well im 18 and he's going to be 28 in nov. 5th and i was just wondering if thats a good thing or a bad thing
2006-09-05 17:20:00 · 17 answers · asked by loca16_4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you guys really love each other, age shouldn't really matter. All people need is love, and it should be able to overcome all obstacles.
2006-09-05 17:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr Dru sez cut the age of the older person in half and add seven and that is an appropriate difference. He should be dating a 22 year old.
The problem is you are in different stages in life.
I dated a 19 year old when I was around 28. She was much more mature than my next girlfriend who was a few years older than me. But the fatal flaw in our relationship was the different stage thing. We really did have something good going but for that.
I say give it a try if you like but be aware.
2006-09-06 00:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Bad" is a very objective thing.
In the eyes of the law, it's not bad. You're legal.
In pure relationship terms, it may turn out to be a bad thing in the long run: he's done a lot more than you, probably has a wider world view, and may well have different interests... but who can tell? It might work out, it might not. We all deal with that uncertainty in relationships, age difference or not.
All relationships have the potential to turn bad. All you can do is enjoy it while it's good, and if you're lucky it'll stay good!
2006-09-06 00:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Chasiufan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good thing if he behaves like a 28 year old one. Most of the time those guys are somewhat established and ready for a serious relationship. Beside having some sex experience which is a good thing also. 10 years is nothing. Go for it!
2006-09-06 00:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this may sound kinda weird...but i'm gonna guess that you have had problems with your father in the past...or didn't have a good relationship with him... ussually if a girl goes for a guy thats more than 6 yrs older than she is... well she is subconcessly looking for male replacement of her father... not that you want this guy to be your father...but you subconcessly are seeking to feel that gap you lost with your father...and are lookin for it in an older companion :)... maybe not....maybe you had a great relationship with your dad.... but this is a proven fact...Psychologically speaking that is... but really if this is not true..then maybe its ok...as long as you are doin it for the right reasons... and not cuz he has money... that will only lead to divorce... trust me... have lots of friends that happend too... and really i have a friend right now that is crazy about her friend taht is 8 years old than her.... and her dad left her when she was about 9... so that theory does apply to her...but i'm not sure if it will to you... but really think about it... 10 years is a big difference... you are gonna change more and more in the next 5-6 years.. and you'll more than likely be a completely different person in the next 2-4 years.. so think it through... :) -Vaiofox "Dr. Phil"-
2006-09-06 00:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Vaiofox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how he treats you. Is it like an equal partner in the relationship, or does he treat you like a child or just a sex object. What are you looking for, someone to love, or just someone to take care of you, and to pay your way? These are the questions to start with. It's up to you where you go from there. Good luck.
2006-09-06 00:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good or bad what does it matter what we think. You are the one dating him not us. If you are happy then that is all that matters. BUT is sounds like you don't approve otherwise you would not have asked the question!!!
So you must think it's a bad thing, if so it's time to move on
2006-09-06 00:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha Ha Ha I'm 35 and I'm head over heels in love with a woman who's 20. Go figure
2006-09-06 00:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't just see any wrong with that age gap...what is important how sincere both parties in thier relationship. Age is just a number afterall, so it doesn't matter...the attitude and truthfulness is one thing you must well observe not the age... don't you know that mature person love better (i just presumed he's matured enaf having that age)
2006-09-06 00:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both..good because he is more mature, more experiences and employed (i hope) you can learn from him
bad maybe if your likes in music, crowd and friends are different..can cause friction.
but if you both learn to "give and take" it should work.
my brother married a woman 10 yrs his junior. they have been married for 12 yrs.
2 friends of mine married to older guys and have been married for 25 yrs. good luck
2006-09-06 00:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋