option. You can get help with medications since depression is a chemical problem, not your fault. YOu can make small changes that make you feel better.
Most of all monitor what you say to yourself inside your head.

When you do something right do you congratulate yourself? Do you berate yourself when you think you did something wrong"? Tell yourself over and over you are doing your best and that is all the world can expect. Is your best effort in that moment. It will change moment to moment.

If you don't like your appearance, then get a new hairdo, or exercise, or simple things like that. The small things add to your self image and you can build on them.

Compliment others on their work without adding ''i wish i could,,,,or you can do...and i can't." If you can find good things about others then it starts comign back to you.

Someone long ago taught you to not like yourself. DOn't let them win by giving up. Show them up by triumphing over their stupid message to you. You have RIGHTS, and you have the right to be healthy and happy.

Get help! The library also has lots of books to read on the subject.
I sincerely wish you all the best.

Answer 3

To learn to like yourself is a problem I am still struggling with..
I have a conditon called unipolar..It's like bipolar but only on the low range..
So I am usually tragic...

People will say to you "Learn to really listen To what others have to say about you. You will probably find that a lot of people think very highly of you.."
Often this doesn't help a depressed person. You think..."Well I'm sorry, you can't really see me or my problems.
I am feeling so...icky. I might loOK ok on the outside, Like a functioning adult. But I'm not"
I have the same problem most of the time...

At times like these:
I will write a list of the things I am good at.
Write in a journal or blog (even if it's all negative..It's bad energy you are getting out)
Talk to someone that makes me laugh...
Make myself useful to another person eg: weeding the garden for a neighbour ect
plan and or preparing a dinner or lunch for a friend,loved one or yourself...(cause you're worth it!)
Read a favourite book.

This might sound like hollow advice. It's so hard to pull yourself outta a rut sometimes.. Just take it one day at a time.

If worst comes to worst, I will watch the Jerry Springer Show and think "Thank god my life isn't that bad!! At least I am not in love with my mother's, sister's goat."

YOU are Beautiful, even in your pain...
: )

Answer 4

Focus on the good things about you. Write down a list of positive things about you, whether it'd be the talents you have, or characteristics that you like about yourself. Even if you think you are not worth anything, you are. Everyone is special. Maybe you are that caring person who is always there when a friend is in need of some comfort.

Talk to friends and family that you trust, they can always help make you feel better. It is these people that make your life worthwhile and happy.

I hope you feel better.

Answer 5

Please don't be turned off by this-give it a try. Read The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren-it is all about how each one of us is put on this earth for a purpose. It is also about the fact that it is not all about you-you are not the focus-when you realize that you are here for a bigger purpose than just what you think, that you do influence and matter to others and God, it is very enlightening. To take the pressure off yourself that you are putting yourself through, and find a higher source of strength, purpose and unconditional love, is awesome! I really hope this helps-I still struggle with those self-hate thoughts that can surface, being overly critical of myself, but to remember that God created me exactly as he wanted me to be, and that he loves me unconditionally, is the way to freedom from the situation you are in.

Answer 6

It's not something you can "teach" yourself per se. It's just something you need to accept. I know that's hard, as Ive dealt with those feelings before, but the only way I came through them was to realise that: F-ck yes! I am who I am, and if other's think that isnt good enough, or think I have nothing to offer, well, f-ck them.

Im sure you have plenty to offer the world, and Im sure you ARE good enough. Believe me, you are NOT better off dead, that's one thing I know, about you, and everyone.

Answer 7

I feel the same way sometimes myself. Maybe you are a little depressed. Talk to your family doctor and ask him if an antidepressant would be good for you..They take a few weeks to work, but it's worth it to feel better.

Answer 8

So, whose standard are you trying to live up to? Your own? I mean are you depressed because you can't possibly achieve your own unattainable levels...or someone else's? I almost died 18 months ago and it gave me a new view of life...I really feel that everyday is a gift...YOU know I sometimes have to remind myself of that but it always works for me in the end. You only get one chance at life...you know my mother used to say to me.."it's your life and you are responsible for your own happiness'...so if this is my one chance at life then I'm gonna give it my best.....Hope I'm not sounding like I'm preaching at you..I just think that you really have so much to offer..and I care.

Answer 9

You learn by DOING. Don't wait around for a feeling. Take an action. ACT like a person who likes herself. ACT like a person who is self-assured. Fake it till ya make it. Move your body, and your mind will follow.

Love, Jack.

Answer 10

Have you been diagnosed with depression, manic depression, or any mental illness? If not I think you should see a Dr. A chemical in balance is treatable and today mental illness isn't stigmatized like before.