help!!!! My 5yr boy is stealing and lying?

Question

Need help my 5yr boy has started lying at school and stealing.
He got caught stealing some ones lunch and his excuse was my mum don’t make me lunch which is so not true who would send there kid to school with out lunch any so I thought it was because they had nicer lunch than him, so I made sure he had a lot a food and all yummy to eat but didn’t work he still told the teacher that I didn’t make him lunch so the teacher had to make him some. And every now and then he brings something home from school that’s not his and has no reason for having it. It thought it was attention seeking but not I give him my full attention I’m at my wits ends and its so shame when I hear from other mums that my son doesn’t get feed
How do I stop him lying and I don’t approve of beating my kids vilnes is never the way

sorry cant spell Violins

i have punished him he has no tv no toys and just a bed in his room at the mo and the school has only 20 kids in it and the teachers say hes not get picked on and his dad is around he wants to chop off his fingers its getting that bad(but he wont but u no what i mean)

Answer 1

Beat on the brat,
Beat on the brat,
Beat on the brat,
With the Baseball Bat
Oh yeah,
Oh yeah,
Oh oh oh...

Answer 2

why not really scare the sh*t out of him don't beat him just ask the security gaurd at school or the principle to call the cops next time he does it or if you know a cop ask them to go to school that day and watch if he isn't eating pbj for lunch that you packed him then have the cop arrest him and take him down to jail even if it is until you get there they will have him crying and will never do that again also you will be teaching other kids that it is not right to steal in the process and i bet your son will stop stealing if that doesn't work then beat him cause if the cops and getting srrested cant change him then you need to do some searious training at home I am sure most cops will be willing to do this for you if you explain to them that you have tried everything and are at a lost and you don't want him to be a theif latter in life if a cop know s that they are helping someone change now while they are young it will mean they wont ever see them again and don't worry if they book him it is only a misdimeaner and will be off his record by the time he turns 18 good luck and hope it works i know it takes curage but believe me he will be scared did it with my 6 year old girl who had a simular problem and she doesn't even think about taking without asking now good luck also since it is so close to halloween you could rent a cops uniform and have a friend who your son doesn't know like some one who you work with to go and act like a cop just remember the hand cuffs good luck

Answer 3

Look, this has a very simple solution, ranging from just a sit down talk, up to more serious punishments that do not include physical violence. You should just talk to your son, tell what is so wrong about lying and stealing, give him examples like, how would you like it if i took your favorite toy away? or your lunch away? You should also talk to his teachers and other mothers about the problem and apoligize for any inconviniences your son has caused. You should ask their input on this as well. Now, if he persists, keep having talks with him. If he persitst still, start by taking away anything in his room except for his bed and drawer to keep his clothes. Do this gradually and explain to him that he will get all of his things back when he stops lying and stealing. Another good way to do this is lie to him when he asks for something that is not essential, like a peice of candy, a toy, or anything else. Tell him once that you will give it to him. If he asks again, tell him you lied, and then explain to him how bad he feels right then and there. Make him undestand that whenever he lies or steals he makes other people fell like him. You should also speak with a child counselor or phycologist, they can have valubale information that you can use to solve this problem. Good luck and hope this helps.

Answer 4

what "seems" like a punishment to you might not be a real punishment to him. That might be why the "no tv" isn't working. If you have a friend in law enforcement it might help to set up a scenario the next time he comes home with something that is not his. Humiliation (I know, I hate to do it too, but will in extreme circumstances). If my child walked out of a store with something I didn't pay for then i would march him RIGHT BACK in there and make him return it--as embarrassing it is for me to do have to do that I have to swallow my pride and do it. As far as him stealing lunches etc. I would send money to the school, and a note to his teacher telling her that he is eating AT SCHOOL in the cafeteria and if he has a lunch then she is to intervene. Teachers can't be parents to our children, but in school--they must be the watchful eye. Give him STRICT chores to do at home and a routine to follow. My 5 year old responds well to routine chores. good luck!

Answer 5

<< every now and then he brings something home from school that’s not his and has no reason for having it.>> And did you make HIM return it to the owner at that time? Sounds to me as if this child has been given too much. Too many privileges without earning them. Start by taking away the television, computer, video games and leave him with just books and a few toys in his room besides his clothes and bed. IF he wants time to watch television he has to EARN it by behaving...IF he wants time to play video games he has to EARN it by behaving. If he doesn't behave he doesn't get these things. Of course he isn't going to be too happy about that but it's the only way to fix the problem you more than likely created yourself.

Answer 6

Ok this is one major issue. And to anyone saying "talk to a psychologist" thats really just hippy babble. The child doesnt sound like he is mentally ill. Ya go to a Dr. If your sick, not for a discipline issue. It sounds more like you are trying too hard to not make him really feel bad. If taking toys and all away isnt stopping him, then he needs a trip over mom's knee to learn a real lesson. Sorry to say it mom, but there are times when a child needs a good old red rear end to learn a lesson.

Answer 7

hi you may not agree with me but this is attention seeking that why he does this i went though 6 month of parenting class i am a single father of 2 girls of 4-5 my daughter use to steal candy from the store to get attention.what i surjest you to do is when he come home and you find out he is stealing or lying take him to his room take a way video games,TV,all of his favorite thing he like or want to do put him in his room he is going to scream and cry then you go in the room and sit him down on the bed and explain to him how does it feel when i take away thing from you like your video games or TV,know you know how other people feel when you take away from them or lie to them and you need to make him to do some chore around the house like pick up book and clean up his bed room and keep on him constley
about this this well set standard in his life this is call tuff love and stay on him for at least a month of this every time is steal or lie to you but what every you do dont back down or give in to him if you do then he well know how to control you instead of you controlling him.

Answer 8

Beating a child is not the same as spanking a child. It's time to give some tough love. It is better that your child learn not to steal and lie at an early age. Can you bend an adult/full grown tree? No, it is impossible. As the bible says, "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6

Train your child now...if you have to spank him, spank him. Do not "beat" him. There is a difference!

Answer 9

we all take at least once in life, however as a parent who remembers the time she took something not belonging to her, the belt was in order and I never did it again!

of course you could try taking one of his most prized possessions or take away anything that is fun so he will get the idea, but i believe a spanking (not hitting) is in order!
nip it in the butt dear!

i'd rather it hurt him now, than later when he's in jail! (this hurts you too, so which one would you rather pick?)

as for lying, tell him if he doesn't steal anything for a whole week, you will take him to his favorite place....and then when the week is up and he was good, don't take him! (he will get the hurt he caused you and understand).

Answer 10

Have someone do it to him when least expected and with something he loves to eat, he will then see what it feels like.
Then make an extra sandwich and make him return it to the one he stole it from.
It worked for me. Everyone is different but is worth the try.

Answer 11

I feel there may be a deeper reason for this behavior. I would try talking to your pediatrician about this. the problem could be something that had happened to him out of your care. or something that is disturbing him and he is unable to express his feelings in a way you understand. If the Pediatrician cant help you he may be able to refer you to a child psychologist. I am sure one of them will be able to get to the bottom of it and help.